S2 Ep. 16: My Husband Only Wants Anal Sex, My partner Was a Virgin, and Is It The Kiss of Death if We Sleep in Separate Beds?

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:

1) When my husband and I met in our early 40’s, we had a lot of sex that was fairly vanilla but very passionate. Over time, the frequency has decreased. I don’t like being the initiator so there’s not been much I can do to have sex more other than be incredibly enthusiastic when he does want it. The problem is that, over time, he’s become more interested in anal sex than vaginal sex. Having things put in my butt does not arouse me at all, but now it seems to be all he wants and all he can get off on. I wonder if he’s watching tons of anal porn and this has somehow taken over his erotic life. I don’t want to discourage sex or demand he desires things he doesn’t, but I desperately miss regular sex. How can I get him interested again?

2) My husband and I have been together for over 20 years and recently we have been in a bit of a slump. He was a virgin before he met me and I was not. He recently told me that he is a bit envious that I had experience before we got together. He only said it to me once but I worry that he feels that he's missed out. How can I help him through this? I trust him and know that cheating is not an issue.

3) Sadly for my wife, I’ve started to snore as I age. This means she has badly disturbed nights. We are lucky, we have a solution: a spare room. I do sleep there every now and then to give her a break. But my snoring is so bad, I fear I might have to move into the spare room permanently. If I do this, is it the start of a slippery slope? Might our really great relationship start to suffer? We have a good sex life, usually enjoying it in the mornings, so I can readily slip back into the marital bed for a romp, or even invite my wife round to mine. Do you think it’s a problem?

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