How to Bring Up Challenging Conversations Without Triggering an Argument or Defensiveness: Episode 121

How to Bring Up Challenging Conversations Without Triggering an Argument or Defensiveness: Episode 121

When you bring up a challenging/hard conversation, does it tend to trigger defensiveness and lead to an unintended argument?

You could have every intention of just trying to share how you feel and get to a positive solution, and STILL have it lead to a massive misunderstanding.

You're not alone if this tends to happen in your relationship.

In this episode, you'll hear:

  • Ways to initiate the challenging topic so that it doesn't spark into an argument
  • How to handle times your partner gets defensive
  • 5 simple things you can do so that challenging topics end up strengthening your relationship, instead of creating unnecessary tension

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

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