#222: I've Led Over 100 People Through Retreats. Here's the 5 Patterns We All Share.

You are a pattern breaker. You just might not know it yet.

In this episode, I reflect on facilitating over 100 people through retreats (and thousands more through breathwork and cold immersion experiences) and break down the five patterns I see come up again and again. These aren't random. These are the patterns we all share in some way, shape, or form. And the beautiful thing? They can all be reprogrammed.

I share real stories from retreats, from a woman who couldn't ask for help zipping up her jacket to a high powered businesswoman who was so deep in her masculine she'd lost touch with her softness. I also get personal about my own patterns, including a moment on a plane where I had to muster the courage to set a simple boundary with a stranger.

Whether it's people pleasing, not trusting your body, being out of balance with your masculine or feminine energy, having a toxic relationship with emotions, or hiding behind the masks and roles you play, this episode is an invitation to see yourself and start doing the work.

Key takeaways:

• The five patterns we all share (and how to spot them in yourself)

• Why asking for help is one of the hardest things for good hearted people

• How cold immersion exposes your patterns and forces you to soften

• The shift from "I am sad" to "I feel sadness" and why it changes everything

• When you block your authentic self, you deprive the universe of its full expression

We are ancient beings living in a modern world. Your patterns are not your destiny. Go break some today.

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