Are You Subconsciously a Drama Addict? Trauma-Bonding Truths Revealed

Ever wonder why some people thrive on drama? In this episode, Caroline welcomes licensed Clinical Psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons, author of “Addicted to Drama” and host of “The Gently Used Human,” to talk about toxic mom groups, gossip, and why drama can feel addictive. Using examples like “drama bonding” in groups, he explains how stress can become a habit that brings connection and even chemical pain relief, and why calm can feel unsafe for some people. They discuss how hormones (including menopause) can increase dysregulation, how partners can respond without adding “logs to the fire,” and why social media fuels attention-hungry conflict and competitive victimhood. Dr. Lyons shares practical regulation tools like walking, shaking, reading at night instead of scrolling, pausing before replying, and “unsetting the table” to stop mental spirals, and he shares where to find his work, including Embody Lab and his upcoming “Hot Seat Therapy” show.

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