“This Is Just Who I Am” | When Your Husband Refuses To Change, BPD Healing, And Lusting After Others (Problem communicating pt2)

This video is a raw and unfiltered episode of Voice of the Broken, where Chris reads and responds to deeply personal listener stories about trauma, addiction, fatherhood, relationships, masculinity, and the slow process of rebuilding a life from the ground up. Through real emails sent by men who feel lost, ashamed, or stuck, this episode explores themes like ADHD, suicidal ideation, sobriety, generational wounds, failed relationships, discipline, purpose, and the power of small daily commitments. The conversation moves through childhood abuse, identity loss, porn addiction, toxic relationships, and the moment a man decides he’s done lying to himself and starts choosing growth instead. Viewers can expect hard truths, direct coaching, and honest reflection on what it actually takes to change your life when motivation is gone and excuses are easy. This video speaks directly to men who feel broken but know there’s more in them, fathers trying to lead better, partners questioning compatibility and growth, and anyone navigating self improvement, mental health, or relationship struggles. If you’re searching for men’s self growth, purpose driven masculinity, relationship advice without sugarcoating, or proof that progress is built one decision at a time, this episode will meet you exactly where you are and challenge you to move forward.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

8 Tammi 56min

Peaches and Chris have started doing stand alone bonus episodes that have been going on youtube. This is one of them that Peaches did today. If you enjoy this content, there is more of it on youtube. Go sub to our channel.Become a member of The Tribe- https://www.2bebetter.com/join Want to go to travel with us?! - https://trovatrip.com/host/profiles/2-be-qxob7 Couples and other retreats - https://www.2bebetter.com/retreats This episode is a deep, practical breakdown of the nervous system, polyvagal theory, and how trauma, stress, and lived experience shape your reactions, behaviors, and sense of safety. Instead of blaming mindset, discipline, or willpower, this conversation explains why inconsistency, emotional flooding, shutdown, people pleasing, burnout, and self abandonment are often nervous system responses, not character flaws. You’ll learn how the body scans for safety through neuroception, how the ventral vagal, sympathetic, and dorsal vagal states work, and why your system may feel stuck in urgency, collapse, or numbness even when you want change This video walks you through regulation, embodiment, and nervous system awareness in a grounded, real world way. You can expect clear explanations, relatable examples, breathwork and somatic tools, and guidance on responding to yourself without shame or force. This is for anyone struggling with emotional regulation, trauma recovery, boundaries, burnout, anxiety, shutdown, or feeling disconnected from their body and relationships. If you want to understand why you react the way you do and how to build safety, presence, and self trust from the inside out, this episode will meet you where you are.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

7 Tammi 52min

Become a member of The Tribe- https://www.2bebetter.com/joinWant to go to travel with us?! - https://trovatrip.com/host/profiles/2-be-qxob7Couples and other retreats - https://www.2bebetter.com/retreatshttps://www.tiktok.com/@my.fact.thoughts In this episode, a Cuban immigrant shares firsthand lessons from living under socialism and communism, and explains why Americans flirting with Marxism and “socialism on paper” may not understand what it looks like when these systems are put into practice. You’ll hear raw, specific examples of how authoritarian control shows up in daily life, including censorship, the absence of independent journalism, and the consequences people face for speaking out. The conversation also connects Cuba’s reality to Venezuela’s collapse, inflation, and scarcity, then pivots into U.S. politics, including the way “social democracy” gets marketed and compared to Sweden. Expect a direct comparison of capitalism vs socialism, discussion of taxes, incentives, corruption, and why “free” programs still come with real costs, plus a warning about how fast oppression can replace freedom of speech once government power grows unchecked.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

6 Tammi 1h 51min

In this Season 4 premiere of the To Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches look back on how a joke became a career, a community, and a movement, then dive straight into real life: bonus dad dynamics, parenting an autistic and ADHD son, and intentionally raising boys to be respectful, emotionally regulated young men. You will hear stories about work ethic, chivalry, opening doors, and a powerful moment with a Vietnam veteran that drives home why traditional values and gentlemanly behavior still matter. They also pull back the curtain on Peaches’ new affirmations project, future PDF drops, and the idea of an intimate West Coast couples retreat at Point Lobos, showing you how they build family, business, and community on purpose. The heart of this episode is a raw email from a listener who left an emotionally and physically abusive relationship after a 15 year marriage and a childhood soaked in man hating and feminist indoctrination that labeled traditional women as “weak.” Chris and Peaches unpack trauma bonding, why people keep going back to abusers, how percentages like “he’s good 85 percent of the time” are delusion, and what it actually takes to walk away, grieve the fantasy, and rebuild self respect. They tackle modern feminism, traditional marriage, AI and the economy, the collapse of standards in dating, and the responsibility to raise the next generation not to tolerate abuse. If you are looking for blunt relationship advice, traditional relationship and marriage guidance, help healing from abusive relationships, or practical masculine and feminine polarity talk without fluff, this episode is for you.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

5 Tammi 54min

Become a member of The Tribe- https://www.2bebetter.com/joinWant to go to travel with us?! - https://trovatrip.com/host/profiles/2-be-qxob7Couples and other retreats - https://www.2bebetter.com/retreatsIn this “Voice of the Broken” episode, the host reads three raw listener emails and gives direct, no sugarcoating relationship advice for men dealing with toxic marriages, emotional abuse, domestic violence, divorce, and custody battles. You’ll hear real situations involving military life, blended families, step parenting conflict, betrayal, manipulation through the court system, and the mental toll of trying to hold it together while everything at home falls apart. Expect tough love on boundaries, accountability, and leadership, plus practical perspective on exit strategies, documenting abuse, protecting kids, and why staying in chaos can do more damage than leaving. The episode also hits men’s mental health, the need for community, and why relying on AI as therapy can backfire, while pointing toward structured support options like counseling and a men’s group environment. If you’re a man trying to rebuild after an abusive relationship, survive a high conflict co-parenting situation, or reclaim your self respect, this one will land.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

4 Tammi 50min

In this episode we break down Chapter 5 of Nedra Glover Tawwab’s Set Boundaries, Find Peace and show you exactly what boundary violations look like in real life. We walk through micro and macro boundary violations, microaggressions, oversharing, guilt trips, enmeshment, codependency, trauma bonding and counter dependency, using real examples of toxic relationships, emotional manipulation, mixed messages, people pleasing and walking on eggshells in dating, marriage, family, friendships and at work. You will hear scripts and phrases to call out gaslighting and guilt tripping, how to say no without over explaining, how to shut down trauma dumping and microaggressions, and how to stop drowning for people who refuse to stand in three inches of water.If you are a people pleaser, recovering codependent, or stuck in a toxic relationship, this conversation will help you recognize red flags, set clear boundaries and reclaim your time, energy and peace. We close with powerful reflection questions on how your life will change with healthy boundaries and challenge you to pick one relationship where you finally stand your ground instead of being the ground they walk on, then share your biggest boundary struggle and what you’re doing to work on it in the comments so your story can help someone else. Keywords: boundaries, boundary violations, healthy boundaries, people pleasing, codependency, enmeshment, trauma bonding, counter dependency, microaggressions, guilt trips, toxic relationships, emotional abuse, gaslighting, Nedra Glover Tawwab, Set Boundaries Find Peace, relationship advice, healing journey, personal growth.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

2 Tammi 1h

In this video, Chris breaks down the 6th Hermetic Principle, Cause and Effect, and makes it painfully practical for real life, discipline, and relationships. You’ll learn why “nothing happens by accident” isn’t about fate, it’s about patterns, inputs, and the results you keep getting, even when you don’t like admitting your part in them. He ties cause and effect to karma, habit loops, personal responsibility, and why victim mentality is a cause that produces predictable effects like stagnation, resentment, and feeling stuck. If you want better outcomes in your marriage, your mindset, and your day to day life, this is a straight shot to the leverage points. Chris walks through common marriage “chain reactions” like criticism, avoidance, broken agreements, lack of repair, and how those causes turn into distance, distrust, and dead intimacy over time. Then he gives you tools you can actually use, like a cause audit, lag time awareness, and a language upgrade using I statements versus you statements to lower defensiveness and keep connection while telling the truth.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

2 Tammi 32min

In this video, you’ll learn the Hermetic Principle of Rhythm and how it explains the cycles you keep living through, the highs where you feel unstoppable, and the lows where you question everything. Chris breaks rhythm down as the “breath of life,” expansion and contraction, push and pull, growth and rest, and shows why your mood, motivation, money, creativity, confidence, and even your sense of purpose naturally rise and fall. You can expect practical clarity on why you suffer when you demand permanent momentum, or panic during an “exhale,” and how to stop letting temporary swings make permanent decisions. You’ll also get tools you can use immediately, including a one minute breath reset, a two-plan method that builds a high tide plan and a low tide plan, and a no major decision rule for those moments when you’re at the top or bottom of the wave. The episode applies rhythm to relationships, discipline, and relapse patterns, and finishes with a hard, direct segment on depression as an ego loop, identity fusion, and self-focused narration, plus how to interrupt that loop with usefulness, service, behavior, and small wins that rebuild confidence. If you’ve been stuck in cycles of intensity and collapse, this will give you language, structure, and a steady way forward.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

1 Tammi 19min