Boundaries vs. Self-Sabotage
Confidence21 Huhti 2025

Boundaries vs. Self-Sabotage

Is it a healthy boundary, or are you just pushing something good away? In today’s episode, I’m getting very real about the breakup I just went through, how hard it was to walk away from something that felt safe, and the deep emotional battle between fear and alignment. I’m reading straight from my journal after ending the relationship, and sharing what finally gave me clarity. Then, I’m answering a listener’s question about what to do when someone shows up the right way and it still freaks you out. Honestly I am going to need to make a part 2, because after watching it back, I might be looking at things differently...I'll end it with a wild “one’s gotta go” segment, because f**k it.


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Chapters:

00:00 Intro: Boundaries vs Self-Sabotage + Post Break up Journal

44:52 Overcoming Sabotaging Peaceful Partners After Toxic Relationships

55:18 Pick 2: Tightness, Wetness, Balanced PH

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