EP315 - Can Your Parent's Sexual Trauma Be Passed Down To You?

Welcome to episode 368 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Katherine Bejanyan. In today's episode, we discuss how cultural and religious backgrounds shape individual expectations in relationships, the impact of early family dynamics, societal norms on intimacy, and the importance of effective communication.  Katherine Bejanyan is deeply passionate about relationships and is dedicated to helping others in this realm. Her professional activities include providing relationship counseling for both couples and singles.   In her role as a relationship expert and consultant for an exclusive dating agency, Bejanyan offers specialized guidance and insights. Additionally, she contributes her knowledge and perspectives on relationships through her writings for the Huffington Post.   Her primary objective is to continuously deepen her understanding of relationships and enhance her skills in assisting others with their relationship challenges.  Understanding more about relationships in cross-cultural contexts How cultural backgrounds significantly shape our expectations The way early family dynamics and societal norms deeply influence personal beliefs Common relationship challenges; handling family expectations and finances How misunderstandings in intimacy and sexual expectations are common The importance of effective communication, particularly in addressing differences  Key strategies for repairing relationship ruptures  Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in   Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

9 Jan 202437min

Welcome to episode 367 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Ricky Arenson. In today's episode, Dr. Arenson will be sharing his expertise on his recently published book titled "Women are Superior to Men." We will delve into the motivations and revelations that inspired his work, as well as delve into the complexities of relationships and the significance of comprehending dynamic interactions.  Dr. Ricky Arenson, raised under the shadow of Table Mountain in Cape Town, was deeply influenced by the societal divisions of Apartheid, fueling his commitment to bridging gaps in today's "identity politics." Diagnosed with ADHD in childhood, he channeled his energy into creative pursuits like drawing and poetry, developing a unique perspective that later enriched his personal and professional life.   Meeting his wife in medical school, Dr. Arenson's relationship blossomed from her initial academic encouragement into a deep admiration for her roles as a wife and mother. This experience shaped his views on gender roles, inspiring him to advocate for the joys and magic of enduring love and marriage.   An award-winning teacher and dual specialist in Endocrinology and Geriatric Medicine, Dr. Arenson is passionate about teaching relationship management as a key to happiness. His career, marked by significant roles in medical leadership, has been a journey in learning about humility, humanity, and the pursuit of happiness.   In his free time, Dr. Arenson enjoys family time, tennis, fitness, stand-up comedy, and finding creative ways to balance work and leisure.  Dr. Arenson discusses his book "Women are Superior to Men." Being inspired by observing common relationship conflicts The importance of understanding relationship dynamics  Why partners need to give each other attention to maintain intimacy  The challenges modern parents face in balancing children's needs  How hormones play a lesser role in libido than factors like relationship quality  Understanding biological and emotional differences between men and women   Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in  Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

3 Jan 202442min

Welcome to episode 366 of Sexology Podcast! Today we're delving into New Year's resolutions and their impact on relationships. Our expert guests share tips to revitalize your connection, making 2024 a year of passion.  In this episode you will hear from Dr. Laurie Petito, Dr. Jess O'Reilly, David Khalili, Ken Page, Dr. Lonnie Barback, Dr. Laurie Mintz, Diane Gleim and Gigi Engle who share their insightful thoughts on new year's tips and resolutions for 2024 that include:  New Year's resolution tips on sexual health and advocacy Tips to simplify complex sexual health and relationship subjects Key skills for overall life satisfaction and improved relationships Effective communication tips for partners The importance of conversations in a relationship Understanding porn literacy Crucial skills often overlooked in relationships Stress management techniques  Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in   Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

26 Des 202321min

Welcome to episode 365 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Amy Baldwin and April Lampert of the Shameless Sex Podcast. In this episode, we delve into the significance of embracing shifts in our sexual identity, suggestions for discovering trustworthy adult toys, and confidently expressing our desires without any sense of shame.  Amy is an expert in the field of Sex and Relationship Coaching and Sex Education. She is dedicated to spreading the message of embracing pleasure-focused sexuality education without any shame.  On the other hand, April is not only a motivational speaker but also a prominent figure in the sex-toy industry, having established herself as a sex toy mogul. Together, April and Amy have joined forces to create the Shameless Sex Podcast.  This podcast aims to inspire individuals to love themselves unconditionally, embrace their sexual empowerment, and foster shame-free intimacy. With a playful twist, they share real-life experiences and divulge all the details.    In this episode, you will hear:  The importance of embracing changes in one's sexual identity. How April worked with Amy worked together in an adult store. The way Shameless Sex aims to reduce shame and help people live a freer sex life. Looking at the issues that long-term relationships often face.  The significance of introducing sex toys in long-term relationships.  Recommendations for finding reliable sex toys.  The importance of communication especially when discussing desires.  Why you should give a sex toy at least three tries before deciding on one. Exploring different ways to orgasm and creating new neuropathways in the brain. Owning one's desires and communicating them without shame.  Discussed in this episode:Lelo Nea 2 Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in  Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Des 202349min

Welcome to episode 364 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Emily Jamea. In this episode, we discuss the special nature of vacation sex, emphasizing the benefits of breaking routine, reducing stress, and fostering emotional connection.   With over fifteen years of experience in sex and relationship therapy, Dr. Emily Jamea, a licensed marriage and family therapist, LPC, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, has earned recognition for her expertise, featured in esteemed publications such as Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, CBS, Men’s Fitness, SELF, and Women’s Health. Actively contributing to Psychology Today and HealthyWomen.org, Dr. Jamea explores the correlation between flow and sexual satisfaction in her academic research.  As the host of the popular Love & Libido podcast, she shares insights and regularly writes columns for Healthy Women and Psychology Today. Engaging with her audience on social media (@dremilyjamea), she is set to release her upcoming book, "Anatomy of Desire" (Flatiron), in 2024. A sought-after speaker nationally and internationally, Dr. Jamea delivers impactful presentations to diverse audiences, including the general public, educators, and health professionals.  In line with her mission to make her expertise accessible, she offers online workshops. Dr. Jamea, an honors graduate from The University of Texas at Austin, holds a Master’s in counseling and a PhD in Clinical Sexology. Alongside her thriving private practice, she leads a fulfilling personal life as a happily married individual with two children. Embracing opportunities to travel, she nurtures her passions for painting and salsa dancing whenever time allows.     In this episode, you will hear:  How vacation sex is often special due to a break from the routine. The way reduced stress on vacation contributes to higher sexual desire. How emotional positively affects sexual experiences. Learning to communicate expectations about sex on vacation. Why it’s important to start small with sexual novelty. Analyzing flow state science and deep embodiment. The importance of discussing desired emotions and experiences How you can maintain the vacation sex energy at home.  Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in   Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

12 Des 202333min

Welcome to episode 363 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Heidi Gee. In this episode, we discuss overcoming discomfort with oral sex, how to approach the 69 position and learning to gently approach to clitoris.  Heidi Gee is a dedicated Sexologist and Relationship Therapist, who brings over 15 years of experience to her passionate mission. In her unwavering belief, EVERYONE, irrespective of background, gender, religion, sexual preference, or pizza topping choice, deserves a fulfilling relationship and sex life.   Driven by personal growth, navigating heartbreaks, and overcoming challenges, Heidi found her calling – supporting others in their journeys towards healthy relationships with themselves, others, and sex. Beyond her professional expertise, Heidi is also a qualified reiki master, adding a holistic touch to her approach.   During her downtime, Heidi immerses herself in music, theatre, and art. Her love for travel and a fondness for Italian, Indian, and Mexican cuisine are complemented by Café Sydney, her preferred local restaurant. Leading by example, Heidi embraces a healthy lifestyle, incorporating daily meditation, mindfulness practices, and pole dancing for fitness.   As she signs off, Heidi emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-care for a healthy mind, heightened self-awareness, and an enhanced sex life, encouraging others not to wait until New Year's for resolutions.    In this episode, you will hear:  Discomfort with oral sex: Heidi mentions insecurities related to genital appearance Encouragement to focus on the present moment The impact of porn and media on people’s sexual expectations  Communication in relationships: Emphasis about preferences Hygiene tips: Caution against using harsh soaps, emphasis on a healthy diet Approaching 69 position: Suggestion to ease into the position gradually Gentle approach to clitoris: Emphasis on being gentle, exploring different areas Tips for improving oral sex skills Exploring the entire body for a holistic experience  Stress Management Toolkithttps://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-inHoliday Gift Guide Check out these fantastic gift recommendations! https://sexologypodcast.com/holiday-gift-guide/  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

5 Des 202325min

Welcome to episode 362 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn. In this episode, we discuss Yoni Massage, how it enables women to relinquish control and gain a profound understanding of their bodies, redirecting the emphasis towards exploration instead of climaxing and the crucial importance of sexual communication in attaining sexual liberation.  Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton (recieved her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration.  Her work has been featured in KTLA News, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and other media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app and Superstars app.   In 2022, Dr. Tara gave a TEDx Talk titled Become Sexually Powerful that highlights her 5,000-participant study examining predictors of sexual satisfaction, and her journey from an anxious immigrant to a confident Sexpert. Her life's goal is to normalize sex talks, and help people live a more passionate life and feel more sexually fulfilled through confidence and communication coaching.     In this episode, you will hear:  Analyzing and understanding Yoni Massage How Yoni massage is associated with Hinduism and Buddhism The beauty of tantric massage, both the original or more westernized versions How Yoni massages allow women to surrender and understand their bodies Building confidence and the empowerment of receiving pleasure without reciprocity Shifting the focus on exploration rather than climaxing Massaging techniques for the pubic area, vulva, clitoris, and optional penetration Understanding the potential hesitations around Yoni Massage The importance of advocating for pleasure and fostering honest communication The vital role of sexual communication in achieving sexual liberation  YouTube Explore the Sexology Podcast YouTube channel for our latest videos! Subscribe to stay updated: https://www.youtube.com/@Sexologypodcast   Holiday Gift Guide Check out these fantastic gift recommendations! https://sexologypodcast.com/holiday-gift-guide/  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

28 Nov 202335min

Welcome to episode 361 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Michelle Renee. In this episode, we discuss Michelle’s journey going through an unhealthy relationship and problematic childhood, addressing trauma and building communication skills and learning to transition to a sexual environment you can be comfortable in and confident with.  Michelle Renee, a West Michigan native, delves into the personal nature of her work, shaped by generational experiences. Raised in a household with communication challenges, she reflects on her parents' tumultuous relationship and her own journey through an 18-year marriage that led to self-discovery.   After her mother's death in 2002 and a complicated relationship with her father, Michelle found a turning point in a sex education workshop in 2014. This marked the beginning of her transformative journey toward self-love, body acceptance, and courageous life choices.   Michelle's career shift into professional cuddling became a catalyst for healing from past wounds. She later expanded her expertise through Surrogate Partner Therapy training, becoming a leader in the field. Michelle founded local Sex Geekdom hubs, contributed to professional groups, and in 2023, became the San Diego Section Leader for AASECT.   As an intimacy guide, Michelle supports clients across the spectrum of human connection, emphasizing the importance of platonic to erotic relationships. Her passion lies in assisting individuals with trauma history, a commitment that echoes her mother's self-work.     In this episode, you will hear:  How surrogate partner therapy involves collaboration with a talk therapist How she discovered sexuality exploration through Betty Dodson's work Why Michelle engaged in professional cuddling to learn about boundaries The importance of advocating for one's needs and understanding mutual touch Asexuality spectrum: Enjoying sex without experiencing sexual attraction How learning sexual skills can be challenging in high-pressure environments The need for choices and understanding oneself in the context of erotic energy Addressing trauma and building communication skills Learning to engage on a basic human level for physical contact  YouTube Explore the Sexology Podcast YouTube channel for our latest videos! Subscribe to stay updated: https://www.youtube.com/@Sexologypodcast    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

21 Nov 202340min