71. What to Do When They Pull Back with Jonathan Van Viegen

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’ve got couples therapist Johnathan Van Viegen on the show as we take on the pull back.

You know, the experience you’ve maybe had when you’re dating someone, and then their energy shifts and they seem to pull back? Or maybe that person has been you?!

Why does this happen and how can we approach it without letting fear or anxiety take over?

Jonathan offers a thoughtful perspective on approaching these situations with curiosity, understanding, and self-compassion that I think you’ll be very interested to hear!

We also explore how to reframe your needs as wants and desires to create open and collaborative communication with potential partners. Johnathan introduces his red flag/green flag strategy, which helps you evaluate someone's intentions while maintaining healthy boundaries so you can date with clarity and confidence.

Finally, we discuss the importance of cultivating self-love and the belief that the love you seek is not only deserved, but absolutely attainable.

So, whether you're dealing with mixed signals or simply looking for ways to feel more secure in your dating life, this episode is full of insights to help you date with more focus.

Alright flirties, let’s meet Jonathan!

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About our guest: Jonathan Van Viegen, the Guy Who Saves Marriages (Without the Fluff), is a couples therapist and relationship coach who helps partners break out of the same exhausting fights, stop feeling like roommates, and actually enjoy being married again. His no-nonsense, solution-focused approach skips the therapy jargon and gets straight to what works—helping couples feel chosen and cherished again.

Through his IG Lives, reels, and direct coaching, Jonathan delivers real, actionable strategies that actually fix what’s broken—without the endless “processing” that keeps couples stuck. His work is all about fast progress, deep connection, and practical tools that make a lasting impact.

You can connect with Jonathan on Instagram.

About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

💗 Happy flirting!