How to Ask for What You Want in Bed (For Better Sex)

On today’s Best Of episode, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex With Emily Hotline. We get into: how to handle it when your partner wants to have sex with someone else and stay in your relationship, what it means when you fantasize about your ex, how soon is too soon to start dating someone new after a breakup, and ways to avoid ghosting. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to set intentions for new relationships How cannabis can improve your orgasms and intimacy How to guide a partner during oral sex See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Sexiest Valentine’s Date Ideas (For Every Stage of Your Relationship) How to Do the Kivin Method The Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) EMDRIA SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

26 Jan 20241h 2min

When it comes to sex, do you have a growth mindset? Whether you’re a new parent and your sex drive has tanked, or you’re trying to break free from a mental pattern that’s blocking your pleasure, we all experience sexual roadblocks. Never fear: you can have a sex reset! On today’s Ask Emily show, I’m helping you ID the obstacles to your sexuality, from trauma to a repressive upbringing, to a disconnect with a partner. And one by one, I help you figure out solutions that open the door to self-exploration. In this episode, you’ll learn: What “spectatoring” during sex means, and how to overcome it Tips for sharing a sexual fantasy with a new partner How to navigate mismatched libidos in a long-term relationship See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 10 Common Kinks & Fetishes (& What They Mean) Solaray (code 20STAGES for 20% off) We-Vibe Nova Shop Site Podcast: Hotline Calls: Why Can’t I Orgasm? SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

23 Jan 202446min

To feel turned on, we first have to feel safe. So today, I’m taking some of my favorite Hotline calls on trust and how to repair it. What happens if your spouse cheated on you, and now sex feels sorta gross? What if you tell a new partner you love them, and they don’t reciprocate? Or how about being “too picky” of a dater - is it really because they’re all duds, or are there some underlying trust issues there? The bottom line is this: when we feel free, we feel sexy. And on today’s Best Of episode, I’m helping you radically reclaim your erotic freedom. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How to move forward after infidelity, whether you were the cheater or the cheated on Tips for feeling comfortable with new partners What to do when it feels like the “spark” is gone See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 10 Common Kinks & Fetishes (& What They Mean) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Podcast: Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

19 Jan 202435min

I’m answering my listeners’ most personal sex and relationship questions LIVE today. Can you only orgasm with straight legs? I’ve got positions and recommendations to help you get there. Nervous that chastity play is giving your partner delayed ejaculation? I ease your worries and help you collaborate with your partner for mutually fulfilling sex. Plus, we get into other kinky calls like erotic lactation and anal sex. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to teach your body new ways to orgasm Common causes of vaginal pain About chastity play and penis cage safety Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Initiate Sex LELO Hugo 2 Remote (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

16 Jan 202436min

Sometimes, in our sex lives and relationships, it can be easy to wonder: Am I the Asshole? Don’t worry, because in today’s episode, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory in your sexual situations, like: AITA for wanting oral sex every time, not just on special occasions? AITA for rejecting my partner’s advances in the middle of the night? Or how about: AITA for getting upset when my partner turns me down? It’s a juicy one. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: Creative solutions for mismatched libidos What to do if you’re in a sexless relationship Tips for healthy sex conversations See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Initiate Sex Bathmate (code EMILY10 for 10% off sitewide) Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

12 Jan 202438min

Today I am bringing back LIVE Hotline Calls! Not only that, holistic psychologist, author, and my newest friend, Dr. Scott Lyons, joins me back on the show to help me answer your questions. From concerns about sexual compatibility to avoiding jackhammer sex, you will hear the change in these callers’ voices as we help them in real-time. In this episode, you’ll learn: Effective ways to tell your partner you want to explore sexually How to have sex talks with a partner who gets uncomfortable How to feel confident going into a date See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Magic Wand Micro Dr. Scott Lyons: Instagram | Website The Embody Lab SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

9 Jan 202447min

Burnt out from dating? Do you feel like you’ll never meet “the one?” In today’s episode, celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman dispels common dating myths and suggests new dating pillars. Plus, she tells us which dating rules to follow (and which to disregard), the #1 expectation for men on dates with women, and how to make your online dating profile stand out. In this episode, you’ll also learn: How much chemistry really matters on a date Who should make the first move How to track your dates to be more strategic See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 5 Ways to Be a Better Lover in 2024 F the Fairy Tale, Damona Hoffman: Amazon | Barnes & Noble More Damona Hoffman: Instagram | TikTok | X (Twitter) | Website Dates & Mates Podcast: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Website DamonaHoffman.com/DateTracker SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

5 Jan 202453min

I dive into the psychology of foreplay and how to get aroused with specific (and quite sexy) pre-game tips. I also talk about what to do if foreplay and overall sex with your partner has gotten a bit stale, how to tease and arouse yourself, what to do if your partner doesn’t want to explore new things, and how to handle a partner who won’t reciprocate foreplay. Plus, I answer your questions! In this episode, you’ll learn: How to set the mood for hotter, more intimate sex Specific sex tips to seduce a partner The key differences between couples with ‘great’ vs. ‘bad’ sex lives See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Have the Best NYE Kiss Ever 5 Ways to Be a Better Lover in 2024 Podcast: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation Flavored Lubes Massage Candles Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk? Podcast: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Yes, No, Maybe List & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

2 Jan 202440min