How To Ruin a Night Out: Three tips

How much power do you give the random strangers in Las Vegas. On Friday we had tickets to see Jim Gaffigan in Las Vegas. I was looking forward to it. Darcy was, too. Unfortunately, Jim got Covid and the show was canceled at the last minute. We didn’t find out until after we were down there and had dinner. So, we decided to catch another show. While I went to the bathroom Darcy and our friends picked Penn and Teller. It was ok. Kind of cool to see people that are famous. We went to dinner, we went shopping at Trader Joe’s because we don’t have one here in St George. So, if you are listening and have any clout with the TJ’s people, please let us have one here. Then we went over to the Rio where the Penn and Teller show is. We were about an hour early, so we decided to just hang out in the parking lot since none of us gamble and the inside of a casino is still a place where you can smoke in Las Vegas. Boy did we get a show before the show. To our surprise, we found that the Rio parking lot was the shuttle area for those going to an outdoor music event that features electronic dance music called Electric Daisy Carnival. From what I could tell this is a music festival where the women dress in their absolutely most revealing clothes and the men dress up in the same thing they would wear to go play basketball. This was an amazing opportunity for us to practice what we preach here on the podcast and that we help people work on and through in our membership and individual coaching. We would like to share our experience with you and a few tips on how you can thrive as individuals and couples when life offers you an experience like the one that we had on Friday. Just because someone is showing their body, that doesn’t mean my partner is sexualizing it. It was good to see the body objectively They were just moving across the stage It was a physical representation of letting something come into your mind and allowing it to move off on its own. They came and then they went one after another. Really, objectively noticing but not sexualizing. In the past, would have been a lot more on high alert I wasn’t a zero on the calm level, but I wasn’t panicking. It was so absurd that we could talk and joke about it rather than making it more than just what we were seeing. Just because there is a nearly naked body, that doesn’t mean that it’s a problem. - In the past I would have to pretend that I’m not seeing this. I wouldn’t have been able to mention anything that I was seeing and I would not have been able relax at all. It was a dishonest position inherently. Indicating that I was seeing it would have created greater tension But there would have been a lot of tension there already. It would have been this fake moment. Then I would have waited for the inevitable questions from Darcy “What were you looking at” “were you fantasizing about it” Were you wishing I wasn’t there so you could just gawk? Is that going to lead to something? I don’t have to give my power and emotional energy to the random strangers I wouldn’t have been able to be present, or enjoy myself, There wouldn't have been laughing or joking This would have felt like a threat, almost like a life and death situation The way i don’t give away my power is by realizing, I don’t have control over this and neither does my partner. Also, realizing that this is legal, Other people find this ok, and I don’t have to be mad about that. “Ok, alright, these people are dressed for the moment” and that’s ok I wouldn’t have worn that. It was asking, how much power do I want to give these strangers that are...