S2 E3- This is my story. I get to decide who has the privilege of hearing it.

“This is my story. I get to decide who has the privilege of hearing it.”
—Step 5, TS-12 Anon

In today’s episode of Relational Trauma SOS, we explore what it means to reclaim authorship over our stories—especially after experiencing another’s abuse, addiction, adultery, or abandonment (what we call 4-A behavior).

For many survivors, sharing our experience can be layered with fear, shame, confusion, or heartbreak. We may have been blamed, dismissed, or asked painful questions like “Why didn’t you leave?” We may still be searching for the language to name what happened. And we’ve learned that not every space—or person—is safe.

This episode gently walks listeners through:

• Why trauma can make storytelling difficult

• How owning our story is an act of empowerment

• The healing impact of being compassionately witnessed

• How to set boundaries when deciding who gets to hear our story

• A beautiful meditation using the metaphor of a sacred book

Whether you’re ready to share, still finding your voice, or just beginning to believe that your story matters—this episode is for you.

Resources & Mentions:

• Visit ts12anon.org to find trauma-sensitive 12-step meetings

• Purchase the TS-12 Anon book (affiliate link)

• Learn more about our nonprofit at herwingsunfold.org

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