22: Intimacy after Trauma? With Grace Victory

22: Intimacy after Trauma? With Grace Victory

Grace Victory is one of those people who just draws you in — she is utterly compelling. So, it was a total pleasure to have her join Anna in the studio to offer some advice to a listener who is struggling with intimacy following a previous trauma. Having experienced trauma herself — both in her early years, and more recently — Grace generously shares her own story and the wisdom she's gathered on her own healing journey.

With the assistance of super psychotherapist, Sam Pennells-Nkolo, Grace and Anna discuss the listener’s dilemma, consider its echoes with Grace’s story, and ultimately share advice on how the listener can begin to confront her challenges with intimacy. They also consider the contested question of young children and screen-time, and what gifts to buy for a new mother.

This episode is powerful and amazing, but Grace’s story does cover heavy topics such as abuse, domestic violence, eating disorders, anxiety, sexual assault, and depression. So please approach the episode with care.



Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you.


If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com


This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.


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