How to Stop Reacting to Each Other & Regulate Your Emotions Instead: Episode 430

How to Stop Reacting to Each Other & Regulate Your Emotions Instead: Episode 430

So many couples tell us the same thing lately: "We don't even feel like we're choosing to react—it just happens." It can be a tone, a look, or a comment that lands wrong. And suddenly you're responding to each other's stress instead of actually talking about what's going on. When this becomes the norm, marriage starts to feel exhausting. Not because of big issues, but because you're unintentionally dysregulating each other in everyday moments. What should be simple conversations turn tense, and it leaves both people feeling misunderstood, defensive, or shut down.

In this episode, we talk honestly about why emotional reactivity has become such a common struggle for couples, and what it really takes to interrupt it in real time. We unpack why reacting to tone, body language, and assumptions keeps couples stuck. Also why learning to regulate yourself first is essential if you want to de-escalate conflict instead of fueling it. This conversation is practical and grounded in what we see every day with couples who want to do better but feel caught in patterns they don't know how to stop. If you're ready to understand what's actually happening in those heated moments—and why regulation changes everything—this episode is for you.

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Why Some Partners Don't Follow-Through and How That Impacts a Marriage: Episode 436

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25 Feb 40min

The 3 Islands of Marriage: Moving From Dysfunction or Function to Connection: Episode 435

The 3 Islands of Marriage: Moving From Dysfunction or Function to Connection: Episode 435

Which island is your marriage on right now? In this episode, we share a simple but eye-opening framework we call The 3 Islands of Marriage: Dysfunction, Function, and Connection. Marriage naturally mo...

18 Feb 40min

Honesty vs Transparency: The Missing Piece to Feeling Fully Secure and Emotionally Safe: Episode 434

Honesty vs Transparency: The Missing Piece to Feeling Fully Secure and Emotionally Safe: Episode 434

Most couples believe trust is built by being honest—by not lying, not hiding anything major, and generally doing what you say you'll do. And while integrity absolutely matters, many couples are surpri...

10 Feb 36min

How to Handle Stress So it Doesn't Negatively Impact Your Marriage: Episode 433

How to Handle Stress So it Doesn't Negatively Impact Your Marriage: Episode 433

Stress is unavoidable. Between the state of the world, work demands, parenting, and the pressure to keep everything running, most couples are carrying more than they realize. The problem isn't stress ...

3 Feb 29min

Why Intimacy Can't Be Deepened Without Inner Healing with Stefanos Sifandos: Episode 432

Why Intimacy Can't Be Deepened Without Inner Healing with Stefanos Sifandos: Episode 432

So many couples are trying to fix intimacy by focusing on communication tools, date nights, or changing their partner's behavior—yet still feel disconnected. In this episode, we sit down with relation...

29 Jan 46min

Resentment: How it Shows Up, Where it Stems From & How to Work Through it: Episode 431

Resentment: How it Shows Up, Where it Stems From & How to Work Through it: Episode 431

Resentment is one of those words people hesitate to claim because it sounds heavy, harsh, even a little scary. But the truth is, resentment doesn't usually start with big blowups or dramatic moments. ...

27 Jan 37min

Debriefing a Moment that Could Have Escalated For Us, But Became a Healing Conversation: Episode 429

Debriefing a Moment that Could Have Escalated For Us, But Became a Healing Conversation: Episode 429

Sometimes it's not the big issues that unravel a marriage, it's the small, everyday moments that quietly stack up. A comment said with the wrong tone. A boundary expressed when stress is already high....

13 Jan 38min

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