Daddy Issues, Secret Hookups & Love Bombing With Violet Benson

This episode of "Sex with Emily" dives deep into the psychology and practice of foreplay, redefining it as encompassing all forms of connection, not just physical acts preceding intercourse. We discuss the importance of arousal, highlighting physiological differences between men and women and emphasizing the brain's role as the largest sex organ. This episode features practical tips for enhancing intimacy using all five senses, incorporating various sensual aids, and exploring different forms of touch and communication. #foreplay #intimacy #sex Show Notes: 00:02:50 - Foreplay: Psychology & Importance 03:49 - Foreplay & Gender Differences 10:04:20 - Secrets to Great Sex 13:29 - Setting the Mood: Five Senses 16:22 - Enhancing Foreplay & Sensory Play 19:43 - Enhancing Intimacy & Communication 22:26 - Intimacy Beyond Penetration 25:27 - Improving Sex Life & Teasing 28:14 - Reciprocated Foreplay & Issues Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠ SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠ (free shipping on orders over $99)Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ Let’s get social: Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily ⁠ Let’s text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show note: https://sexwithemily.com/why-great-sex-st…side-the-bedroom/

2 Mai 35min

In this episode of Sex With Emily, Dr. Emily takes a deep dive into the evolving landscape of infidelity in 2025. She unpacks how cheating today goes far beyond physical acts—covering emotional connections, digital interactions like DMs, social media behaviors, and even fantasies. Dr. Emily challenges listeners to rethink old assumptions and instead foster open conversations about boundaries, values, and intimacy, drawing insights from how polyamorous relationships navigate these topics. With real-life stories, listener questions, and expert advice from holistic psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons, this episode explores the impact of porn, the gray areas of "micro-cheating," and how communication can prevent betrayal. Dr. Emily also shares strategies for healing after trust is broken, including key statistics, self-reflection practices, and tips to understand your attachment style. #relationship #dating #cheating Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Defining & Preventing Infidelity 00:03:15 - Defining Infidelity in Relationships 08:12 - Relationship Boundaries & Communication 13:41 - Marriage Insecurities & Betrayal 19:19 - Confessions of a Reformed Cheater 22:31 - Open Relationships & Cheating 25:00 - Regret, Empathy & Modern Love 35:38 - Overcoming Relationship Hurdles 38:28 - Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity 45:44 - Monogamy, Polyamory & Attachment Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99)Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show notes here: https://sexwithemily.com/wheres-the-line-…-the-digital-age/

29 Apr 51min

In this episode of the podcast, host Emily Morse is joined by guest Pamela Madsen to explore the transformative power of "back-to-the-body" retreats for women and couples, focusing on reclaiming pleasure and improving communication. Pamela, a retreat leader with over a decade of experience, details a 7-day program emphasizing self-pleasure through clothed genital work, addressing issues such as vaginal pain and low libido. Positive outcomes from the retreats include increased self-esteem, improved communication, and better consent negotiation. The retreats also involve sexological bodywork, including genital mapping, fantasy exploration, and elements of BDSM and tantra. Men’s participation is discussed, highlighting the positive impact these retreats have on couples. The conversation also covers practical techniques like the "lotus lift" meditation and sensate focus exercises for embodied self-expression—even for those unable to attend in person. Emily and Pamela address common challenges such as body image issues, societal pressures, and communication barriers in long-term relationships. Pamela Madsen IG: @thepamelamadsen  Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/   Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text  00:00:12 - Women's Retreats & Couples' Impact 03:19 - Sexological Bodywork: A Woman's Journey 06:43 - Female Anatomy & Desire 12:14 - Embodied Movement & Wellness 15:04 - Embodied Arousal & Lotus Lift 18:07 - Body Connection & Sensations 20:22 - Couples Rediscovering Sexuality 25:46 - Couple's Intimacy Coaching 32:17 - Pleasure, Aging, & Body Image 47:50 - Overcoming Anorgasmia 54:26 - Guest Contact & Retreats Full show notes here: Sexwithemily.com

25 Apr 1h 2min

Is the spark gone? Dr. Scott Lyons, as I explore how to get the spark back in relationships and sex. We're talking about why the spark is not what you think and what you're actually looking for. In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons and I discuss: ● Why the initial 'spark' might be misleading. ● The importance of evolving and growing in relationships. ● How trauma responses affect attraction and intimacy. ● The difference between intensity and intimacy. ● Practical ways to cultivate a sustainable and fulfilling connection. I share personal experiences and insights on dating, attraction, and the journey toward deeper self-understanding. Dr. Scott Lyons brings his expertise as a trauma therapist and somatic healer to help us understand the complexities of relationships and sexuality. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Rekindling the Spark: What You Need to Know 00:02:45 - The Reality of Growth: Attraction Can Evolve 00:07:57 - Freedom vs. Attachment: Different Relationship Patterns 00:11:10 - Evolving Attraction: Hemisexuals, Saposexuals, and Demisexuals 00:15:03 - The Attraction ICK: Is There an Attraction Spark? 00:19:29 - Peeling Away the Layers: The Beauty of Intimacy 00:22:49 - The Honeymoon Period Is Drunk: Sobering Up and Finding Organic Excitement 00:27:40 - Variety and Newness: Keeping the Spark Alive 00:31:17 - Passion or Safety: Cultivating Eroticism in Safety 00:35:56 - Arousal Runway: Pottery Classes and Cooking Meals 00:40:19 - Developing New Habits: Making Time for Connection 00:42:51 - Chasing the Familiar: Red Flags as a Spark 00:46:16 - The Importance of Feeling Safe 00:49:54 - Childhood Was Perfect: Somatic Therapy and Nervous System Regulation 00:53:10 - Grounding in Our Senses: Getting Back to Sensuality and Connection 00:56:26 - Healing Patterns: Not Taking the Bait 00:58:20 - Sustainable, Healthy, Loving Relationships: Going the Distance Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Try Dipsea Free for 30 Days! Right now, you can get a 30-day free trial PLUS 25% off your annual subscription at DipseaStories.com/SWE See the full show notes at www.sexwithemily.com

22 Apr 1h 5min

What feeling are you chasing in bed? No, I’m not talking about orgasm. I’m talking about an emotion, like feeling worshiped, praised, or unbelievably desirable. On the other hand, maybe it arouses you to feel degraded, objectified – even humiliated. On today’s show, I’m unpacking a kink that’s getting a ton of attention on social media: praise kink. It falls under the larger umbrella of core erotic desires, which we all have. I show you how to identify your core erotic desires and how to turn them into realities. I also get into your kinky questions, including: when you adore your fiancée, but fantasize about sex with your much kinkier ex, what now? And when your partner constantly gets hit on my other men, is it healthy to get turned on by it? All this and more in today's episode. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

18 Apr 43min

You’ve heard this one before: the sexiest quality in the world is confidence. And that’s true...but...it’s not always easy to muster. Confidence is an inside job, but here’s the good news. Once you generate it on your own terms, life - and sex - gets a whole lot easier. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I’m joined by my dear friend and former co-host Menace from The Woody Show, as we talk confidence, jealousy, What happens when you adore your partner, but can’t stop thinking about their high body count? Or want to have hot phone sex, but don’t know where to start? We talk through both. How about when you feel too short to find a great partner, or don’t know how to be dominant in bed? We help you think through both. Finally: discovering your partner’s can of delay spray. Our listener wonders whether he’s sleeping with someone else; we think it’s time for open communication. For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE.   .    Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

15 Apr 29min

We’re back for another AITA episode! This time it’s all about sexual mismatches. First: they’ve got a 12-year age difference, and she suspects his sex drive is dwindling. She doesn’t want to cheat, but she also wants more sex…what now? Next, he wants sex for pleasure, she was raised to do it only for procreation. Is there any way to meet in the middle? A self-professed "pillow princess" writes in, is she the asshole for wanting to receive pleasure – but not give it? Finally, they’re in a dead bedroom of 10 years. “She’s repulsed by my touch” he writes, but is he really asserting himself to make healthy changes? You decide For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE.   .    Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

11 Apr 36min

You’re in my Hotlines today, and Producer Erica and I are taking your calls! Today’s theme: conversations you need to have with your sex partners. First, how long should you wait to tell casual sex partners you’re sleeping with other people? We’re all up-leveling our communication skills, so I make the case for telling them immediately. Next, she’s on ADD medication and likes a drink or two – is it negatively affecting her orgasm? Or should her partner have a deeper conversation with her about turn-ons? After that, we’ve got a young couple who just started having oral sex. She’s sore afterwards -- is it a medical condition or underlying shame? Finally, she just discovered her partner watches porn… and the subjects don’t look like her. How can she talk to him about it without judgment? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. Nobody does selling better than Shopify. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/swe Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

8 Apr 41min