Anger Secrets31 Aug 2025

148 - Breaking the Cycle of Abuse and Violence

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

This episode dives into one of the most difficult but essential topics: understanding how abuse and violence may show up in your life—and how to end the cycle. Anger expert Alastair Duhs speaks with clarity and compassion about behaviors that cause harm, whether through words, control, silence or physical actions.

If you’ve ever questioned the impact of your anger or wondered if your actions have crossed a line, this episode offers a courageous path forward.

Key Takeaways:

-Abuse isn't just physical—it can be verbal, emotional, psychological or sexual, and all forms can leave deep, lasting harm.

-If you’ve used anger to intimidate, control or manipulate, it’s time to look honestly at your behavior and its impact.

-Alastair explains why abuse and violence are the same—because both hurt and control others, often in invisible but devastating ways.

-Taking responsibility for your actions is not a sign of weakness—it’s a brave step toward healing and change.

-True transformation begins with clarity, accountability and the willingness to break old patterns.

-Help is available, and no matter what your past has looked like, it’s never too late to build respectful, safe, and loving relationships.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

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