Nicole LePera: How to Break the Cycle of Trauma Bonds & Stop Toxic Relationship Habits

Nicole LePera: How to Break the Cycle of Trauma Bonds & Stop Toxic Relationship Habits

What are your emotional needs?

How do you communicate them clearly?

Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Nicole LePera, a holistic psychologist, best-selling author, and founder of the SelfHealers Circle, a global community for self-healing. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller "How to Do the Work," and her latest book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," guides readers on breaking cycles, finding peace, and healing relationships. Dr. LePera is known for her approachable, transformative approach to mental wellness, empowering individuals to heal themselves and live authentically.

Nicole talks about how our earliest experiences shape our adult relationships. She explains the concept of trauma bonds—dysfunctional patterns that often stem from childhood but persist into adulthood, affecting how we connect with others. These bonds can feel familiar and even comforting, but they often prevent us from forming healthy, fulfilling relationships.

Jay and Nicole explore how awareness is the first step toward breaking these patterns. They emphasize the importance of understanding our subconscious beliefs and the roles we play in relationships, often unknowingly repeating cycles of pain and misunderstanding. She talks about the importance of staying present, learning to regulate our emotions, and building healthier habits that align with our true selves, and offers practical advice on how to navigate the complexities of love, whether it's setting boundaries with toxic family members or letting go of unrealistic expectations in romantic relationships.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to recognize trauma bonds

How to break the cycle of reactivity

How to set healthy boundaries

How to cultivate self-awareness

How to develop emotional resilience

How to foster a growth mindset in relationships

Remember, every moment is an opportunity to choose differently, to show up for ourselves with kindness, and to build the relationships we truly deserve.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:44 You Create Change

06:58 Toxic Family Members

11:21 Change is Voluntary

14:33 Deep Rooted Emotions

18:35 Why We Struggle in Relationships

22:58 The Unmet Needs

27:27 We Project What We Think to Others

34:29 Familiarity with Chaos

38:18 Is It Genuine Love?

41:55 Panic Attack

48:54 Chronic Illness

53:54 Countering Beliefs

57:17 Physiological Shifts

01:01:11 What is a Trauma Bond?

01:04:25 Attraction Based on Familiarity

01:06:24 Inner Child Work

01:09:41 The Habit of Showing Up Authentically

Episode Resources:

Nicole LePera | Website

Nicole LePera | Instagram

Nicole LePera | Facebook

Nicole LePera | TikTok

Nicole LePera | YouTube

Nicole LePera | LinkedIn

How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self

How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

Special thank you to Kajabi. Visit: https://kajabi.com/JayShetty

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