SS 289: Gang Bang the Mailbag 32 - "My Wife and I"

SS 289: Gang Bang the Mailbag 32 - "My Wife and I"

Eighteen episodes is the longest we've ever gone without a listener mailbag episode, so tonight we've dug in deep with a new collection of listener questions including a highly coveted voicemail (573-55-SWING folks)! Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dylan Thomas field your questions and dig deep. In addition to fielding a voicemail question about dating and learning about how to put out what you're up for, we responded to:

Question 2:

My wife and I each identify as Poly. We have been actively practicing non-monogamy for a number of years now. This past year however, I was diagnosed with depression and bipolar. living and coping with this condition has really brought strife into our relationship. Therefore, after much consultation with each other and my therapist we have decided to close our marriage for now. There were no active outside relationships at the time, so there was no pulling couple's privilege.

Now however, after this initial period of introspection, I found myself asking this question:
Why do people (huge sweeping generalization there) who identify as Poly or otherwise non-monogamous seem to default to monogamy when things get tough with one of the relationships (usually the "primary")?

Shouldn't someone who identifies as Poly, have Poly as their default/fall back situation?

Question 3:

my wife & I have been talking about swinging for a while now and we've talked with a few couples but haven't been able to set up a meet yet. the question we have is how do we get over the nervousness of bringing a fantasy to reality and what happens if we don't like the reality of it

Question 4:

Dear Swingset.

My wife and I have been together for 5 years and my sexual experiences is quite limited. I have many fetishes and we stumbled into a FMF threesome one drunken evening. We have explored some of my fantasies together but many make her uncomfortable and we mostly stick to vanilla sex and light bondage.

We are both bisexual and I have never had a sexual experience with another man. I gently brought up the idea of us trying swinging and exploring the many M and F configurations together. This lead to fights and her refusing to even have the discussion with me. She would not let me do this on my own nor with her with the cost being our relationship. After several month I brought it up again and after a long and emotional talk we agreed that we would dip our toes but do everything together, she would set the pace and have veto powers. We started on Feeld and after a couple dates with couples found that she has no physical attractions to males with the exception of me. This is problematic as it leaves me with no males to pursue and us to go unicorn hunting.

Long story short we stopped our adventure with nothing gained except a deepened resentment towards me for 'pressuring' her into uncomfortable situations that she didn't want to be a part of anyways. By making the rules that we did everything together she felt she had no choice.

Now I'm in a situation where I will not have a chance to be with any other men or women or explore my fetishes for the cost of exploring is my marriage. I feel resentment towards her and my level of physical and emotional attraction towards has suffered greatly.

What am I to do?

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#405 - Squicks or Turn-Ons?

#405 - Squicks or Turn-Ons?

We've all been faced with a situation where we've come across an action, a thing, a vision, a taste, a touch, a smell, a scene, where we've experienced an unexpected and extreme aversion… a squick, or… perhaps it was a surprise turn-on. Tyler, Lunabelle, Ryan, Ginger, Tonya, Tonia, and Dylan get together to talk about these unexpected reactions and tell some stories… some sexy, strange, surprising stories.   You can find Lunabelle on BlueSky at @Ninjasexology! You can find Ryan on Instagram at RyanAKAProf! You can find Ginger on Instagram at GingerBentham! You can find Tonia on Instagram at ToniaTheThomas! You can find Tonya everywhere (Facebook, Instagram, Discord, Facebook, and more) at YesThatTonya! You can find Dylan on Mastodon and all across the Fediverse at swingset.social at DylanTheThomas!   Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).   Intro Music: Sullivan King & Vastive – Slaughter Outro Music: Sullivan King – The Beginning

27 Marras 20241h 30min

#403: User Manual, or Dungeon Crawl? What's Your Preference?

#403: User Manual, or Dungeon Crawl? What's Your Preference?

Are you the kind of person that prefers to meet someone new knowing a little something about them, or do you treat meeting new people like it's a video game dungeon crawl with no map, no instructions, nothing but a flashlight and a can-do attitude? Duncan, Ryan, Ginger, Tonya, Tonia, and Dylan get together to talk about meeting new people in social settings, first dates, play parties, and everything in between!   You can find Duncan as Duncan42 on Kasidie, Fetlife, and as NewToThis42 on SLS! You can find Ryan on Instagram at RyanAKAProf! You can find Ginger on Instagram at GingerBentham! You can find Tonia on Instagram at ToniaTheThomas! You can find Tonya everywhere (Facebook, Instagram, Discord, Facebook, and more) at YesThatTonya! You can find Dylan on Mastodon and all across the Fediverse at swingset.social at DylanTheThomas!   Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!   Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).   Intro & Outro Music: Dirtyphonics & Circadian – You Want Me Robot Ginger Music: Robotaki – Automaton Business Music: Matroda – Shut It Down

18 Marras 20241h 16min

#402 - More Than Two, Second Edition - With Andrea Zanin and Eve Rickert

#402 - More Than Two, Second Edition - With Andrea Zanin and Eve Rickert

Ginger and Dylan interview Andrea Zanin and Eve Rickert about the release of their new book: More Than Two, Second Edition! They touch on More Than Two, Second Edition's place as both an introduction for people new to open relationships, and as a deeply needed and timely reintroduction to improving relationships for more experienced practitioners of various forms of nonmonogamy.   You can find More Than Two, Second Edition, at morethantwo.ca! You can find Eve Rickert on Bluesky, Instagram, and at brighterthansunflowers.com! You can find Andrea Zanin on Twitter, Bluesky, Facebook, and at sexgeek.workpress.com!     Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!   Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).     Intro & Interstitial Music: Shingo Nakamura, Mango, Nina Carr – Solace

1 Marras 20241h 36min

#401 - Kissing is Taboo Again? - Elevator Speeches & Safety

#401 - Kissing is Taboo Again? - Elevator Speeches & Safety

How did kissing become so complicated... again? Swinger culture still features a choice, to kiss or not to kiss, that other non-monogamous folk don't usually make. These days, the stakes around kissing are higher, and that's complicated things as simple as kissing to say hello . Ginger, Prof, Tonia, Dylan, Lunabelle, Tonya, and Tyler get together to talk about their Elevator Speeches, and whether kissing is taboo again!     Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

24 Joulu 20231h 6min

#400 - ReEmergence

#400 - ReEmergence

Dylan, Ginger, Tonia, and Prof get back together to properly toast Life on the Swingset's 400th episode! The crew invites back Lunabelle, Tyler, and Tonya, and welcomes D into the fold to discuss ReEmergence and discovering intimacy… again. The crew discusses what returning to normal might look like during a time … very much not normal. D, and Lunabelle share what emerging and finding their people and their communities in the midst of the pandemic feels like, while Tyler and Tonya talk about finding their way just before, and during the pandemic. Gin, Prof, Tonia, and Dylan talk about change, allowing for space, and everyone looks forward to charting a future full of friends, community, and pleasure. Also, Prof talks about VR Golf, which was the most important part of the episode.     Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).   Intro Music: F.O.O.L – Duality Business Music: Tokyo Machine – STEREO Outro Music: Aftruu – Falling Asleep

3 Joulu 20231h 4min

SS 399: We Go Meta on Swinging and Making the Sausage... and talk Sex Toys - from Friday Night Delights from February 5th, 2021

SS 399: We Go Meta on Swinging and Making the Sausage... and talk Sex Toys - from Friday Night Delights from February 5th, 2021

Ginger, Prof, Tonia, and Dylan get together on a normal Friday in February 2021 to plan a podcast about swinging… and almost fall into the trap of talking about swinging. Swingset gets meta, discussing swinging as a verb, swinger as a noun, new england accents, and …talking about Sportsheets and sex toys and restraints. a lot.   Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!     Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).     Intro and Outro Music: ARMNHMR feat. Heleen – Drowning

1 Syys 20231h 14min

SS 398: Swingset as a Place... with Princess Vi

SS 398: Swingset as a Place... with Princess Vi

Princess Vi and I talk about what it means to build pop-up inclusive, welcoming, and sex friendly communities, and we wander about discussing what goes into that secret sauce… and what it feels like when you get it right, and … when you don't have it. *** EMBED CODE FOR PODCAST FROM LIBSYN GOES HERE YOU INSENSITIVE CLOD *** Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).   SHIP (Sexual Health Includes Pleasure) is running their Pleasure Equity Campaign, an annual initiative to raise funds to reduce barriers to pleasure-guided sexual health resources so that all adults can reclaim pleasure in their daily lives and by using those resources as tools for healing, self-preservation, and resistance. Every donation SHIP receives through this campaign allows them to offer workshops, therapy, and professional development opportunities to the community for free or at a significantly reduced rate. Life on the Swingset believes in SHIP's mission and they're committed to making sexual health programming a community service, but they can't do it without community support. Please join them in this important work by donating to the Pleasure Equity Campaign today Cold Intro Music: CloudNone, Direct & Exist Strategy – Parallels Intro and Outro Music: CloudNone, Direct & Aether – See The Light

13 Huhti 202349min

SS 397: ...and at least one amorous bird on this resort. - Swingset Takes Desire 2022, Part 2

SS 397: ...and at least one amorous bird on this resort. - Swingset Takes Desire 2022, Part 2

Continuing on from Part 1 of our live podcast on our trip in Cancun, Ginger initiates a tonal shift, Keeley makes sure everyone knows that more than gang bangs happen, Cooper talks about birds, Prof shares more deep thoughts, Tonia shares joy while serving the people, Ginger makes sure everyone knows that gang bangs happen, and Dylan continues to insult the audience. Multiple audience members share their passionate and heartfelt resort experiences with everyone.     Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!     Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).     Intro Music: zensei ゼンセー – spadina 3am Outro Music: zensei ゼンセー – who we are

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