1719 || shame spirals
Sometimes, "“I feel shame” comes to mean “I am shameful, deficient in some vital way as a human being.” Shame is no longer one feeling among many, but comes to constitute the core of oneself. Internal...
20 Mars 12min
1718 || generational shame || book club
We can't heal what we don't feel. Unfortunately, one of the greatest powers of toxic shame is that it creates automatic, unconscious defenses: like Idealization, repression, denial, dissociation. So m...
19 Mars 11min
1717 || when shame is a demon || book club
The more one experiences shame, the more one is ashamed, and the beat goes on. It is this dead-end quality of shame that makes it so hopeless. But it's not hopeless, it just feels like it.“Without fee...
18 Mars 10min
1716 || book club || healing the shame that binds you
“Without feeling, nothing matters, and with feeling, anything can matter.” - Silvan TompkinsWhen you internalize toxic levels of shame, you create a "false self" to cope. It takes lots of energy and h...
17 Mars 11min
1715 || regular shame vs. toxic shame
Toxic shame is a deep feeling of worthlessness and self-hatred often starting in childhood due to trauma or neglect. Deconstructing internalized toxic shame is an intense and overwhelming process, but...
16 Mars 10min
1714 || "thawing out" from a freeze state
Analysis paralysis is a natural response to stress, but there are many ways to manage it.Respect the "thawing" process: this takes time. Ground yourself: breathing exercises, noting exercises, etc. Pr...
13 Mars 9min
1713 || imperfect action > inaction
Inaction is not neutral. I know I’m capable of great things but I am too afraid to do anything I want to do because it is easier to do nothing.It feels safer to do nothing but it’s not. Inaction is no...
12 Mars 8min
