EP206 - Are You Dating A Sexual Narcissist? with Dr. Kathryn Klement

Welcome to episode 344 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Melanie Curtin. In this episode, we discuss her study on sex problems and experiences with 3000 participants, highlighted the top issues faced by both men and women in their sex lives. For women, pain and difficulty in reaching orgasm were common concerns, while premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction were prominent issues for men. The study also revealed how communication about these challenges played a crucial role in sexual relationships.  Melanie is a sex researcher and men’s coach with a Master’s in Communication from Stanford University.  She is a columnist at Inc. magazine, and has been published or seen on TODAY, Huffington Post, Forbes, Business Insider, The New York Observer, and more.  She has been coaching men for over six years, and specializes in bringing a woman’s perspective to men, so they can connect and succeed with women in fun, inviting, and meaningful ways that lead to fulfilling sex and relationships.     In this episode, you will hear:  A look at Melanie’s Curtin study on sex problems and experiences The issues the study looked at and how people faced in their sex lives How women's top sex problems were pain and trouble orgasming Why men faced insecurities about their performance Understanding sexual intimacy and challenges faced by men in relationships How the fear of not getting an erection can lead to erectile dysfunction Why men may avoid physical intimacy if they fear performance issues How delayed ejaculation can be related to emotional safety How men can reclaim their power and address the "nice guy" syndrome The need for healthy boundaries and personal growth  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Listeners Survey https://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

25 Jul 202346min

Welcome to episode 343 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Suzannah Weiss. In this episode, we discuss the growing popularity of ASMR in the realm of sex and sexuality, ways to incorporate ASMR into your sex life and additional resources for further exploration.  Suzannah Weiss's writing on gender, sexuality, love, and social justice has been widely published across various platforms. With over 8,700 articles to her name, her work has appeared in notable publications such as The New York Times wedding section, Glamour, Teen Vogue, Vice, Complex, Refinery29, Bustle, The Washington Post, and New York Magazine.   Aside from her writing career, Suzannah is also a sexologist and AASECT-certified sex educator. She offers private coaching and courses to help individuals enhance their sex lives and relationships. Additionally, she provides mentorship for writers, consulting for PR professionals, and works as a birth doula.   Suzannah holds a Bachelor of Science in Cognitive Neuroscience and a Bachelor of Arts in Gender and Sexuality Studies, Modern Culture and Media from Brown University. Her diverse background includes experience in tech marketing, scientific research, and academic publishing. In her spare time, she enjoys writing poetry, erotica, and memoirs, and has multiple books in progress, with the first set to be released in 2024.    In this episode, you will hear:  Understanding more about ASMR (Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response) How it’s associated with sleep and relaxation but is gaining popularity in sexuality Ways to incorporate ASMR into sex life such as whispering in each other's ears Looking at the potential benefits of using ASMR during sex such as relaxation How you can determine if you enjoy ASMR or not Suggestions for introducing ASMR to a partner Recommendations for using specific toys and vibrators with low settings How there is no specific gender differences found in ASMR preferences Why experimentation, communication, and consent are key for ASMR  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

18 Jul 202320min

Welcome to episode 342 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Alicia Davon to the podcast. In this thought-provoking conversation we focus on the significance of sexual tension within long-term relationships, the conscious scheduling of pleasurable moments, and a willingness to embrace novelty in all its forms.  Alicia Davon is a highly accomplished individual, possessing a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a specialized focus on exploring and understanding women's romantic and sensual expression. Her academic journey and professional background led her to become a trained therapist, equipping her with the necessary skills to make a positive impact on people's lives.   Before encountering her partner Erwan, Alicia was already making a significant difference by leading numerous women's groups. These groups were entirely dedicated to empowering women to embrace and enhance their pleasure and find fulfillment in various aspects of life, be it in their careers or relationships.   It was around 15 years ago that Alicia's path crossed with Erwan's, and this encounter proved to be a transformative one. They soon joined forces, combining their knowledge and expertise to create something truly remarkable - The Pleasure Course. This unique course has had a profound influence on the lives of thousands of individuals, guiding them towards achieving their ideal and fulfilling love lives.   In this episode, you will hear:  The importance of sexual tension building in long-term relationships. How Sexual tension is the presence of desire, turn-on, and romantic interest Why many couples face challenges due to getting stuck in routine Alicia advises acknowledging the issue and discussing it openly with the partner Prioritizing fun and connection without distractions for better pleasure Try new and different things to bring novelty and excitement to the relationship How novelty doesn't always mean extreme acts; it can be romantic gestures Cultivating desire is possible through open communication, scheduling pleasurable time, and embracing novelty.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Bucket List https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-sex-bucket-listbtac1eu8 Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

11 Jul 202335min

Welcome to episode 341 of Sexology Podcast! Today we start our summer series on enhancing intimacy and exploring novelty in your sexual life.   In this episode, we look back on previous episodes and embark on a journey to ensure you have the most exciting and sexiest summer ever, emphasizing the often-overlooked importance of novelty in long-term relationships and discussing the benefits it can bring to your connection with your partner.   Throughout this series, we'll be rubbing shoulders with experts who have unlocked the secrets to a fulfilling and passionate connection. They will impart their invaluable advice and share practical tips to guide you on this enthralling path of self-discovery and rekindling the spark with your beloved.   But wait, there's more! As a token of gratitude for you, our cherished listeners, we've prepared an exclusive PDF packed with tantalizing information. This gem, which would typically be reserved for our premium programs, is now yours to download for free! So be sure not to miss this golden opportunity to elevate your sensual experiences to a whole new level.  So, get ready for a thrilling exploration of enhanced intimacy and sexual discovery as we break free from sexual stagnation and embrace new experiences together.   In this episode, you will hear:  Why Novelty is important in long-term relationships  How trying new activities outside the bedroom can improve sexual experiences Learning to communicate openly about new sexual desires  Why safety is important for advanced activities like wax play and anal sex The ways role-playing can bring novelty and excitement to relationships Considerations for threesomes: Being comfortable and enjoying the experience How ex toys in intimate moments can enhance sexual satisfaction The best positions for clitoral stimulation and engorgement   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list/  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

4 Jul 202333min

Welcome to episode 340 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Amy Marsh to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the topic of erotic AI, companionship tools and how Amy became interested in the topic after reading about the experiences of chatbot users of a program called Replica who were being shamed in the media for enjoying erotic roleplay.  Dr. Marsh is a clinical sexologist, AASECT-certified sexuality counselor, certified hypnotist and hypnosis instructor who has worked in the field of human sexuality since 2008. Personally, Dr. Marsh prefers to be known as “Avnas,” zir chosen name. Ze identifies as a nonbinary femme.   Dr. Marsh’s private practice is eclectic: combining sexuality counseling with hypnosis, guided imagery, adult sex education, sand tray play, and attention to social justice activism and community wellness. Though online only, Dr. Marsh’s “office” is a “no-shame zone.” You are invited to share in an atmosphere of warmth, humor, and “unconditional postitive regard” (quote from Carl Rogers).    As a sexologist, Dr. Marsh has special interests in erotic hypnosis, spectro-sexuality, objectum sexuality, LGBTQIA++ rights, “sacred sexualities,” and more. Ze teaches online professional courses in Hypnosis for Sex Problems at zir Intimate Hypnosis Training Center.    In this episode, you will hear:  How chatbots are used to develop a relationship, have sex through sexting or voice. The misconceptions about AI companionships How chatbots sometimes make things up to keep the conversation going The way agency arises in the chatbot's choice of response  Understanding the downsides of using companion bots How Amy’s book "How to Make Love to a Chatbot" is a good starting place Engaging with chatbots requires intentionality to avoid creating a relationship How erotic role play is often behind a paywall in chatbots Why it can be easy to become attached to a chatbot   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Foreplay Checklist https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

27 Jun 202340min

Welcome to episode 339 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Stephanie Ganowski the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how to have conversations about boundaries and communicating sexual desires in a relationship.   Stephanie Ganowski is a Clinical Sexologist & Sex Coach for men, living in NYC. Her mission is to help men replace their sex pressures with sex pleasures.   Growing up, Steph was severely introverted and shy. She felt very challenged when it came to making friends and feeling confident in herself. She constantly questioned herself and her actions, while remaining hyper curious about those around her. Due to her low self-esteem, she allowed people into her life who “matched” the way she treated herself. Afterall, it felt “right” and comfortable. This included the men she attracted romantically.   Eventually, the prolonged mistreatment from men (and herself) was jolted by 5 incredibly caring, supportive, hilarious guys, she randomly befriended on Instagram, during a hard time. This was a huge wakeup call for Steph. It made her realize that not all men were “assholes” like she had thought. It was her mindset and lack of social skills that put her in the place she had been in.   “But what about these “asshole” guys from her past experiences? What’s going on with them? They must have pain too…” This curiosity led her to want to understand her relationship with men more closely and understand men in general. Step one for Steph, was to start working with men, 1:1, gain their trust, reach their vulnerable side and find a way to help them. Through understanding men and helping them heal and see progress in their lives, Steph would also learn to how to heal and bring people together. Her goal is to eventually get to the place where she can also help women who feel the same way about men, as she once did.    In this episode, you will hear:   How communicating about sex and intimacy can lead to trust, passion, and desire. The best time to bring up a fetish or kink to a new partner How to prepare for communicating about vulnerable topics Why communication with a partner should focus on emotions and understanding Open-ended questions should provide a space for exploration without immediate implementation. How anal sex requires warming up with foreplay, lube, and a slow progression Why it's important to take care of partners' emotions and not take things personally How going to a dominatrix with a partner can be a helpful alternative to hands-on participation   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Foreplay Checklist https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

20 Jun 202330min

Welcome to episode 338 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Avgi Saketopoulou to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Avgi’s book, Sexuality Beyond Consent, and look at the complexity of eroticism and sexuality.  In her office situated in Union Square, Avgi Saketopoulou treats a diverse range of clients, including children as young as age 3, adults, couples, and polycules. She specializes in addressing various issues such as trauma, anxiety, depression, and relationship difficulties. With extensive experience in working with variant genders and queer sexualities, she provides comprehensive care for individuals across different age groups. Her practice embraces individuals from racially and ethnically diverse backgrounds.   Avgi Saketopoulou received her clinical psychology training in New York after moving to the United States from Greece and Cyprus. She subsequently completed training as a psychoanalyst at the New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis.   In addition to her clinical practice, Avgi Saketopoulou is actively involved in academia. She teaches at the NYU PostDoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis and holds positions in various psychoanalytic institutes, including the William Alanson White Institute, the Stephen Mitchell Relational Center, and the National Institute for Psychotherapies. She offers courses that incorporate an intersectional perspective on psychosexuality and gender.   Contributing to the field, Avgi Saketopoulou publishes her own research, serves on the editorial boards of academic journals, leads study groups, and provides supervision for colleagues' clinical work. In October 2021, she co-chaired the inaugural conference "Laplanche in the States: the Sexual and the Cultural," the first US-based event dedicated to the work of Jean Laplanche. She is also a co-executor of the Muriel Dimen Literary Estate, which administers Dr. Dimen's archive, as well as manages the Muriel Dimen Prize (through Div 39) and the Muriel Dimen Grant through NYU Postdoc.    In this episode, you will hear:   How Avgi's book was inspired by Jeremy O. Harris' play "Slave Play." Why transformational experiences stem from pushing limits, not safety. The way “Limit Consent" acknowledges trauma's impact on boundaries. Avgi Saketopoulou explores art's risk-taking potential for new experiences. Why consent is important in exploring the limits of desires and identities How race and sexuality intertwine historically, shaping desire and limit consent. The way limit consent enables transformative overwhelm in erotic encounters.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Job Posting https://www.indeed.com/job/licensed-mental-health-therapist-private-practice-025459e5bb2c89fe   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

13 Jun 202330min

Welcome to episode 337 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Katie Runyan to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss role play and its benefits for enhancing sexual intimacy in relationships, using role play on date nights and the best way to introduce roleplay to your partner.  Katie Runyan is a co-founder of FaithfulFling and lives in KCMO with her husband Jon and four teenage children. She loves donuts, napping, writing and helping relationships all around the world create a spark in the bedroom by having a healthy, passionate and thriving sex life!  The idea for Faithful Fling came as a result of their own role-playing over the years. They recognized that it had increased their connection, improved their sex life, and brought back some novelty to their relationship. It gave them an avenue to improve sensitive and intimate communication as well. They figured if it worked for them, it could work for any committed relationship that was willing to give it a try. They envisioned a scenario where they would do all of the work and their customers would have all of the fun.   They could add to the value by building in lots of fun and surprises that would keep everyone interested and excited to see what would happen next. They loved the idea and nothing else on the market provided the same level of excitement, surprises, and level of detail as what they wanted to provide, so they finally took the leap and launched FaithfulFling.com in February of 2022. They are so proud to help other marriages improve their sex life, put a spark back between the sheets, and put some effort into their marriage again.   They hope you’ll join and see what role-playing with Faithful Fling can do for your marriage!   In this episode, you will hear:   How role play and its benefits can enhance sexual intimacy in relationships. Using the erotic mind with a partner to allow for vulnerability and communication. Looking at popular role play scenarios include naughty nurse and patient. How role play adds novelty and playfulness to date nights. Why curiosity instead of defensiveness can lead to better results. Committing to the role to make roleplay more immersive and realistic. The best way to introduce roleplay to your partner.  Faithful Fling Click here to start your free trial with Faithful Fling and explore role playing with your partner! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Job Posting https://www.indeed.com/job/licensed-mental-health-therapist-private-practice-025459e5bb2c89fe   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

6 Jun 202331min