Why Antidepressants Can Kill Your Sex Drive (And What to Do)

Ever stumbled across a surprise fantasy? Something you didn’t realize turned you on…but here you are. It’s super hot, and now, you can’t stop thinking about it. Our sexual fantasies are here to help us understand ourselves better, so on today’s show I take your calls on sexual fantasies, what they mean, and how to turn them into a reality. First, she masturbates in the bathroom when she knows her neighbors are home, within earshot. He loves nipple play on his body and watching his wife do it to herself. They’re dabbling in prostate play, so I provide step-by-step instructions for finger stimulation. She’s afraid of rejection, but also fantasizes about it: how can she indulge this fantasy in a healthy way? All this and more on this revealing episode.  Show Notes: Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023 VUSH Destination: Play (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Destination: Play) Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides EMDRIA Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

27 Jan 202342min

We all have personal demons. Whether it’s anxiety in your relationship, dissatisfaction in your sex life, or something hurtful from the past that’s infecting your present. But how do we heal so that our sex drive can thrive? That’s what today’s episode is all about. I talk to callers about their sexual mental blocks, and how to move past them for a more empowered future. When outside circumstances create stress for your family, how can you still prioritize intimacy? When one partner is inhibited in bed, how can they learn to relax, and find their authentic sexual voice? And when you’ve been through the death of a loved one, how can you make room for a new relationship while honoring their memory? All this and more on today’s show.  Show Notes: Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023 OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50 Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy? Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides Podcast: Therapy: The Relationship Game-Changer EMDRIA More Dr. Amen: Instagram | TikTok | Twitter | Website Your Brain Is Always Listening by Dr. Amen Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

24 Jan 202354min

Real talk: penis problems are more common than you think. But don’t let shame stop you from healing - both inside and out. Today, we’re normalizing the experience of penis challenges, and providing tools to help mend your member. She wants to end a relationship because he can’t keep it up - are there other issues at play beyond sexual incompatibility? Can erection issues from a sex-related injury be reversed? I offer some science-backed treatments to check out. Another penis-owner can only orgasm through solo sex, are trust issues to blame? We talk through some exercises to help get to orgasming with a partner. I’ll cover all this and more in this episode. Show Notes: When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand LELO Tor 2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Boston Scientific treatment options for ED PRP Injections (John Hopkins Medical) Podcast: Best Of: Power to the Penis w/ Dr. Edward Karpman SKYN Condoms One Condoms “Find My Fit” Pjur Woman Aqua Lubricant This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

20 Jan 202340min

Consuming your own ejaculate: a kink on the rise. Whether it comes from porn or curiosity, a ton of you have asked me about it in the last few years. But that’s not the only trending sex topic: from porn to mental health, these are some of the most frequently asked questions we get at Sex With Emily. First, is porn healthy or harmful? It’s all about your relationship to it. Next, anxiety and low self-worth can make it more difficult to get turned on with a partner. I offer strategies to one listener for restoring their self-love practice. Finally, eating your own semen: yay or nay? I explain why this is not only a totally normal question – but a totally acceptable practice. Show Notes: When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand Je Joue Ami 3 Step Kegel Training Set Article: The Ins And Outs of Ethical Porn Podcast: Find Your Sexual Voice w/ Lake Bell XConfessions.com TryQuinn This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

17 Jan 202346min

Just how many pathways are there to your best orgasm? It’s more than you realize. Today’s episode is all about creative ways to climax, so you can unlock even more pleasure the next time you have sex. First: are breastgasms a thing? I explain to one caller how they work, and give her ideas for stimulating them and her other erogenous zones. Next, a couple calls in with a common problem: he finishes during penetrative sex, she doesn’t. I give them some orgasm gap hacks to solve it. Finally, why is it often easier to have a G-Spot orgasm with a toy, but not during sex? I give you tips for getting there with a partner and more tips to maximize your pleasure. Show Notes: When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand Uberlube “Good to Go” Travel Sets from Good Vibrations  Woo More Play Coconut Oil Pjur’s Back Door Lube Article: Where is the Clitoris? Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

13 Jan 202343min

Ever feel like your relationship is on cruise control? Do you continue to have the same conflicts, stale sex routine, or toxic dynamics and want to break the cycle and be with someone who’s actually a great fit? I’ll help you break out of all that. Today’s episode is designed to help you build better sex, dating and relationship habits. From incorporating kink and exploration into a relationship with someone who’s more reserved, to tips to work through jealousy in a relationship - we can all learn so much from this episode. I’ll also go over some exercises to build intimacy and share your top “green flags” when it comes to dating. All this and more on today’s show. Show Notes: Sexual Wellness Trends to Try in 2023 VUSH Empress 2 (code SWE50 for 50% off) Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides Article: How to Have More Sensual Sex Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Tell a New Partner About My Fantasies? Article: What to Do When Your Partner Says ‘No’ to Trying New Things This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

10 Jan 202335min

Your sexual needs are key to your sexual satisfaction and overall wellness. And when you’ve got a need that just can’t be met, I’m here for you. On today’s show, I give one caller who's never had an orgasm surefire masturbation tips to help her get there. Next, she’s 23 and loves her boyfriend, but he wants to move in together and she’s… not so sure. Psychologist and dear friend Dr. Jen Freed and I coach her on next steps. Another caller asked her partner to be more dominant in bed, and now he thinks they’re sexually incompatible. Finally, she needs more sexual experience – should she snag a friends with benefits? All this and more as we unpack your sexual needs and give you specific, sexy steps to achieve them. Show Notes: Sexual Wellness Trends to Try in 2023 Odela Health (use this link for $50 off your 1st prescription) 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

6 Jan 202335min

When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave? Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her new audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedroom talk. We also discuss your takes on dating in your 40s, and why things often get better with age when it comes to the pursuit of romance. All this and more with my amazing guest, Lake Bell. Show Notes: Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk? Lake Bell’s New Audiobook, Inside Voice: My Obsession with How We Sound: Audible | Pushkin More Lake Bell: Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

3 Jan 202341min