Ralph De La Rosa on The Energy of Emotions

This week we talk to Gabriele Oettingen about rethinking positive thinking.Gabriele Oettingen is a Professor of Psychology at New York University and the University of Hamburg. She is the author of more than a 100 articles and book chapters on thinking about the future and the control of cognition, emotion, and behavior. She received her Ph.D. from the Ludwig Maximilian University in Munich and the Max Planck Institute for Behavioral Physiology in Seewiesen, Germany.Her major contribution to the field is research on the perils of positive thinking and on Mental Contrasting, a self-regulation technique that is effective for mastering one’s everyday life and long-term development. Gabriele Oettingen’s work is published in social and personality psychology, developmental and educational psychology, in health and clinical psychology, in organizational and consumer psychology, as well as in neuropsychological and medical journals. Her findings contribute to the burgeoning literature on life style change and businesses and institutions have increasingly become interested in the application of her research.Her first trade book, RETHINKING POSITIVE THINKING: Inside the New Science of Motivation was published in October 2014. In This Interview Gabriele and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How positive thinking can lead to worse results.How just fantasizing makes it less likely that those fantasies come true.What mental contrasting is.Using mental contrasting to increase your likelihood of success.How envisioning our obstacles can make us more likely to achieve the goals.What implementation intention is and how to use it in your life.The WOOP method- Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan.Using WOOP to bring about success in our lives.How WOOP works on the unconscious mind.Eric gets WOOP'ed.Gabriele Oettingen LinksWoop Main SiteRethinking Positive Thinking BookGabrielle Oettingen Homepage  Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Jan 201552min

Routines don't drain us, they strengthen us when used correctly. Deciding what to do all the time wears us out and saps out strength.  Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Kino MacGregorStrand of OaksMike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Jan 20159min

This week we talk to Alex Cornell about overcoming creative blocks.Alex Cornell is an interface designer, filmmaker, and periodic musician. He lives in San Francisco and is currently working at Moonbase. He released a book in 2012 called Breakthrough that is a collection of ideas on how to break through creative block.  He cofounded Firespotter Labs. and one of his creative projects was featured on the front page of the Wall Street journal. In This Interview Alex and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.Using comparison as a tool."Getting burnt by other people's work".How his moods are highly correlated to his creative output.Creating instead of consuming.The importance of recharging and taking breaks during the day.Finding multiple outlets for creativity.How to remain motivated over time.Tying your work into a larger purpose.Finding meaning and value in your life where you are.Using other artists "spell books"A lot of the creative process is not visible to the naked eye.There are no easy fixes for creative blocks.Alex Cornell LinksAlex Cornell HomepageAlex Cornell on TwitterAlex Cornell on FacebookAlex Cornell on YouTube Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Jan 201539min

Today we discuss another parable and talk about learning to live with equanimity.  Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Kino MacGregorStrand of OaksMike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

19 Jan 20158min

This week we talk to Susan PiverSusan Piver is a Buddhist teacher and the New York Times bestselling author of seven books, including The Hard Questions and the award-winning How Not to Be Afraid of Your Own Life. Her latest book is entitled The Wisdom of a Broken Heart.Her eighth book, Start Here Now: A Guide to the Path and Practice of Meditation will be published this year.She is also the creator of the innovative Open Heart project, an online community to help deepen your meditation practice In This Interview Susan and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How everything is possible.Having an indestructible presence.The positive thinking police.How do you know when you have felt an emotion enough.Her strange friend, depression.The difference between feeling and wallowing.Depression is when nothing means anything, sadness is when everything has meaning.The difference between our feelings and our interpretation of that feeling.Feel the feeling and drop the storyline.Basic GoodnessWhether the Universe is a friendly place.Taking responsibility of our own experience.How the moment to moment commitment to watch our thoughts can cut delusion.How wisdom and compassion are inseparable. Dealing with fear.Not being afraid of ourselves or our feelings.A courageous person is not afraid of their feelings.Susan Piver LinksSusan Piver HomepageThe Open Heart ProjectSusan Piver on FacebookSusan Piver on TwitterSusan Piver Amazon Author Page Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:James ClearSrini PillayDan HarrisTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13 Jan 201548min

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11 Jan 20155min

This week we talk to Gregg Swanson about the warrior mindsetGregg Swanson is a leading, physical, emotional,  spiritual and mental strength coach and expert. He has authored several books and over 100 articles on these subjects. His life defining moment came in June of 1998 when he survived a horrific avalanche while descending from the top of Mt. Rainier. In This Interview Gregg and I Discuss...The OneYou Feed parable.The meaning of a warrior.The warrior mindset.Mental strength versus mental toughness.Mental strength cannot be developed by reading about it.Mental strength is not coming in 1st, it's finishing what you start.Changing course when things are not working.The main blocks to developing mental strength.NLP and Hypnosis.The difference between your conscious and unconscious mind.Surviving an avalanche on Mt. Ranier.Using shamanism to get in contact with your unconscious mind.High Mental Resistance and Low Mental Support.The Complacent Zone.Overcoming mental resistance.How leaders take responsibility for all of their results.The difference between a leader and a victim.Gregg Swanson LinksGregg Swanson HomepageGregg Swanson Amazon Author PageGregg Swanson TwitterWarrior Mind Coaching on Facebook Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:James ClearSrini PillayDan HarrisTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

6 Jan 201539min

This week we talk to Emily White about making connections in the real worldEmily White is a former lawyer turned writer. She is the author of Lonely, Learning to Live With Solitude. She has written for  the Daily Mail,  the New York Post, the Huffington Post, and The Guardian. Her latest book which will be released in January is called Count Me In: How I Stepped Off the Sidelines, Created Connection, and Built a Fuller, Richer, More Lived-in Life. In This Interview Emily and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.Understanding loneliness.The difference between loneliness and depression.Social Depression.The exhaustion of being lonely around other people.The definition of loneliness.How it's becoming harder to make ties in our culture.Why loneliness is increasing across the society.How finding belonging takes effort.That belonging doesn't come right away.How much belonging is available if we look for it.How caring isn't cool in our culture.The difference between public and private belonging.The main objections he hears to mindfulness practice.How this is the first generation in American history that has a shorter life expectancy than their parents.Emily White LinksEmily White HomepageLonely The Book Homepage Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:James ClearSrini PillayDan HarrisTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

30 Des 201447min