335: Kevin Systrom | Life Lessons from an Instagram Founder Part One

Is your mean drunk sister really the best choice to care for your dad while he's going through the early stages of dementia? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday: Is your mean drunk sister really the best choice to care for your dad while he's going through the early stages of dementia? Can someone who was abused during involuntary commitment receive anonymous therapy to work through their trauma without the therapist knowing their identity or reporting them to the police if they disclose suicidal thoughts? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!] How do you politely (and effectively) get it through your annoying ex-employee's skull that he no longer works for you and shouldn't show up to your wine bar six days a week? How can you help your good-hearted but socially anxious and disheveled friend overcome their self-defeating behaviors and find romance? A listener shares how our very own Jase's story in episode 881 helped them unload a long-time mental burden with the help of a good friend. Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/907 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 Loka 20231h 12min

Learn how to optimize decision-making, gain competitive advantage, and live more intentionally through clear thinking with Farnam Street's Shane Parrish. What We Discuss with Shane Parrish: Clear thinking equips you to identify transformative moments and adjust your response in the critical space between stimulus and reaction. Despite seeing ourselves as life's main characters, many of us operate on autopilot, guided by ingrained behavioral defaults shaped by biology, evolution, and culture. In our lowest moments, we react without thought, often missing the chance to engage in reasoning. Conversely, at our best, we identify these moments and employ our full capacity for reasoning. Your options are defined by your position in ordinary moments. A good position offers abundant and improved choices, while a bad one confines and diminishes options over time. Learn how you can optimize decision-making, gain competitive advantage, and live a more intentional life through clear thinking. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/906 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Loka 20231h 15min

Who are the key players in Sudan's new civil war, and what's the "best" way this can play out? ICRC's Dr. Gasim Mohammed takes us behind the scenes!Welcome to another one of our "Out of the Loop" episodes, where we dig a little deeper into fascinating current events that may only register as a blip on the media's news cycle and have conversations with the people who find themselves immersed in them. On This Episode of Out of the Loop: Sudan is currently in a civil war between two factions of the military: the Sudanese Armed Forces (SAF) and the Rapid Support Forces (RSF). The SAF is led by General Abdel Fattah al-Burhan, who led the military coup in 2021 that ousted the civilian government. The RSF is led by General Mohamed Hamdan "Hemedti" Dagalo, who is wanted by the International Criminal Court for war crimes in Darfur. This latest civil war in a nation accustomed to conflict has triggered a humanitarian crisis, leading to the displacement of millions who urgently require food and medical assistance. As a fledgling democracy rich in resources but economically struggling, Sudan is a test case for whether democracy can take root in the Arab world. While the current civil war undermines this case, what's the best way this can play out for the people of Sudan — and the world? What can we do to help? And much more! Connect with Jordan on Twitter, on Instagram, and on YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on an Out of the Loop episode, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/905 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

3 Loka 20231h 9min

How do you overcome your abusive father's harassment and protect yourself from his unhinged, unwelcome intrusions in the future? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you overcome your abusive father's harassment and protect yourself from his unhinged, unwelcome intrusions in the future? Should you endure the discomfort of working alongside a sleazy colleague who sleeps with every woman he can, or actively seek new employment despite being a few months away from your degree? Should you step down as best man for kicking a disrespectful jerk of a guest out of your friend's bachelor party? You assumed you and your significant other of six years would eventually marry, but since neither of you wants kids, you've been told there's no point in "getting the government involved" in your lives. Is it time for you to cut your losses and search for someone who is willing to make a real commitment? If your feathers have been ruffled by something we've said on this show, is it possibly a sign they were in need of being ruffled? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/904 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

29 Syys 202355min

What makes rational people believe irrational things? For that matter, how do we know we're the ones being rational? Misbelief author Dan Ariely explains! What We Discuss with Dan Ariely: Why some of our family and friends we once considered rational have succumbed to "misbelief" — they doubt widely confirmed facts and wholeheartedly buy into bizarre conspiracy theories that wouldn't pass muster in an elementary school science fair. Why misbelief has a universal appeal to human beings on both sides of the political divide, and how understanding the psychology behind it helps us diminish its impact. How misbelief campaigns are often ignited by people who operate in bad faith for power, fame, and money, but the majority of people who fall for their grift (and spread it) are victims who require empathy, not judgment, to break free. Dan shares the psychological toll of receiving death threats from conspiracy theorists who believe he's part of some sinister global cabal intent on decimating the human population. How cultivating resilience works as a "vaccine" — appropriately enough — to misbelief in ourselves and others. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/903 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Syys 20231h 25min

Tired of constantly craving what you don't have instead of being satisfied with what you do? Scarcity Brain author Michael Easter is here to help! What We Discuss with Michael Easter: What is the scarcity brain that helped humans evolve to run the planet, and how does it work against us in the context of the modern world? How the scarcity loop operates like a "serial killer" of motivation to push us into repeat behaviors that can be fun in the short term, but have the potential to harm us in the long term. What causes us to manufacture the scarcity loops that can ruin our lives with minimal prompting — and what can pigeons teach us about how the scarcity brain processes gambling? How we can break these scarcity loops when they're so entrenched in every aspect of our behavior. How scarcity loops can be gamed for positive benefit. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/902 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Syys 20231h 23min

Your lawn may be your pride and joy, but is there an environmentally friendly alternative? Join us in the weeds with Michael Regilio on Skeptical Sunday! On This Week's Skeptical Sunday: Lawns are a symbol of American culture, but they have significant environmental drawbacks — including water wastage, pesticide use, and habitat destruction. The origins of lawns can be traced back to British aristocracy, who sought to emulate Italian landscape paintings with vast, manicured lawns around their mansions. Lawns in the United States became more widespread after World War II, with suburban developments like Levittown contributing to their popularity. Noise pollution and the emission of greenhouse gases from lawn care equipment are on the rise in a landscaping industry that pulls in over $100 billion per year. Transitioning to alternatives like xeriscaping, native gardens, or even painting brown lawns green can reduce the environmental harm caused by traditional grass lawns. Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know! Connect with Michael Regilio at his website, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube, and make sure to check out the Michael Regilio Plagues Well With Others podcast here or wherever you enjoy listening to fine podcasts! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/901  This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals  Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Syys 202335min

Your openly swinging friends brought a third into their relationship, and you worry about how it's affecting their kids. Welcome to another Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You're concerned about your friends' unconventional swinging throuple lifestyle and its potential impact on their children. How do you check in without seeming judgmental? Pregnancy-related fatigue has you struggling to balance your professional and personal life, and the guilt of underachievement is bringing you down. What do you do when life gets in the way of your own expectations? Your partner plans on ditching responsibility for his ballooning student debt because he's not optimistic he'll ever be able to pay off the predatory terms he agreed to when he was younger and ill-advised. While you morally agree with his stance, you wonder what your obligation would be if you remained together and it came time to merge accounts. [Thanks to certified financial planner David Gilmore for helping us with this one!] You filled in for your manager during her eight-week vacation, built strong connections within the company, and gained the respect of your colleagues while stepping up to the role. Now that she's back, how can you use this valuable experience to prove you're ready for more responsibilities (and a bigger paycheck)? [Thanks to executive coach and From Start-Up to Grown-Up author Alisa Cohn for helping us field this one!] Due to a previous marriage to an abusive alcoholic, your partner is intolerant of being around people who are even modestly intoxicated. How can you ask him for a little grace and freedom to celebrate your son's upcoming wedding without disrespecting his boundaries? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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