11. Widow's brain and the healing power of self-love and self-kindness - Pauline Skeates
Crazy Grief20 Aug 2020

11. Widow's brain and the healing power of self-love and self-kindness - Pauline Skeates

Widow's brain is a real thing, but it's not necessarily a bad thing. When we suffer a trauma such as the death of our person, our amazing brains respond to the immediate trauma and the consequent grief in intricate ways. One of the them is to shut down areas that are not immediate crucial for survival and fire up our danger instincts: fight, flight, freeze or collapse. In this episode we explore what can happen to our brain and our capacity to think when we are grieving, and we also talk about ways in which we can make our own minds a safe space where we learn to give ourselves self-kindness and self-love. We dive into a bit of neuroscience, which affirms that Love is the super emotion that can help us heal and build resilience, and why validating our own experiences is crucial for our wellbeing.

Pauline Skeates has been a therapist for several years. She has created and developed a model of therapy - Insight Focused Neurotherapy (IFnT)- which she applies with her clients (*ahem* me as one of them) to help them develop a new and more positive way to see themselves, to train how to re-focus, and to find purpose for their lives amidst the circumstances they are facing. She sees clients on her private practice in Auckland, New Zealand, and through online sessions. She also provides training for professionals in this method, mainly in Europe and NZ.

Through her private practice Pauline also teaches courses on "Introduction to Mindfulness" and "Mindfulness in Practice". You can find out more about Pauline's courses and therapy sessions through her website https://insight-international.org/

Together with her colleague Sandy Fabrin, Pauline has co-authored three books "From Distress to De-stress", "In Pursuit of Awareness" and "Walking into Grace". Hard copies and downloadable e-book versions are available here: https://insight-international.org/shop/

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Tatiana xo

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