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Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday! ZipRecruiter co-founder and CEO Ian Siegel (@ZipRecruiterCEO) joins us for a brief bonus toward the end of the episode, so stay tuned! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Wondering how to get a job in this data-driven society? Make sure to stick around after the end of this Feedback Friday for a bonus interview with ZipRecruiter CEO and co-founder Ian Siegel! Getting caught up? Make sure to check out our episodes from this week with Dr. Drew Pinsky and part two of our negotiation series with Alex Kouts! What's the best way to get to "yes" while negotiating with someone via email? What is the appropriate response when your best friend of 10 years suddenly starts ignoring you? When your well-paying job with incredible benefits becomes unsatisfying, how do you go about finding something more in line with your skills and interests? If your group of friends is too flaky to commit to plans you try to make on a regular basis, is it maybe time to get less boring friends? Is there a delicate way to express concern when someone you love gains 100 pounds in five years? How can you help? Are they really your friends if they didn't back you up in a fight? Do you believe you can still care about and love someone but no longer be compatible with them as a romantic partner? Is Landmark a cult? Should you be concerned for your friend who's getting involved with the organization? Recommendation of the Week: Go see a live, local roller derby match! Shoutouts to Mind Pump and American Dream University! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Connect with Ian on Twitter at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Juli 20181h 6min

Alex Kouts (@akouts) is a teacher, adventure technologist, Chief Product Officer of Countable, and -- as you'll soon discover -- quite savvy in negotiation. This is part two of a three-part series. Make sure to check out parts one and three!  What We Discuss with Alex Kouts: How to control a negotiation by making the other side reactive. Common mistakes that result in amateurs (and sometimes even professionals) negotiating against themselves. Understand how to use strategic silence -- and know when strategic silence is being used against you. How negotiations tend to differ for women and men. What we gain by giving the other party the illusion of control over the negotiation and what we can do to nudge them in that direction. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Full show notes and resources can be found here. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Juli 20181h 17min

Dr. Drew Pinsky (@drdrew) is a celebrity doctor who has been hosting shows -- from radio to television to podcasts -- for more than 30 years, most well-known for Loveline from 1984 to 2016. His current hosting duties include The Dr. Drew Podcast and The Adam and Dr. Drew Show among many others. What We Discuss with Dr. Drew: How Dr. Drew reaches to the heart of an issue in seconds with his callers by listening with his whole body. People who seem to "have it all" are dealing with the same issues as everyone else. The difference between how Dr. Drew used to respond to criticism of his work compared to today. What experiencing imposter syndrome usually reveals about you. How we can spot the behaviors of addiction in others as well as ourselves. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Juli 20181h 2min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Getting caught up? Make sure to check out our episodes from this week with Adam Carolla and Alex Kouts! You always take steps to improve your life with the best of intentions, but soon regress to old, bad habits. How can you break this pattern? Now that you're a free agent after enduring a difficult and draining marriage, are you wasting mental energy better spent on your career by trying to get into another relationship? When you've been raised on the "if you can't say something nice, don't say it at all" philosophy, how do you get along with your in-laws who only seem to know how to complain about everything? How does an introvert get better at bantering with others and building social value? Is there a way to get your mean grandparents to treat your awesome mom more kindly without making it seem like you're acting on her directive? Resource recommendations for people who want to develop sales skills (which are applicable to so much more than sales, by the way). What is the best purpose for having your own website without looking like you're trying to find new opportunities? Advice for aspiring podcast hosts new to the job. Quick shoutouts to Loretta "The Aussie Pilgrim" Kreet and the kind fellow who sent Jordan and Jen the Best of the Bone bone broth! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Juli 201839min

Alex Kouts (@akouts) is a teacher, adventure technologist, Chief Product Officer of Countable, and -- as you'll soon discover -- quite savvy in negotiation. This is part one of a three-part series. Make sure to check out parts two and three!  What We Discuss with Alex Kouts: How to negotiate for anything -- from your salary to a new mattress. How the relation between progress and pain works. Why no talent + hard work will always beat talent + no work. Is Google stalking to prepare for an interview or negotiation a good thing? How many "no" answers can you get in five days -- and what could this possibly teach you about negotiation? And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Full show notes and resources can be found here. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Juli 20181h 2min

Adam Carolla (@adamcarolla) is a best-selling author, comedian, actor, and host of The Adam Carolla Show -- the Guinness World Record holder for Most Downloaded Podcast. What We Discuss with Adam Carolla: How Adam came up in comedy and resisted negative influences. Why trading time for money is a losing proposition and how we can break the cycle. Sometimes you don't need a grand plan to break away from a medieval laborer's mindset -- just the motivation to do something more with your life. How to tell if we're doing something for ourselves or doing something based on pressure from others. Why it's important to run toward your fear. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

17 Juli 201851min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: When times seem tough, just remember it's rare they ever get "stuck in a cave in Thailand awaiting uncertain rescue" tough. Do you ever feel like you can't accept someone else's offer of help for fear that you will owe them something that you can't "pay back?" Is there ever a right time to have kids? Way of the Peaceful Warrior author and friend of the show Dan Millman writes in with his take. Is it true that there are more and bigger opportunities in the big city? When is Producer Jason going to graduate to Co-Host Jason? When you're creating content for the general public (like YouTube videos or a podcast), how do you stay motivated to remain consistent and inspire improvement when growth is slower than you'd like? How can you present invitations to friendly gatherings in a way that is enticing? How do you get your foot in the door to an industry you find attractive when you currently lack experience in that industry? Recommendation of the Week: The Gateway Podcast Quick shoutouts to John Raynaud, the GM at Pizza My Heart and Jules Bradley from the UK! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Juli 201844min

Allen Gannett (@allen) is the founder and CEO of TrackMaven, a placeholder on the 30 under 30 lists for both Forbes and Inc., and the author of The Creative Curve: How To Develop The Right Idea, At The Right Time. What We Discuss with Allen Gannett: Creativity isn't innate to a lucky few geniuses; it's a quality that anyone can learn to develop. Why many stories about so-called geniuses are embellished to sell an inaccurate idea of what creativity is and where this quality comes from. What various fields of study have known -- for years -- about the relationship between intelligence and creativity and how this is at odds with popular belief. Steps that show us how we can cultivate the right qualities and environment so that episodes of creative genius are more likely to strike us when we need it. The four laws of the creative curve that, if followed, will endow anyone with creative prowess. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Juli 201854min