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Season 5, Episode 701: Topics include Relationships, Confessions, Personal story, sexuality and intimacy. Guest: Gallo Chingon  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/gallo.s.chingon/ Reddit https://www.reddit.com/user/gallo-s-chingon/ Have you ever wondered where the line falls between enjoying sex and using it as an escape? Gallo Chingon sat through Celebrate Recovery meetings out of boredom, supporting a friend, when someone else's addiction story struck him with unexpected force. By mentally replacing "drugs" with "sex" in the speaker's words, he suddenly recognized his own patterns—nineteen out of twenty behaviors driven purely by pursuit. For nearly twenty years, he'd measured his masculinity by numbers, treating women disposably and manipulating without remorse (behavior that eventually contributed to homelessness). When his ex-wife revealed his betrayals to their daughter at age twelve, it severed their relationship for over twenty years. Through therapy and programs like Celebrate Recovery, Gallo learned the crucial distinction between sex and intimacy. "They're fundamentally different experiences," he explains. While he now maintains a polyamorous relationship and works actively with therapists to build emotional connection, he still struggles to link physical intimacy with genuine feelings. His damaged dopamine and oxytocin systems leave him emotionally numb during sex, even as he pursues healthier long-term partnerships. By understanding the difference between using sex as stress relief and creating meaningful connection, it transformed everything. Listen how recognizing addiction patterns can open pathways to genuine intimacy and personal growth. Key Takeaways: • **Sex addiction operates identically to substance addiction, though are not the same because no substance is involved** — Gallo's compulsive sexual behavior triggered the same dopamine-seeking cycle as drugs, revealing that behavioral addictions can be neurologically equivalent to chemical dependencies rather than mere moral failings. • **Chronic sexual compulsion creates emotional numbness** — Rather than seeking pleasure, his addictive patterns actually dulled his capacity to feel, making genuine intimacy impossible and trapping him in a paradoxical cycle where more sexual activity meant less actual sensation. • **Recovery doesn't eliminate the struggle** — Even within a polyamorous relationship with therapeutic support, Gallo continues wrestling with integrating physical and emotional connection, demonstrating that healing is ongoing rather than a destination, and structured recovery alone cannot solve the deeper relational work required. PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/ Support the show and get exclusive content Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow All Ruan's links: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate link Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

19 Joulu 1h 15min

Season 5, Episode 700: By the Bonfire Sex Game Excerpt. We are by the bonfire one steamy night and things get extra hot. Enjoy this sexy bonfire sex game told in the second person, so "you" participate in this sexy scene where pretending to be horny fireflies turns into kinky intense hide and seek. This story is a yummy display of consensual desires and a rendering of delicious exciting masculine dominance and alluring lush feminine submission. Contains light BDSM elements, language, and rich moaning. Get the full audio on Ruan's Patreon: Ruan's Patreon Ruan's books: Ruan's Spicy Books FREE erotica and erotic romance books through 12/17/25 Access to FREE erotica books Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate deal: Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

16 Joulu 15min

Season 5, Episode 699: Eleven Years of Anonymity and Sex Confessions: How Radical Non-Judgment Built a Top-Charting Confessions Podcast...meet the podcaster Kathy Kay! She has interviewed people about their secret sex lives for 11 years and turned her favorite stories into a book! *THE BOOK IS NOW OUT!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/47ApifU Want to share your sex story? *Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Follow Kathy Kay on: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcas Subscribe for Ruan's exclusive content: Exclusive Content Key Takeaways: • **Anonymity enables radical honesty** — Removing the host's identity, combined with genuine non-judgment, unlocked unprecedented vulnerability from callers that wouldn't occur in traditional media formats. • **Hosting changed the host more than the audience** — Years of listening to others' intimate confessions made Kathy significantly less judgmental of herself and others, fundamentally shifting her personal worldview. Hosting the podcast helped her in personal growth and self discovery. • **Success requires protecting loved ones from it** — Despite building a top-charting show, Kathy deliberately hides her professional identity from family to shield them from potential social judgment, suggesting visibility and intimacy can't always coexist. Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

12 Joulu 51min

Season 5, Episode 698: Kevin is Candy's Dom. She revels in being his sub and triggering him into his dominant, intense, sexy Dom mode. He's working. But she's horny. She's got plans and it involves pulling out her sexual charms from her tool belt. As he comes down the stairs, she ambushes him with her talents and what she gets is exactly what she wants. The results are delicious to them both. **Enjoy this short smutty story which was originally spun as erotic improv by podcaster Ruan Willow as she narrated this story live as a recording for her podcast Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow. Want the full story? Subscribe to get it: Seduction of Her Dom, the Full Story View all the exclusive content

9 Joulu 14min

**Shame doesn't just make you feel bad, it fundamentally shapes how you experience your own body and desires.** Returning guest Dr. Alison Ash breaks down exactly why shame is so destructive to sexual wellness. Unlike guilt (which says you did something wrong), shame tells you that *you yourself* are wrong, creating a deep fear of rejection that literally dysregulates your nervous system. This isn't something we're born with. It develops through early experiences where we internalize negative reactions, eventually becoming that harsh inner critic voice. The contradictory messages are especially confusing: women should look desirable but not actually desire, while men should always be sexually available yet their desire is somehow dangerous. These cultural and religious influences create confusion that conscious rejection alone can't fix. Here's where it gets interesting: empathy is shame's antidote. When someone truly accepts you without judgment, healing becomes possible. (This is why finding sex-positive communities matters so much.) Dr. Aly explains how even BDSM can be healing for trauma survivors through consensual power exchange—reclaiming control over experiences where they previously had none. What if the fantasies or interests that make you feel broken are actually completely normal? Ready to understand the difference between your own feelings and society's expectations? This conversation offers practical strategies for recognizing shame's sources and reclaiming your agency. Estimated Timeline: 00:00:00 - Moving Through Shame and Sexual Wellness 00:02:09 - Guilt vs Shame: Understanding the Inner Critic 00:04:47 - Inner Shame and Sexuality's Cultural Conditioning 00:08:56 - Shame's Impact on Sexual Pleasure and Embodiment 00:10:48 - Shame, Empathy, and Healing Through Connection 00:14:33 - Power Exchange as Healing and Shame Reframing 00:17:43 - Reading Fiction as Healing and Normalization 00:19:14 - Shame Prevents Us From Enjoying Pleasure 00:21:33 - Building Trust Through Gradual Vulnerability 00:26:02 - Understanding Sexual Non-Concordance and Shame 00:28:45 - Unpacking Body Shame Through Conversation 00:32:56 - Lubrication Myths and Sexual Shame 00:35:17 - Being Selective About Who You Share With 00:37:09 - Sex Toys as Tools, Not Shame 00:41:12 - Internet's Role in Community and Identity 00:44:00 - Building Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. Dr. Aly invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love  Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills online course on Tues, Jan 27th-Mar 17th We all receive messages about who we are supposed to be, how we ought to feel, and how we should express ourselves, often enforced through shame and disconnection. Featuring 8 classes with a woven balance of science-based data, embodied exploration, and skills development designed to support you in creating, deepening, and sustaining sexual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s). Recordings available for those who can't attend live or want extra review. Super early bird tickets available now for $200-$400 off! Coaching:   Last but not least, reach out to Dr. Aly for individual, couples, and ENM coaching support!    All links: www.TurnON.love  Sustainable Intimacy Retreat: https://www.turnon.love/sustainable-intimacy-retreat Sustainable Intimacy On Demand Rental: https://www.turnon.love/sustainable-intimacy SEIS course: https://www.turnon.love/sexual-and-emotional-intimacy-skills Coaching: https://www.turnon.love/sex-and-intimacy-coaching Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

5 Joulu 50min

Age Gap Excerpt from John Gives His Wife Hot Adventures. This is a short excerpt from the book because the podcast host platform is now censoring me, after five years of being fine with my content. I will be looking for a new host platform that doesn't censor love and romance. We should all be fighting for our rights to free speech. Censorship comes in many forms, like this where they are de-platforming me. Never stop fighting for the right to free speech from the First Amendment of the United States. Protect the First Amendment! Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

2 Joulu 17min

Episode 695: From Threesomes to Non-Monogamy: One Man's Journey Beyond Jealousy and Shame with author Adam Darrow about his edgy, honest, and raw memoir "Seek the Risk" (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3KrboVR When Adam Darrow met Jane at forty, he thought he was the adventurous one. After all, he'd spent his twenties competing in extreme sports and had explored threesomes—that made him pretty edgy, right? Then Jane, a PhD psychologist who spoke five languages, told him she didn't do boyfriends (and she meant it). Drawing from his background in extreme sports, Darrow spent two and a half years transitioning into non-monogamy, followed by three challenging years of emotional work before finding equilibrium. The journey wasn't easy. When Jane publicly announced their arrangement on Facebook in 2009, Darrow watched his life wildly transform. His best friend called him derogatory names. But over time, he discovered something unexpected: jealousy could be channeled into motivation to become a better partner. What initially felt emasculating became an opportunity to overcome deep-seated insecurities like imposter syndrome and validation-seeking. His memoir chronicles this transformative experience through vulnerable storytelling that includes explicit extreme sexual details and uncomfortable emotional truths, as well as healing and growth. How did keeping emotions bottled up nearly break him? The book explores that question while advocating for moving beyond societal shame around sexuality, relationship conformity, and focusing on personal authenticity rather than rigid beliefs about relationships. Estimated Timeline:  Adam Darrow's Journey Into Non-Monogamy 00:03:40 - PhD Psychologist with Unconventional Past 00:06:43 - Extreme Sports Skills Applied to Non-Monogamy 00:09:13 - Separating Sex from Emotion in Relationships 00:19:57 - Managing Jealousy Through Don't Ask, Don't Tell 00:22:26 - From Jealousy to Compersion in Open Relationships 00:25:11 - Breaking Through Shame and Choosing Each Other 00:28:42 - Walking the Beach: Questioning My Limits, book excerpt 00:33:17 - Understanding Nesting Couples and Non-Monogamy 00:39:43 - Letting Go of Control in Relationships 00:46:22 - Vulnerability and Authenticity in Memoir Writing 00:51:51 - Writing the Book and Her Reaction 00:58:17 - Identity Beyond Sexual Acts, sexuality 01:06:44 - Overcoming Jealousy Through Personal Growth 01:11:27 - Healthy vs Unhealthy Jealousy in Relationships Connect with Adam Darrow:  Link to the books website  www.seektherisk.net Substack seektherisk.substack.com Email for folks to contact Adam at adam@seektherisk.net insta:   @seektherisk Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

28 Marras 1h 19min

Episode 693: Ruan does erotic fiction improv, spinning a sexy spicy hot story right off the top of her head roleplaying, getting into playing the character of Maria, a new hotwife. Maria is the new hotwife that Harry, her Daddy Dom has gotten her interested in being. Once Maria agrees to trying out the free-use hotwife role, Daddy sets up a party with all of his friends. Maria is very excited and slips on the sheer pink lingerie dress Daddy picked out for her. As she says, "It's like swiss cheese!" There's a perfectly delicious reason for this! Daddy gets a pre-party treat from Maria's mouth. Maria explores her humiliation and free use kinks. Pleasure abounds! But in the end, it's Daddy's turn to reclaim his sub and make her 'his sub' again. Oh the sheer luscious deliciousness! Enjoy this power exchange Dom/sub hotwife story I created right off the top of my head... it's erotic improv sex scene time again--so all you grammar police take a hike! This was live narration and damn did I have fun! Spicy fiction to heat up your ears in a flash! Ge your wife sharing fetish met, kinky vibes! A friends with benefits story, free use party style! Black Friday to Cyber Monday sale on Ruan's site! Get ebooks, signed paperbacks, and audiobooks for 50% OFF! Sale runs from 11/25/25 to 12/2/25 https://payhip.com/RuanWillowBooks $0.99 cents ebooks on sale https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ninetyninecentsbookssales Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

25 Marras 28min