Ep. 67 - How to find peace in the reality of your breakup

Decision making is so important when it comes to rebuilding your self-confidence. In today's episode, I share a sneak peek of the decision making content I provide in module 6 of the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or LESS program. We talk about 3 main areas when it comes to learning the skill of decision making that will help you not only rebuild confidence in yourself but also show up and make NEW decisions and feel AMAZING about them. In this episode: 3 important tips about making decisions How to create new results in your life by making new decisions How to feel good no matter what decision you make The tools section of this had to remain in the program because without the context of the modules 1-5 the exercises wouldn't make sense. If you'd like to use the tools, I'd highly recommend getting signed up for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or LESS program at www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

3 Aug 202016min

Many of us have heard that our worthiness is 100%, your productivity doesn't equate to your worthiness. Something that hasn't been talked about much is WANTING from inadequacy which is tied to how worthy YOU feel. In this episode, I share with you a sliver of what is shared in module 5 of the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or LESS program. www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex In this episode: The truths about worthiness that haven't been shared The worthiness tree What's keeping you from believing you're enough, you're worthy

3 Aug 202020min

As an expert at breakups, I see two forms of regret after a breakup occurs. The first kind is regret about how you behaved during the relationship, especially after you've learned everything I've taught you in the podcast. The second kind is regret about your decision to leave the relationship (if you're the one who left). In today's episode, I talk about how regret can be useful and how it can also (and more oftentimes) be used as punishment. I of course will finish up the episode giving you tangible next steps towards letting go of regret and using it as a tool in your future! In this episode: The types of regret How regret can be useful How regret can be used as a punishment What to do with your regret

3 Aug 202015min

Many of my clients have brought up this topic of wanting to feel validated by others and their ex. I'm here to tell you two truths about external validation that you've never heard before and the specific techniques I use with my clients to let go of the graspiness. You've never once been externally validated nor is validation a problem. Learn more in today's episode as I unpack this all with you. In this episode: The two truths about external validation What to do about it Specific breakup related examples to help you apply it

27 Jul 202020min

If you're anything like me, learning to trust after a horrific breakup was the biggest hurdle that seemed to last forever! After overcoming that hurdle I found that trust was the missing piece I needed for so many areas of my life. It changed EVERYTHING. Join me as I talk through the 2 types of trust you need to have prior to placing your trust on anyone else. In this episode: What is trust? The types of trust. How to trust in a higher power, yourself, and others to be able to stand in your power again

20 Jul 202012min

We've all heard rejection is god's way to redirect you. I'll be giving you the real explanation of this along with, of course, the HOW do we implement this into our life though. By the end of this episode, you can and will be able to turn your rejection into curiosity and compassion for yourself and others. Which will leave you responding to rejection in a whole new way. In this episode: What is rejection and how we typically respond to being rejected How to respond to rejection in a whole new way Transforming your rejection into curiosity and compassion

13 Jul 202015min

Loving yourself is not the equivalent of self-care. We can take all the actions in the world and do self-care routines but if we don't change our brains we don't change the feelings. Instead, you might find yourself forcing the self-care routines vs letting them come to you naturally and organically. Two of my clients recently mentioned that "dating someone will have to be better than what it's like to hang out with myself" and getting to the place where you are so obsessed with you than any other relationship has some serious competition to your relationship with yourself is where you're headed with true "loving yourself". In this episode: What does it mean to love yourself How do I know if I'm actually loving myself vs just doing the self-care actions 3 simple steps to loving yourself during your breakup

6 Jul 202014min

What he's saying about you doesn't have to be your truth. Just because he says "You don't make me a priority" "You're crazy, you need to stop acting like I'm the problem, you're the problem" "You're a hypocrite" "You were the one that messed up" "You're just seeking attention" -- doesn't mean it's your reality. Nor does it mean you need to convince him otherwise. In this episode: Learn how to let him have his own thoughts about you without it affecting YOU Identify your true identity How to not let your past dictate your present or future Productive disagreement

29 Jun 202017min