1102: College vs. Trades | Skeptical Sunday

You were recently and unknowingly an accomplice to fraud and credit card theft. You're a freelancer with a client who frequently used your services; you built trust, and then he asked you to transfer some money for him as a paid favor. Your poor judgment, kindness, and greed led to where you are now. Now the real credit card owners are issuing chargebacks, which are draining your account, and you don't have their money because you sent the money to someone else. What do you do? We'll try to answer this and more on this Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/257. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan next February? It’s filling up fast; reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details! You were unknowingly an accomplice to credit card fraud. Now the real credit card owners are issuing chargebacks, which is draining your account and you don't have their money because you sent the money to someone else. What do you do? Because you're in the entertainment industry, you've been getting nipped and tucked for years and you look much younger than your time on earth would indicate. Is it imperative that you tell your new significant other about your cosmetic procedures? Your future in-laws seem to be in a financially abusive relationship — with one taking more than their fair share from the other — to the point that you hope they divorce. Are you out of line by wishing for this? What do you do when a friend, colleague, family member, or loved one seems to be losing their marbles before your very eyes? You've been growing your network with great success over the past few years, which is awesome. What's not so awesome is worrying about how to balance the time you spend with these connections as your network grows. How can you keep quality job one in this case? Even when you know a recent breakup was for the right reasons, it's hard not to ruminate over where they are, who they could be with, what they're thinking, if they are thinking of you, and whether they'll ever return one day. How can you move on? You've legally adopted your wife's 16-year-old, but he's troubled. How do you get him to see the errors of his ways? How do you look at him without wanting to snap at him? How do you lead him to want to better himself, grow, and not just do the minimum? You're a 16-year-old, and your parents have strange beliefs. They make you eat weird things, they don't let you have social media or watch TV, and they don't let you go anywhere. It's hard to make friends in such a controlled environment because everyone thinks you're the odd one,... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Sep 20191h 10min

Malcolm Gladwell (@gladwell) has written bestsellers that are probably on your shelf right now, including The Tipping Point, Blink, Outliers, and What the Dog Saw. His latest book is Talking to Strangers: What We Should Know about the People We Don't Know. What We Discuss with Malcolm Gladwell: Why, if we don't know how to talk to strangers, we invite conflict and misunderstanding in ways that have a profound effect on our lives and our world. Why the information we gather from face-to-face human interaction isn't as uniquely valuable as we think it is. Why television makes us worse at reading other people. Why we think we can tell if someone is lying, guilty, or deceptive -- and why we're almost always wrong. What determines the direction of Malcolm's projects, and how he researches and organizes the massive amount of information that goes into them. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/256 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Sep 201954min

Tommy Caldwell (@tommycaldwell1) has been called "arguably the best all-around rock climber on the planet" by National Geographic, and is the author of The Push: A Climber's Search for the Path. What We Discuss with Tommy Caldwell: How the confidence Tommy gained from climbing since age three transformed him from a shy, scrawny kid into a world-class athlete, author, and someone who can be interviewed on podcasts without fear. Tommy's tried-and-true formula for getting better at coping with scary, potentially life-threatening situations. How climbing is part endurance, part puzzle, and part chess strategy. The differences between sport climbing, free climbing, and free soloing. What it's like to get kidnapped by rebel extremists in the mountains of Kyrgyzstan when you're just trying to do a little climbing with your friends. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/255 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Sep 20191h 4min

You recently discovered evidence that your friend of 12 years has a significant other who's nothing but a no-good two-timer. Is it your place to call this out? Is exposing a cheater the right thing to do even if it may ruin your friendship? We'll dig into this and more right here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/254. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan next February? It's filling up fast; reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details! You recently uncovered dirt on your friend's significant other as a faithless, two-timing snake. Is exposing this cheater the right thing to do? Recently reconnecting with an old friend, you were shocked to discover they've been diagnosed with a potentially fatal condition. While you're not super close, you want to be of comfort without being awkward. What should you do? New to your field, you'll be attending a networking event with other young professionals and industry veterans soon. What can you do to stand out and be remembered in a good way? You recently angered a friend by unknowingly poking fun at him for being single, but you're so embarrassed and upset with yourself for hurting him that you don't have the courage to apologize bravely and sincerely. How can you make things right? Someone you once considered close has in recent years become cold and judgmental, though you can't point to any event that would constitute a falling out. Others in your circle have noticed, so you're pretty sure it's not just you. What can you do to get to the bottom of this? What's the best way to cope with the psychological toll of starting and running your own business? (Thanks to Brian Clark from Copyblogger for fielding this one!) You consider yourself pretty genuine, so should you even be attempting to network with people you don't like just because they're decent connections within your industry? A friend has become annoyingly needy and narcissistic since breaking off an engagement. How can you break it to them that their behavior has become unacceptable without being heartless? Life Pro Tip: When you're moving, pack a “first day” box with everything you think you'll need right after you arrive. It's annoying to dig through all your boxes for things like modems and hair dryers when you're tired from your move. Recommendation of the Week: See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Sep 201958min

Jamie Metzl (@JamieMetzl) is a technology futurist and geopolitical expert, entrepreneur, media commentator, Senior Fellow of the Atlantic Council, and author of Hacking Darwin: Genetic Engineering and the Future of Humanity. What We Discuss with Jamie Metzl: Why the speed at which genetic engineering is progressing is akin to Neil Armstrong stepping foot on the moon just six years after the first flight of the Wright brothers. Why the genetic traits that seem universally beneficial to us today may turn out to be as ephemeral (and useful to humanity) as powdered wigs and skinny jeans. The danger our species faces when we're able to selectively edit out genes that cause disorders without fully understanding their potential benefits or evolutionary purpose (e.g., recessive sickle cell disease carriers' resistance to malaria). Why China — run by a government that values the good of the country over the rights and privacy of its citizens — is better poised than the US and other Western countries to excel in the application of genetic science. Why addressing the values of equity and diversity today is important for avoiding genetic stagnation and greater friction between the haves and have-nots of tomorrow. And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/253 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Sep 201958min

Chase Jarvis (@chasejarvis) is an award-winning artist, entrepreneur, and one of the most influential photographers of the past decade. He is also an author, and his latest book, Creative Calling: Establish a Daily Practice, Infuse Your World with Meaning, and Succeed in Work + Life, is out this week. What We Discuss with Chase Jarvis: Some of the most common barriers to creativity and our pursuit of creative outlets or careers and how to work past these barriers. Why creativity is a habit, not a skill, and what we can do to cultivate this creativity with practice. How even Chase has experienced creative slumps, and what he did to dig himself out of them. The DEAR framework for being able to understand what works in any situation -- by studying the masters who have come before you. The importance of community for sustained success in any endeavor. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/252 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

17 Sep 20191h 11min

Major life changes can be a mixed bag. On one hand, you're over the moon for landing your dream job. On the other hand, being diagnosed with an aggressive form of brain cancer and told by your doctor that you've got two years to live (at best) puts a bit of a damper on the celebration. You're determined to remain positive -- after all, you wouldn't be the first to beat fatalistic odds if this thing were somehow turned around, so there's no harm in being hopeful. You wouldn't say you're lost, but you do want to ensure that you make the most of whatever time you have left -- however long that may be. We can only imagine what you're going through, but on this Feedback Friday we'll do our best to offer how we might spend our time if confronted with the worst news possible -- but armed with your incredibly deep well of positivity. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/251. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan next February? Reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details! How do you make the most of the time you have left with positivity when doctors have given you two years to live? People have preferences about looks, personalities, and religious backgrounds for their significant others. Is wishing they hadn't slept with 100 people before you a valid preference? What does it take for a successful and single 51-year-old woman who travels frequently to find someone with whom to build a family when the dating pool of quality candidates seems so microscopic? While a policy to never pursue romance with a professional connection has served you well in the past, you've met someone who makes you want to reconsider this policy. How might you make your interest known while remaining professional? You'd like to improve the relationship with your parents and the way you communicate. What can you do to make things better? If you wanted to start a new business online without using the topics of your current or past expertise, how would you pick a niche and establish your credibility? (Thanks to Brian Clark from Copyblogger for fielding this one!) While you'll be laid off soon, you're not worried because you have a generous severance and plenty of leads already. How do you network without people assuming you're just trying to get a job through their connections? Aside from buying decent mics and recording in a space that's not echoey as hell, what advice do we have for someone just starting out with podcasting? (One: See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Sep 201953min

Nir Eyal (@nireyal) is a behavioral designer who helps companies design products that move people, and helps people design their own behavior using the principles of consumer psychology. He is the author of Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products and Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. This is Nir's second appearance on the show (check out his first time here). What We Discuss with Nir Eyal: Why time management is quite literally pain management, and the time you plan to waste is not wasted time. How the issues caused by technology today aren't dissimilar to the issues caused by technology that vexed Aristotle and Socrates thousands of years ago. Why you'll probably find the popular advice to try digital detox as a way to rid yourself of technology's influence over your life about as effective as a fad diet. The damage caused by accepting the media's spin on technology as a pervasive addiction over which we have no control, and what we can do to get the best of these tools without letting them get the best of us. How to nurture your child's healthy relationship with technology by empowering them with an understanding of its opportunity costs. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/250 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Sep 201956min