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Imagine realizing the person you trusted was intentionally deceiving you the entire time. This episode pulls back the curtain on how con artists operate and the psychological devastation left in their wake. You'll learn how deception works, why even smart, capable people fall victim, and the lasting emotions from stress and anger to deep regret. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to increase your awareness, find the right professional support, and begin to move on safely. It’s a heavy but important conversation that may help you recognize danger before it’s too late. In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m joined by Johnathan Walton, an Emmy-winning former TV reporter and current reality TV producer, who became a leading voice on the psychology of the con artist after surviving a deeply destabilizing betrayal himself. He’s also the host, writer, and executive producer of the hit podcast Queen of the Con, and the author of Anatomy of a Con Artist. Together, we talk about how con artists manipulate emotions (not intelligence), why “I’m just trying to help” can be an early warning sign, and what happens to your brain and body when the relationship you thought was real turns out to be built on lies. We also get practical: the red flags that show up across scams, romance cons, and long-game manipulation, plus steps you can take to protect yourself—and what to do if you realize you’ve already been pulled in. A gentle note: This conversation includes explicit language and frank discussion of trauma responses, including intrusive revenge fantasies. Please take care of yourself while listening, and skip this one if you’re not in the right headspace today. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Moment You Realize Someone Isn’t Who They Say They Are 01:05 Con Artists, Betrayal Trauma, and Why This Conversation Matters 02:05 Trigger Warning and How To Listen Safely 07:04 Johnathan’s Story: The “Irish Heiress” Con Artist Case 11:20 How a Con Artist Hooks You Through Emotional Manipulation 30:33 The Red Flags of a Con Artist and How Patterns Form 41:27 The Trauma Aftermath: Shame, Rage, and Losing Trust in Yourself 46:38 Protecting Yourself After a Con Artist Betrayal 52:35 Dr. Lisa’s Guidance on Betrayal Trauma Support If you’re listening and realizing this episode connects to your own life, whether through a relationship, a financial loss, or the unsettling sense that something once trusted wasn’t real, I want you to have support, not just information. As a gift, I’d like to invite you to schedule a free consultation with my team at Growing Self. You’ll answer three quick questions, and we’ll help you book a private, secure consultation with the right counselor or coach for what you’re navigating right now. This is a thoughtful, low-pressure way to get clarity, feel supported, and take a steady next step forward. You don’t have to navigate this alone. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

19 Jan 1h 1min

What do you do when you're blindsided by unexpected and total life changes? I’m talking about the kind that shatter your sense of identity, happiness, and success all at once. How do you manage those overwhelming emotions and find a direction again? In this episode, you’ll learn just that: how to grow and heal when everything falls apart, find direction when you’re feeling trapped, and rebuild your sense of well-being for a new version of love, happiness, and success. I’m joined by Maya Shankar, a cognitive scientist, creator of the podcast A Slight Change of Plans, and the first Behavioral Science Advisor to the United Nations. Maya brings both personal experience and research-backed insight to the question so many people ask during major life transitions: Why does this feel so exhausting, disorienting, and scary — and how do I move forward without losing myself? Together, we talk about why life changes often feel like a threat to your identity, why uncertainty can drain your energy, and why there’s no single “right” way to grieve after major life events. Maya shares gentle, practical ways to begin healing that don’t require pushing yourself to be positive, rushing the process, or overhauling your life when you’re already tired. As you listen, I’d invite you to reflect on this: When so much has changed at once, what parts of you are still here? And what might become possible if this chapter isn’t the end of your story, but the beginning of something different? Episode Breakdown 00:00 When Life Falls Apart 01:23 Why Total Life Changes Feel So Destabilizing 01:55 Maya’s Story: Losing Big Dreams During Major Life Changes 07:10 How Life Transitions Threaten Identity 07:44 Finding Your “Why” After Everything Changes 11:17 There’s No One Right Way To Grieve Life Events 15:51 Why Uncertainty Is So Exhausting During Life Changes 22:33 A Self-Affirmation Tool For Identity After Total Life Changes 28:20 Moral Elevation: Finding Hope During Difficult Life Transitions 37:14 Why Community Helps You Heal After Major Life Events 42:35 Shared Psychology: Different Life Changes, Same Emotional Truths 45:40 Share This Episode With Someone Navigating Change If you’re living through total life changes right now and could use steady, thoughtful support as you find your footing again, I want to offer you something. I’ve created a simple way for you to schedule a free consultation that’s designed to truly meet you where you are. By answering three quick questions, you’ll be personally matched with the counselor or coach who’s best suited for what you’re navigating right now. This is a private, secure process, it only takes a couple of minutes, and it’s my way of making sure you don’t have to figure all of this out on your own. If this episode helped you put language to what you’ve been carrying, consider this an open door. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

15 Jan 51min

“How to be more confident” is one of the most common things people tell me they want, and also one of the most misunderstood. If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll finally feel confident once I calm my anxiety, stop second-guessing myself, or stop worrying about what other people think,” this conversation offers a very different starting point. In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m joined by Dr. Aziz Gazipura to talk about confidence as something deeper than appearances or bravado. I’m revisiting this episode on why confidence is really about your relationship with yourself, how social anxiety and people-pleasing quietly erode self-trust, and why trying to look confident often leaves people feeling more anxious and disconnected. We also talk about the inner critic as a misguided safety system, how avoidance keeps anxiety alive, and why confidence grows through practice, self-compassion, and supported risk-taking rather than positive thinking alone. If you struggle with social anxiety, harsh self-talk, or the habit of saying yes when you mean no, this conversation offers a steadier, more realistic way forward. As you listen, I’d invite you to reflect on this: Where in your life have you been trying to feel confident without being on your own side? And what might shift if confidence started with how you treat yourself when things feel uncomfortable or imperfect? Episode Breakdown: 00:00 What confidence really means (and why it’s misunderstood) 01:48 Confidence as your relationship with yourself 07:32 From social anxiety and people-pleasing to real confidence 12:45 The inner critic and the “safety police” 16:51 Social anxiety vs. low confidence (and why avoidance makes it worse) 22:56 How confidence is built through practice and exposure 31:11 People-pleasing and “niceness” as anxiety patterns 38:21 Boundaries, authenticity, and healthy relationships 45:03 Projected dislike and changing self-talk 50:28 Final takeaways + where to find Dr. Aziz If this episode resonates and you’d like support building real confidence (the kind rooted in self-trust, authenticity, and emotional safety), I’d love to invite you to schedule a free consultation. This is a private, secure space where you can share what’s been weighing on you and what you want to feel differently. You’ll answer three quick questions so we can help match you with the right counselor or coach on my team. Many people experience this as a meaningful first step toward feeling more grounded, more supported, and more confident in their lives. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

8 Jan 56min

Have you been feeling ready to start a new chapter in life, but also unsure how to begin? Not because everything is falling apart, but because something inside you knows it’s time for more. In this classic episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I’m joined by my colleague Dr. Lisa Severy to talk about how rewriting your story can open the door to real, lasting change—in your career, your relationships, and the way you see yourself. Dr. Lisa specializes in narrative career counseling, a powerful approach that helps people understand the deeper life themes shaping their choices. We talk about why traditional career advice often misses the mark, how work and identity are deeply connected, and what it really takes to move forward when you feel stuck, restless, or quietly dissatisfied—even if your life looks “fine” from the outside. This conversation is for you if you’re sensing that a new beginning is calling, but you don’t want to jump into another situation that looks different yet feels the same. Together, we explore how insight comes before action, why patterns tend to repeat when the internal story doesn’t change, and how giving yourself permission to rewrite old narratives can be one of the most meaningful decisions you ever make. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 How to start a new chapter in life by rewriting your story 02:27 Meet Dr. Lisa Severy and the narrative approach to career change 06:18 Why traditional career counseling doesn’t work for real life change 11:14 Life themes, meaning, and choosing work that fits who you are 19:30 The emotional cost of staying comfortable but unfulfilled at work 23:30 What to do when you feel stuck and overwhelmed by options 29:24 Giving yourself permission to change and release old “shoulds” 35:27 The Great Resignation and reclaiming agency in your career 41:57 Why career patterns repeat when the internal story doesn’t change 47:54 A powerful exercise to clarify what’s missing in your next chapter 52:58 Final reflections and how to get support for your next chapter I want you to know that you don’t have to figure your next chapter out on your own. One of the ways I support people at this point is by inviting them to schedule a free consultation with me or a member of my Growing Self team. It’s a private, secure space where you can talk honestly about what’s been feeling stuck, what’s been weighing on you, and what you hope might feel different going forward. You’ll answer just three quick questions, and we’ll help match you with the right counselor or coach for where you are right now. I hope you’ll see this as a small but meaningful gift to yourself as you begin shaping what comes next. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

5 Jan 58min

Is anger, regret or sadness still tying you to your past? In this episode, you’ll learn how finding forgiveness helps you heal unhealthy emotions, create closure, and move on. You’ll learn about the two types of forgiveness and how to shift your mindset so you can finally feel happier, freer, and more like yourself again. If happiness and well-being feel out of reach right now, I hope you dive into this one. Forgiveness often sounds simple, but it can feel deeply challenging when anger, regret, or unresolved pain linger. I’m revisiting this episode because these unhealthy feelings tend to hold on quietly, shaping how we feel long after the moment has passed. In this conversation, I talk about what forgiveness really is and what it is not, and how finding forgiveness can support healing and closure without excusing harm or abandoning your boundaries. We explore the difference between forgiving yourself and forgiving someone else, especially when there has been no apology, no repair, or no justice. You’ll hear how to work with difficult emotions like sadness and resentment, how to move on when the other person may never change, and how forgiveness can support your growth, well-being, and peace of mind. If part of you feels like you should be over it by now, but something still feels unfinished, this episode offers a more compassionate way forward. Forgiveness is not about forgetting or minimizing what happened. It’s about releasing what no longer serves you so you can heal and feel happier in your life today. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Finding Forgiveness and Emotional Healing 03:25 The Two Types of Forgiveness: Yourself and Others 05:52 How Anger, Regret, and Guilt Impact Happiness 07:56 Self-Forgiveness Through Compassion and Growth 15:00 Making Amends and Repairing Harm 21:59 How to Forgive Someone Who Isn’t Sorry 24:19 Letting Go Without Excusing Harm 28:56 Forgiveness, Boundaries, and Emotional Safety 31:19 Choosing Forgiveness to Move On and Feel at Peace If this conversation about finding forgiveness stirred something tender for you, I want you to know you don’t have to work through it alone. I’d love for you to schedule a free consultation with me or someone on my team at Growing Self. It’s a private, secure space to share what you’ve been carrying and get matched with the right counselor or coach for where you are right now. You’ll answer three quick questions, and we’ll help you take a thoughtful next step toward healing and clarity. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

1 Jan 38min

Most people don’t realize they’re running on autopilot until life forces them to stop. Through the lens of ‘Memento Mori’, this episode shows you how living for meaning can help you find direction, improve your overall well-being, and create a purpose-driven life. You’ll learn how to use this mindset shift to support your self improvement, reduce your stress, and cultivate happiness right now. I’m joined by Karen Salmansohn, author and mindset coach, for a conversation about living for meaning and finding direction through the lens of Memento Mori. I’m revisiting this episode because its message feels especially relevant right now - how to reduce stress, stay grounded in your mindset, and create a purpose-driven life without giving up your ambition or drive. Rather than being morbid, the Memento Mori mindset offers clarity. It brings you back into the present moment and helps you make more intentional choices about who you are becoming and what truly matters. Together, we explore why traditional to-do lists often leave people feeling busy but unfulfilled, and how shifting toward values-based, identity-driven habits can support greater happiness and emotional well-being. This episode is an invitation to step out of autopilot, reconnect with what matters most, and begin living with more intention starting exactly where you are. As you listen, I invite you to reflect on this question: If your time is limited, what deserves more of your attention right now? Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Welcome to Love, Happiness & Success 00:48 The “funeral question” and how it helps you live with meaning 01:19 Memento Mori and using mortality awareness to find direction 05:29 Karen’s wake-up call and the origin of Your To Die For Life 09:13 “Everything that is not given is lost” and the meaning of legacy 14:22 Aristotle on happiness vs pleasure and building a purpose-driven life 21:08 The to-die list, core values, and identity-based habits 30:22 Karen’s seven core values and intentional daily choices 38:28 Mortality marbles and a mindset shift that reduces stress 46:31 Dr. Lisa’s 9/11 story and choosing a more intentional life If this gives you a desire for more meaning, more clarity, or a different relationship with stress, I want to offer you something supportive. You’re invited to schedule a free consultation with me or a trusted member of my team. This is a private, secure space to talk about what’s been weighing on you, what you want to feel differently, and what kind of support would truly help you move forward. You’ll answer just a few quick questions so we can thoughtfully match you with the right counselor or coach and help you take the next step toward a more intentional, purpose-driven life. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

29 Des 202558min

If you’ve been hearing more about psychedelic therapy and wondering whether it’s a genuine breakthrough for healing—or just the latest mental health trend—you’re not alone. Many people feel curious, hopeful, and skeptical all at once. This conversation is meant to help you slow down, understand what the research actually shows, and think clearly about whether this path is right for you. In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m joined by psychiatrist and MDMA-assisted psychotherapist Dr. Scott Shannon, founder of Wholeness Center, the largest integrative mental health center in the U.S. Together, we talk about how psychedelic therapy works differently from conventional psychiatric treatment, why it can help disrupt rigid trauma patterns in the brain, and what researchers are learning about long-term healing—not just short-term symptom relief. We also spend time on the parts of this conversation that matter just as much: the risks, the ethical boundaries, and the importance of preparation, professional support, and integration. Psychedelic therapy isn’t appropriate for everyone, and it isn’t something to pursue casually or without careful guidance. This episode offers a grounded, responsible look at how people can think critically about safety, readiness, and what to look for in a qualified provider. As you listen, I invite you to reflect on a few questions: What kind of healing are you actually looking for? What does feeling “better” really mean to you? And how do you decide which growth paths deserve your trust, time, and care? Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Psychedelic therapy explained: promise, research, and real risks 02:31 Why psychedelic therapy differs from traditional psychiatric medication 04:55 Trauma, brain patterns, and how psychedelic therapy disrupts stuck loops 07:00 MDMA-assisted therapy for PTSD and why healing can continue long after treatment 12:21 A paradigm shift in mental health: supporting the brain’s capacity to heal 19:30 What MDMA actually does in therapy: safety, self-compassion, and trauma processing 25:47 Mystical experience, meaning, and the spiritual dimension of psychedelic therapy 30:09 Ethical concerns, safety risks, and how to evaluate psychedelic therapy providers 38:00 Preparation and integration: why psychedelic therapy is more than the experience itself If this conversation leaves you thinking about your own healing or growth, I want to be clear that Growing Self does not offer psychedelic therapy. What we do offer is thoughtful, evidence-based therapy and coaching for people who want to grow with intention and care. If you’d like, I’d love to help you think through what kind of support would actually be most helpful for you. I’ve created a simple, private way to do that. By answering just a few quick questions, we can help match you with the right therapist or coach for a complimentary consultation—someone who understands what you’re navigating and where you’d like to go next. Schedule a free consultation today. Consider it a small gift from me, and a gentle next step if you’re ready for one. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

25 Des 202551min