How to Let Your Light Shine with Ali Smith, Atman Smith, and Andres Gonzales

In this episode, Charles Duhigg explains how we can improve communication in polarized times. He explores how to foster active listening, social reciprocity, and techniques like “looping for understanding.” The conversation covers different types of conversations, the importance of focusing on common ground, and strategies for building and changing habits. Charles also shares insights on handling online conflict, the psychology of identity threat, and how intentional communication and habit design can improve relationships and personal well-being. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders! Key Takeaways: Importance of active and ostentatious listening in conversations. Concept of social reciprocity and its role in effective communication. Techniques for improving dialogue, such as “looping for understanding.” Different types of conversations: practical, emotional, and social. The idea of meta conversation and setting clear goals for discussions. Strategies for focusing on common ground before addressing differences. The impact of politeness in online communication and reducing hostility. Understanding identity threat and its effects on open dialogue. The habit loop framework: cue, routine, and reward in habit formation. The significance of implementation intentions in managing habits and responses. For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram If you enjoyed this conversation with Charles Duhigg, check out these other episodes: Oren Jay Sofer on Mindful Communication How to Unlock the Power of Deeper Connections with David Brooks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

4 Nov 52min

In this episode, Daria Burke discusses the non-linear path to healing and how to find wholeness after trauma. She shares her experiences growing up in Detroit with parents struggling with addiction, the impact of adversity, and her path toward self-discovery and integration. Daria also explores the complexities of healing, the importance of embracing all parts of oneself, and the power of nature and personal growth as metaphors for transformation and hope. Exciting News!!! My new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life, is now available for pre-orders! Key Takeaways: Exploration of trauma and its impact on personal development. Discussion on resilience and the capacity to heal from past experiences. The concept of integration as a means of reconciling different aspects of oneself. The role of inherited legacies and environmental factors in shaping identity. Examination of coping mechanisms, including dissociation and adaptive avoidance. The nonlinear nature of healing and the importance of self-compassion. Insights into various therapeutic modalities, including somatic therapies. The significance of control and surrender in the healing process. Metaphors illustrating the journey of healing, such as the growth of hydrangeas. Emphasis on the ongoing nature of personal growth and the importance of community support. If you enjoyed this conversation with Daria Burke, check out these other episodes: Healing Painful Patterns and Finding Freedom with Radhule Weininger What Brings Healing, Strength, and Connection with Dani Shapiro For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram This episode is sponsored by: Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order. Grow Therapy – Whatever challenges you’re facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today! Delivering the WOW; Check out Richard Fain’s new book, a behind-the-scenes look at how he transformed Royal Caribbean into a world-class company through culture, innovation, and intentional leadership. Available now on Amazon and wherever you get your books. AGZ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to drinkag1.com/feed to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother. Smalls – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings. LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Okt 1h

In this episode, Pete Holmes explains his practice of saying “Yes, Thank You” and how he practices non-resistance, a way of letting life be what it is instead of fighting it. Pete is well known from his long running podcast, You Made It Weird, and his book Comedy, Sex, God. Both mix humor with deep spiritual reflection, and this conversation explores that very same space. He discusses letting go of willpower-driven faith, embracing mystery, and finding joy in the very moments we usually resist. Exciting News!!! My new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life, is now available for pre-orders! Key Takeaways: Spiritual journey and personal growth The nature of sin as unconsciousness The balance between being and doing Practicing non-resistance and acceptance The impact of modern culture on pleasure and satisfaction The evolution of beliefs from evangelical Christianity to a broader spirituality Understanding the importance of presence and mindfulness in everyday life The concept of the “false self” versus the “real self” Embracing curiosity and mystery in spiritual exploration If you enjoyed this conversation with Pete Holmes, check out these other episodes: A Soul Boom Discussion on Mental Health, Spirituality, and Connection with Rainn Wilson Spiritual Journeys with Rainn Wilson & Reza Aslan For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram This episode is sponsored by: Delivering the WOW; Check out Richard Fain’s new book, a behind-the-scenes look at how he transformed Royal Caribbean into a world-class company through culture, innovation, and intentional leadership. Available now on Amazon and wherever you get your books. AGZ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to drinkag1.com/feed to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother. Smalls – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings. Grow Therapy – Whatever challenges you’re facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today! Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order. LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Okt 1h 7min

In this episode, Emma Gannon explores the idea of choosing love over fear and how to find joy, confidence, and self-trust. She talks about her new novel, “Table for One” that includes themes of the inner battle between positive and negative thoughts, the healing power of love, and the importance of choosing joy. Emma shares how writing fiction is therapeutic and reflects on her personal growth, confidence, and the grief of changing identities. Key Takeaways: The power of love over fear and hatred in personal and societal contexts. The importance of choosing joy and hope amidst life’s challenges. Writing fiction as a therapeutic tool for self-exploration and personal growth. The dialogue between different stages of life, particularly between one’s younger and older selves. The complexities of mental health and the impact of age on confidence and self-perception. The concept of grief associated with personal transformation and the loss of previous identities. The significance of self-acceptance and understanding one’s own needs and limitations. The role of intergenerational relationships and support in personal development. The idea of recognizing and supporting the complexities of individuals in a judgmental world. If you enjoyed this conversation with Emma Gannon, check out these other episodes: How to Cope with Burnout with Emma Gannon Beyond Anxiety: How Curiosity Turns Fear Into Fuel with Martha Beck For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram This episode is sponsored by: AGZ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to drinkag1.com/feed to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother. Smalls – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings. NOCD If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: https://learn.nocd.com/FEED Grow Therapy - Whatever challenges you're facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today! Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order. LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Okt 1h 11min

In this episode, Janice Lundy discusses finding your true self in a distracted world, which is that part of you that isn’t weighed down by fear, busyness, or the endless demands of modern life. She calls this place “my deepest me” – the inner space that already knows we’re whole, even when everything around us insists otherwise. Jan explores what it means to return to that wiser, truer self, how to trust the quiet voice within, and why stillness, gentleness, and presence are the real pathways to peace. Feeling overwhelmed, even by the good things in your life? Check out Overwhelm is Optional — a 4-week email course that helps you feel calmer and more grounded without needing to do less. In under 10 minutes a day, you’ll learn simple mindset shifts (called “Still Points”) you can use right inside the life you already have. Sign up here for only $29! Key Takeaways: Exploration of the concept of the "good wolf" and "bad wolf" as representations of positive and negative forces within individuals. Examination of the "over culture" and its impact on personal identity and spiritual expression. Definition and exploration of spirituality as a deeply human quality and its connection to meaning and connection. The importance of recognizing and trusting one's unique spiritual path or "thumbprint." Challenges of spiritual practice in the context of modern distractions and societal pressures. The balance between spiritual exploration and depth in practice. The role of self-compassion and patience in spiritual journeys. The significance of cultivating presence and openness in spiritual practices. Encouragement to engage with fundamental existential questions and the pursuit of inner peace. If you enjoyed this conversation with Jan Lundy check out these other episodes: How to Find Clarity, Courage, and Compassion with Koshin Paley Ellison Being Heart Minded with Sarah Blondin For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram This episode is sponsored by: Smalls – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings. NOCD If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: https://learn.nocd.com/FEED Grow Therapy - Whatever challenges you're facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today! Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order. LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Okt 1h 11min

In this episode, Todd Sattersten explores the art of awareness with lessons from his new book “The 100 Best Books for Work and Life. He delves into how we can reshape the way we live, work, and become who we’re meant to be. Todd also discusses how mindfulness, Zen practice, and self-awareness can help manage emotions and navigate life’s challenges. He shares insights from his book curation process, discusses the importance of balancing personal growth with acceptance, and highlights how influential books can guide us through change, purpose, and self-discovery. Feeling overwhelmed, even by the good things in your life? Check out Overwhelm is Optional — a 4-week email course that helps you feel calmer and more grounded without needing to do less. In under 10 minutes a day, you’ll learn simple mindset shifts (called “Still Points”) you can use right inside the life you already have. Sign up here for only $29! Key Takeaways: Exploration of Todd's book, “The 100 Best Books for Work and Life” Importance of mindfulness and awareness in managing emotions The tension between striving for improvement and accepting life as it is Insights from Zen Buddhist practice and its application to personal development The impact of a growth mindset versus a fixed mindset on personal growth The interconnectedness of personal and professional development The significance of self-awareness in aligning actions with values The role of curiosity in adapting to change and personal evolution Recommendations for influential books across various disciplines related to personal growth and life skills If you enjoyed this conversation with Todd Sattersten, check out these other episodes: How to Embrace Awareness and Let Go of Ego with Grace Shireson How to Create Change at Work Without Losing Yourself with Melody Wilding For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram This episode is sponsored by: Smalls – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings. NOCD If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: https://learn.nocd.com/FEED Grow Therapy - Whatever challenges you're facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today! Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order. LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Okt 1h 5min

In this episode, Mark Groves discusses the importance of trusting yourself and the key to navigating relationships and personal growth. Mark shares insights from his own journey, including leaving a secure career, embracing sobriety, and navigating relationship endings with integrity. He also delves into the importance of choosing self-alignment over people-pleasing, distinguishing intuition from trauma, and building self-trust through small commitments. Key Takeaways: Personal growth and transformation through self-awareness The distinction between healthy shame and toxic shame The impact of sobriety on personal relationships and self-identity The importance of living with integrity and aligning with one’s authentic self The complexities of love, commitment, and personal responsibility in relationships The role of attachment styles in relationship dynamics The significance of grief in the process of change and healing Building self-trust through small, achievable commitments The transformative power of embracing vulnerability and truth in relationships If you enjoyed this conversation with Mark Groves, check out these other episodes: How to Make Great Relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson How to Have Healthier Relationships with Yourself and Others with Jillian Turecki For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram This episode is sponsored by: NOCD If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: https://learn.nocd.com/FEED Grow Therapy - Whatever challenges you're facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today! Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order. LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Okt 1h 4min

In this episode, Shaka Senghor discusses the power of choice, and how to break free from shame, anger, and grief, which can be the hardest prisons to escape. Shaka spent 19 years in prison and seven of those in solitary confinement. But he’ll tell you that he was imprisoned long before handcuffs, and that his freedom came long before his release. His new book, How to Be Free. A Proven Guide to Escaping Life’s Hidden Prisons, is about finding the doors we often don’t notice and walking through them. We need your help! We all know ads are part of the podcast world, and we want to improve this experience for you. Please take 2 minutes and complete this survey, it’s a quick and easy way to support this podcast. Thank You! Feeling overwhelmed, even by the good things in your life? Check out Overwhelm is Optional — a 4-week email course that helps you feel calmer and more grounded without needing to do less. In under 10 minutes a day, you’ll learn simple mindset shifts (called “Still Points”) you can use right inside the life you already have. Sign up here for only $29! Key Takeaways: Shaka’s journey of transformation and healing after 19 years in prison. The concept of “hidden prisons,” including emotional and psychological struggles like shame, grief, and anger. The role of literacy and mentorship in personal growth The impact of grief, including the loss of his brother and his son’s health challenges The relationship between anger and unresolved emotional pain, and how it can hinder healing. The significance of accountability and self-forgiveness in overcoming past mistakes. The societal challenges faced by formerly incarcerated individuals and the need for systemic change. The complexity of personal agency and responsibility in the context of life choices and circumstances. The importance of embracing life’s messiness and the ongoing journey of healing and growth. If you enjoyed this conversation with Shaka Senghor, check out these other episodes: Dr. Tererai Trent on Incredible Perseverance Improvising in Life with Stephen Nachmanovitch Life Lessons with Dr. Edith Eger For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram This episode is sponsored by: NOCD If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: https://learn.nocd.com/FEED Grow Therapy - Whatever challenges you're facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today! Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order. BAU, Artist at War opens September 26. Visit BAUmovie.com to watch the trailer and learn more—or sign up your organization for a group screening. LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

30 Sep 1h 3min