Shadow Work For Couples | Triggers, Nervous System, Parts Work & 10 Relationship Healing Exercises

In this episode, we break down the second Hermetic Principle, Correspondence, and translate “as above, so below, as within, so without” into real life, practical language. You’ll learn how your inner standards, beliefs, and nervous system show up in your habits, your communication, your boundaries, and your results, and why the same “fractal” patterns repeat across marriage, masculinity, parenting, discipline, finances, and self respect. This isn’t mysticism for the sake of sounding deep, it’s a clear lens for spotting the hidden structure beneath your daily choices, then making small corrections that compound.You can expect direct examples that hit home, like how “the straw that broke the camel’s back” is never about the straw, it’s about the load you ignored for too long, and why conflict is usually about trust, safety, respect, appreciation, power, and fear of abandonment, not the trash, tone, sex, budget, or in laws. The episode also gives you a simple framework to “upgrade the pattern” by naming the cycle without blame, identifying the belief driving it, and repeating the correction until it becomes your new default, plus a real talk segment on why change is hard, how familiar pain protects identity, and how self respect becomes the fuel for transformation.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

25 Joulu 26min

I recorded this for our Patreon. I have received a lot of positive feed back on this. So I am sharing it publicly. I hope you enjoy it. In this podcast, you’ll learn the first Hermetic Principle, Mentalism, and how your mind shapes your lived reality through the meanings you assign, the attention you rehearse, and the actions you take. Chris breaks down how “raw data becomes a story, the story creates emotion, emotion pressures action, and action creates consequences,” then ties it directly to Adlerian psychology, mindset training, and practical personal responsibility. If you’re into Hermetic Principles, manifestation with backbone, mental discipline, and self mastery that actually changes behavior, this episode gives you a clear framework to stop confusing interpretation with reality and start steering outcomes on purpose.You can expect concrete tools you can use immediately in relationships, work, and daily life, including widening the gap between stimulus and response, generating three plausible meanings before you react, and running an “attention audit” so you stop feeding resentment loops, doomscrolling, and negative self talk. Chris also shares a relationship repair line that turns accusation into curiosity, plus a simple morning and night practice to train your mental filter and build evidence based confidence. This is for anyone who wants stronger emotional regulation, cleaner communication, better relationships, and a spiritual lens that stays grounded in standards, values, and real world results.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

24 Joulu 24min

In this Voice of the Broken episode, Chris reads and responds to three raw listener emails that hit the real pressure points men carry, marriage separation and reconciliation, stepfamily tension, co-parenting boundaries, and the mental load of trying to lead your home while life keeps swinging. You’ll hear a Patreon member share how writing his story, prioritizing quality time with his wife, and stepping up at work helped turn a failing marriage around, plus Chris’s blunt coaching on staying present, dropping the future panic, and handling an ex with clear, firm boundaries. The episode also dives into a 39-year-old man’s relationship history, porn addiction recovery, trust issues, and the desire to start a family later in life, with practical advice on values alignment, dating with intention, and why journaling is a non-negotiable tool for self-leadership. Finally, a 21-year-old Army reservist and mechanic shares a heavy upbringing marked by addiction, instability, and betrayal, and Chris breaks down how to protect your mental health, build real community, set boundaries with a toxic parent, and create friendships that match your standards, especially when you feel lonely and misunderstood.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

24 Joulu 56min

In this Voice of the Broken episode on the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris Burkett reads a powerful listener update about healing the father wound, surviving childhood abuse, and breaking generational cycles. You’ll hear a raw story of parental alienation, self worth collapsing under lies, then a decade later, reconnection, forgiveness, grief, and the moment every boy craves, “I’m proud of you.” Chris weaves in his own experience, why psychological warfare hits different than bruises, and why civil co parenting matters if you don’t want to quietly sabotage your child’s identity, confidence, and future relationships. Expect real talk on how men rebuild themselves when they’ve been trained to believe they aren’t enough, plus practical tools that actually move the needle, journaling, community, honest accountability, and learning to give grief a place to go instead of letting it rot into anger. The episode also touches on the role of plant medicine experiences for perspective shifts, why being a stepdad can be deeply meaningful, and how to stop begging for love by becoming a man who can carry it, receive it, and aim it with intention. If you’re dealing with toxic parents, estranged family, divorce fallout, depression, shame, or you’re trying to become the one who ends the cycle for your kids, this one will land. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

23 Joulu 48min

Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.In this episode we read a raw, vulnerable email from a long-time community member whose 14 year marriage has been rocked by emotional cheating, digital infidelity and self-sabotage on both sides. We break down her story of online flirting, texting clients, TikTok DMs, sending “innocent” selfies to other men, performance issues in the bedroom, hormone struggles, deep insecurity, mom burnout, and a husband who now considers them separated. You’ll hear us call out rationalizations like “it was just a selfie,” “nothing sexual,” “we were separated in my head,” and “I don’t know why I did it,” and dig into the truth about attention-seeking online, fantasy relationships, and how selfies, DMs, and secret conversations become emotional affairs that destroy trust, respect, and intimacy.We walk you through what accountability actually looks like after betrayal, how to stop blame shifting to “internal demons” and past trauma, how to apologize without justifying, and how to rebuild or walk away when digital cheating and emotional affairs have already crossed the line. We talk monogamy, open-phone policies, boundaries with the opposite sex, no-private-DM rules, parasocial relationships, stay-at-home mom resentment, the self-imposed prison of housework, and why your marriage will always mirror the effort you give it. If you’re dealing with emotional cheating, online flirting, TikTok and Instagram DMs, low self-worth, or a partner who says you’re “separated,” this marriage advice conversation will give you brutal honesty, practical language, and a clear standard for what real change and healing in a relationship actually require.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

22 Joulu 1h 29min

Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.In this 2 Be Better Podcast deep dive, Chris and Peaches break down what the Divine Feminine and Sacred Masculine actually are, and why they are about energy and polarity, not just gender or body parts. They walk through a full framework of feminine energy as intuition, nurture, receptivity, beauty, empathy, and creative flow, and contrast it with the shadow side of chaotic emotions, manipulation, people pleasing, lack of boundaries, and losing yourself in others’ needs. You will hear them connect Divine Feminine energy to Mother Earth, discernment, nervous system regulation, and learning to see emotions as sacred messengers instead of weakness, while also calling out toxic feminine traits and how they show up in gossip, drama, and constant validation seeking. From there they unpack Sacred Masculine energy as presence, integrity, direction, discipline, protection, courage, and stability, and then expose its shadow side of rigidity, control, domination, emotional distance, and achievement over presence. They show how Divine Feminine and Sacred Masculine work together in real relationships and marriages, including lesbian and gay couples, and explain why polarity, safety, trust, and leadership matter more than trendy “gender role” arguments. You will get practical ideas for getting into your feminine energy with creativity, dance, art, self care, boundaries, journaling, and breathwork, and stepping into sacred masculine with physical health, stretching, mental discipline, purpose, and actually using the knowledge you have. If you are searching for divine feminine healing, masculine energy in relationships, polarity in marriage, conscious partnership, shadow work, or spiritual growth in love, this episode gives you a complete blueprint, not just vague internet quotes.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

19 Joulu 1h 4min

In this episode, we celebrate the 3 year anniversary of the 2 Be Better journey, closing out Season 3 and officially kicking off Season 4 with a real, behind the scenes year in review. You’ll hear how the show evolved from early technical chaos to a thriving relationship coaching community, what it took to push through hate, pressure, and doubt, and why reinvesting in skills, gear, and consistency matters if you want real growth as a creator, entrepreneur, and leader at home. You’ll also get practical marriage and family insights, including parenting routines like cutting morning screen time, using imagination and story building with your kids, and the mindset shift that comes with boundaries and follow through. The conversation covers guided meditation and sound bath work, the importance of community through Patreon and Discord, the reality of retreats and travel, and how faith, healing, and big life experiences reshaped the way they show up for each other, their kids, and their mission. If you’re here for relationship advice, traditional values, marriage communication tools, personal growth, and building a strong family culture, this episode shows you what to expect next, and why Season 4 is about to level up.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

17 Joulu 49min