44: E is for ETHICAL NON-MONOGAMY: What Makes it Ethical?

Welcome to the fifth instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series, where we break down big topics one letter at a time complete with stories and some laughs along the way! Originally recorded as a live training in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community and on YouTube, this episode is all about the letter E:

✨ E is for Ethical Non-Monogamy: What Makes It Ethical?

You might be thinking…Wait… Didn’t you already cover this in C is for Consensual Non-Monogamy, Communication… and Cookies!?

Great question! While consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) are often used interchangeably, there are some subtle differences which is why someone might use one or the other. We explore what those differences are and what truly makes a relationship ethical (or not).

💡 Other Key Topics:🔹 Why transparency is essential for avoiding misunderstandings & drama🔹 The risks & rewards of openly declaring your non-monogamy🔹 What happens when one partner wants to be monogamous and the other doesn’t

We also answer some community questions including:✅ Is a Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (DADT) policy still ethical?✅ Is breaking an agreement unethical?✅ Can there be cheating in ENM?✅ When and why do we need to announce that we’re non-monogamous?

📢 Plus, we toss in some bonus E words: ejaculation, erotocentrism, and the difference between envy vs. jealousy!

Tara also shares personal experiences from coming out to her family as polyamorous and the challenges that followed. Want more? Check out related videos in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group (links in the show notes!).

🎧 Hit play & let’s talk polyamory!

Show Resources:

• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠

• Video: How to talk to parents about being polyamorous or in an open relationship - https://youtu.be/UxYecGOZ3WY?si=OaNmNcBea2bA27sH
• Guide 4: Hot Topics in group where coming out videos are housed: https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly/learning_content/?filter=230771232079665

• Be the first to find out when our Little Book of Poly Love is out. Join the waitlist here: ⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist
• Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.com
• Looking for coaching support? Book a consultation call with Tara - ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠