HYSTERICAL BONDING: Why you want them MORE after they hurt you. 💔

HYSTERICAL BONDING: Why you want them MORE after they hurt you. 💔

Have you ever discovered a betrayal—infidelity, a lie, or a discard—and suddenly felt a surge of intense desire to be close to the person who hurt you? That isn’t love—it’s Hysterical Bonding.

Hysterical bonding is a biological survival response. When a narcissist pulls away or betrays you, your brain treats the loss of the relationship as a life-or-death threat. This triggers a frantic need to reclaim the bond, often through intense physical intimacy or emotional desperation, just to feel "safe" again.

In this video, I’m breaking down this phenomenon from the perspective of a self-aware narcissist. I’m explaining why this response is exactly what a narcissist wants, because it resets the cycle and gives them ultimate control over your panic.

IN THIS VIDEO:

  • The Panic Response: Why betrayal leads to an obsession with reconnection.

  • Biological Warfare: How your own hormones (Oxytocin/Dopamine) keep you trapped.

  • The Narcissist’s Reset: Why we use your "bonding" to avoid accountability for what we did.

  • Breaking the Cycle: How to recognize the difference between love and trauma-induced panic.

Your body is reacting to a threat. Don't let the narcissist convince you that your panic is "passion."


Connect with Lee:

  • Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss


    If this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟

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