190: Collaborative Divorce: Divorce Without the Drama, Blaming, and Pain with Sonia Frontera

“The focus needs to be on what you're going to create going forward. It's not after the divorce is over, start right now!” -Sonia Frontera

When we think about divorce, it's easy to put all of the blame on our ex. And while that might feel good at the moment, it can ultimately hurt us, our former spouse, and our kids in the long run. When we try and make someone else the bad guy, we get caught up in the blame game. We get caught up in fighting over things that don't matter to us anymore. And it keeps us stuck. It keeps us from moving forward and healing.

But our ex is not the enemy here, and we are not either! But we know that the only person who can hurt us is ourselves. While it is pretty easy to get caught up in the anger and resentment of the situation, it is important to remember that there are ways to approach it so we can come out of the process with a better relationship with our ex and make the experience better for everyone, especially our kids.

In this episode, Ted sits with trainer, author, and divorce lawyer Sonia Frontera to discuss the realities of divorce and the good things that can come out of the process if spouses approached it collaboratively. But first and foremost, unless it is an abusive relationship, the priority should be to save the marriage. After all, it is a sacred union. Ted and Sonia share practical steps that couples can take before even deciding to cut the cord. But the question is, what if in the end, they still decided to push through with the divorce? Tune in and learn how ex-spouses can navigate life after divorce and find happiness again.

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Highlights:

01:24 Empowering Others Through a Stormy Marriage

04:55 What is Collaborative Divorce?

07:38 How to Rekindle the Fire of Marriage

12:35 Chip Away the Pain

18:37 Dating After Divorce

23:00 Change Your Narrative, Change Your Outcome

25:59 Recap