40. Samantha Spiro: Why We Protect Ourselves From the People We Love

40. Samantha Spiro: Why We Protect Ourselves From the People We Love

In part one, we explored how love begins to collapse when pain isn’t met and how self-protection quietly replaces contact.


In this second part, the conversation turns toward what actually allows intimacy to return.


Together with Samantha Spiro, we explore capacity, the ability to stay present with discomfort without collapsing, defending, or fixing. We talk about emotional responsibility, nervous system safety, boundaries within connection, and how softness can exist without weakness.


This episode moves from understanding pain to learning how to stay with it and how that shift changes the way we love, listen, and relate.


This is a conversation about maturity in relationships.

About presence as a skill and about what becomes possible when we stop protecting and start staying.


A gift for 34o listeners:


Samantha Spiro is offering a special for listeners of this podcast, a 2-hour Deep Dive Session with a week of text support, at a 15% discount.


This is for those who feel ready to work more intimately with what came up in this conversation. Go to https://samspiro.com/contact/ and refer to code ”34o2026” for the discount

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39. Samantha Spiro: When Pain Isn’t Met, Love Collapses

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38. Bonnie Diaz: What if partnership isn’t about leading or following, but about listening?

In this episode of 34o, Henrik sits down with Bonnie Diaz, world-class ballroom champion, master educator, and creator of the 4D Partnership System, to explore what true connection really looks like, ...

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37. Wren: What if intimacy isn’t something we achieve — but something we allow?

37. Wren: What if intimacy isn’t something we achieve — but something we allow?

In this episode of 34o, Henrik is joined by Wren, an outdoor boudoir photographer whose work lives at the intersection of nature, embodiment and reclaiming pleasure beyond shame.Raised in a conservati...

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36. 🇸🇪 Kalle Norwald: Varför relationer går sönder och vad vi ofta missar

36. 🇸🇪 Kalle Norwald: Varför relationer går sönder och vad vi ofta missar

ENGLISH:What happens to intimacy in a time when so many people feel stressed, disconnected, and unsure?In this episode of 34o, in Swedish, I’m joined by Kalle Norwald for a warm, honest and deeply ref...

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35. Lisa Näs: Intimacy without performance. Words without exploitation.

35. Lisa Näs: Intimacy without performance. Words without exploitation.

In this episode of 34o, I’m joined by Lisa Näs, journalist and long-time writer on sex, relationships and intimacy for women’s magazines.We talk about what happens behind the text:- How do you write a...

13 Jan 1h 1min

34. Why we love. Why it hurts

34. Why we love. Why it hurts

Why do we long for closeness and feel fear when it becomes real?Why can two people love each other deeply and still not be able to carry the same life?In this episode of 34o, Henrik reflects on love a...

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33. Vera: Shame, Safety and the Courage to Stay

33. Vera: Shame, Safety and the Courage to Stay

Vera learned early how to read a room.How to sense shifts.How to stay alert, often more attuned to others than to herself.In this episode, we explore the quiet presence of shame, the kind that doesn’t...

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