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Postpartum depression affects between 15 and 20% of Australian women during the first year after birth which translates to thousands of new mums and about 100,000 families every year that experience this often invisible condition. For anyone who has experienced it, you’ll likely know that it is more than a short wave of sadness. It can have lasting effects on mums, on their relationships with their babies, on their friendships and their relationships. So we wanted to create this episode not just for the mums who have experienced PPD, but for their friends and partners so that we can all better understand the condition and be able to support someone we love who is experiencing it. Joining the podcast today is Kat Wyeth. Kat is a registered and practicing psychologist, the Senior Psychologist of the Psych Collaborative and host of the Psychology Sisters podcast. Kat also experienced postpartum depression. We chat: ‘Baby blues’ v postpartum depression Signs and symptoms Who is likely to develop PPD? The unspoken guilt of struggling because it implies you aren’t grateful for your baby Being ‘on the other side of it’ How it can impact your relationship with your partner Postpartum resentment and rage The perfect mother myth Intrusive thoughts and new ‘emotions’ when you enter motherhood ‘Regret’ is often yearning for your old life or identity Kat mentioned two services that offer free counselling The Gidget Foundation And Panda Organisation You can find more from Kat, and seek some psychological help at her website You can listen to Kat’s podcast The Psychology Sisters And find Kat on Instagram and the psychology sisters on instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

18 Sep 56min

Hey lifers!Laura is begging for her labour to start so she can…have a day off 😂. What helped bring on your labour? People have really tried almost everything. Would you rather s3x or a stair run? Neither is an option.Britt is in her *spiritual era. She has been saging her house for a pretty unusual reason. Are you a sager? What have you saged to get rid of? We have created a ‘push playlist’ for Laura. She wants a pumped up mix. We kicked it off with Diana Ross “I’m coming out”. We’d love for you to add your songs to the playlist!! PLEASE ADD YOUR SONGS HERE - PUSH IT REAL GOOD PLAYLIST Everyone on TikTok is reclaiming what they “unfortunately love" and we created our own list of guilty pleasures. Some of these things we should probably be ashamed of and not admit publicly. We take a bit of a shift in gears and chat about an “Am I The A-Hole” we saw on reddit. Do you think it's wrong to tell someone that you're worried about having to cover the cost of their deaths? Have you had those conversations with your loved ones? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

16 Sep 43min

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your dilemmas and Laura has had a dilemma of her own on her way into work today. She’s hoping that all of the speed and phone cameras were not working… Vibes for the week:Britt - Stalking Samantha on Disney Plus Keeshia - Survivor Aus v World Laura - CheekyGlo Glass Foot File Then we jump into your questions! DO I RISK THE FRIENDSHIP FOR SOME FWB?Five years ago, I met a man at work and the chemistry was instant — like, sparks-flying, butterflies, ‘this is my future husband’ levels of chemistry. We ended up dating exclusively, but I freaked out, got cold feet, and ran straight back into the arms of my toxic ex (rookie mistake, I know). We cut contact for about a year, I moved interstate, and life went on. Then at the end of 2023, he unblocked me on socials and slid back into my life… and honestly, it’s been like no time has passed. We’re best friends, he’s my ride-or-die, my confidant — but the elephant in the room is that the attraction never actually went away. It’s not just platonic, and we both know it. Here’s where it gets spicy: I recently told him I’m demisexual and haven’t had sex in over a year. His response? He basically volunteered as tribute to ‘help me get back in the game.’ On one hand, I trust him more than anyone, and the idea is… let’s just say, not unappealing. On the other hand, I’m scared of wrecking what we have. But then again, people drift as life moves on anyway, so part of me thinks — why not have a little fun while we’re here? So here’s my dilemma: do I risk the friendship for some (potentially mind-blowing) benefits, or keep things safe and platonic? Is this a terrible idea, or is it exactly the kind of terrible idea worth trying? HUSBAND HIRED MATE FOR WEDDING PIC- THEY ARE AWFUL AND IM DEVOMy husband and I got married in Italy last year, he booked his friend to be our photographer before discussing it with me. Once he told me I told him that the photography style wasn’t my style and I actually didn’t think he was a good photographer. I asked my husband to cancel his friend but he didn’t, my husband assured me that we would have beautiful photos, anyway after the wedding we got our photos back and I genuinely hate them. Half of our shot list is missing, terrible angles/ shadows/ lighting/editing. I cried for one week straight. It’s been one year and I can’t look at them, I don’t have any printed around the house, none are saved on my phone, none were posted on socials. How do I move on from this and how do I forgive my husband? Those 30 people will never be in Italy together again. We can’t redo them. I’m truly devastated. It’s been one year and I still hate them. Please help, I get so upset when I see someone else’s wedding photos because ours fucking suck. FRIEND WANTS ME TO PLAN 2 BRIDAL EVENTS FOR HER, I THINK IT’S TOO MUCHAITA? I am a maid of honour for my best friend who is getting married in November. This friend is typically unorganised/ leaves things until the last minute. I had to consistently follow up for details to be able to plan the hens. She said she only wants friends invited but wants to do a second hens for the parents. She said she doesn’t want the parents at the hens because she would be worried about the mums having a good time the whole time and not enjoy it herself. For context the mums don’t get along when they drink. We decided to just have the hens without the parents and have no other events. (I said I would not plan two hens as it wouldn’t be as special the second time). Now with two months out from the wedding she has asked me to plan a bridal shower for the mums to attend to have a special day for them. AITA for not putting in the same effort or money into the bridal shower as I am for the hens? PARTNERS MUM SUPER CLINGY AFTER WE MOVED OUTMy partner and I have just moved into our first home and I am definitely sure he is my penguin. The only issue is his mum is super clingy, she’ll constantly come over and want to fold our washing, clean our house and will not stop. At first it was nice but now it’s too much and I feel like she has just completely taken away the chance for us to be adults and actually do stuff for ourselves. I’ve mentioned this to my partner and he doesn’t seem to care as he is an only child and he feels like she is just doing this as a way to stay close to him. Am I overreacting, how do I approach this? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Sep 46min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. What's on the show: A woman has turned her apartment into a replica of The Titanic Is it cheap to ask for the cost of the ingredients for a dinner party? Britt & Laura unpack the Bro Code and whether you're allowed to tell your partner secrets A mum from New Zealand has set a record for running across LEGO A baby born in a Macca's car park has been given a very apt nickname Matt has outed Laura on his pod for something (maybe) gross Britt & Laura unpack the idea of a 'Lemon Law' when it comes to dating and Tamagotchis are BACK, baby. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12 Sep 38min

We all remember the Netflix hit Adolescence. Jack Thorn, the writer of Adolescence is adapting the incredible story of Suzanne Heywood into a new 4 part series. Suzanne is an author, a business leader, and child survivor of an extraordinary and scary life at sea. Suzanne spent nearly a decade (ages 7 to 17) living on board her parents’ boat Wavewalker, following her father’s dream of recreating Captain Cook’s third voyage. But, what was meant to be a three year family adventure actually became a childhood of captivity. Suzanne was isolated, unable to receive a proper education and at one point she spent weeks with a fractured skull that required multiple operations without anaesthesia on a tiny remote island. Suzanne survived shipwrecks, emotional neglect from her parents, and eventually battled her way to Oxford and a career at Cambridge. Today we talk about: Suzanne’s childhood in captivity on the boat How life at sea felt like a cult The neglect and ‘jealousy’ of her mother Having multiple surgeries for her fractured skull on a remote island without anaesthesia Suzanne’s determination to get an education Being abandoned at 16 in New Zealand without a visa and their attempts to deport her Her relationship with her parents now No authorities intervening and why we should question these situations when kids are involved You can get a copy of Wavewalker from Suzanne’s website You can find Suzanne on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

11 Sep 57min

Hey Lifers! Britt would like to thank all of the blocked … duct girlies who reached out in solidarity. She’s also realised that ride share drivers can now upload profiles about themselves where they may or may not tell you that they’re saving all of the animals. The halo effect is back! Laura’s 2 weeks away from giving birth and Britt is still really trying to claim her place as the stretch and sweeper/birth partner. Lola has been testing the boundaries and made a very expensive mistake in Laura’s house! Britt’s fringe is back much to Ben’s disliking. She’s convinced that women like fringes but men don’t. We’ll take it to a poll! Can Hollywood Stop Selling Us Showmances? Everyone has been speaking about the ‘are they or aren’t they’ Pamela Anderson and Liam Neeson relationship after co-starring in The Naked Gun and whether it’s a real romance or a showmance. We know that chemistry off-screen helps sell chemistry on-screen but are we exhausted from these ‘fauxmances’ being almost a check box of a publicity tour? We also ask if publicists create love stories because we demand them and whether we are more or less into the movie if the actors appear to be in a relationship? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

9 Sep 54min

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions! Britt is living in regret of mocking one of Keeshia’s recommendations (once again) after having a run in with a huge, very rusty nail! Vibes for the week:Keeshia - Thursday Murder Club on Netflix Laura - Unknown Number The High School Catfish on Netflix Britt - Mermade M Ionic Hair Dryer Then we jump into your questions! DO I ORGANISE FATHER DAY GIFT FOR HUSBAND IF HE DIDN’T DO ANYTHING FOR MOTHERS DAY?Should I get my husband a Father’s Day present or organise a day for him if he didn’t bother getting me a Mother’s Day present or planning anything? I had to really show how upset I was for him to eventually (weeks later) buy me new PJs that I had already asked for. He barely made an effort to do anything; we went for a walk to get a coffee at the cafe, no planned brunch or anything. I was furious. I ended up doing the groceries with my toddler by myself and she had the biggest meltdown in Coles. I was so embarrassed and upset. My daughter is 2.5 (too young to know what Mother’s Day is), and I’ve been pregnant with our 2nd. He didn’t even tell our daughter to wish me a happy Mother’s Day!! I’ve told him that the bare minimum I expect is that our children know that it’s Mother’s Day, that I get a present and that something is planned. I don’t want to stoop to his level and not make an effort as I hope that leading by example will make him make an effort. But I’m fucking angry. SELFISH FRIEND STRUGGLES TO BE HAPPY FOR OTHERS, BUT HAS HAD A TOUGH TIMEMy best friend is also my colleague. She’s had a really rough 18 months — a divorce just 6 months into her marriage and then a miscarriage. Since then, she struggles to be happy for others. She refuses to contribute to colleagues’ wedding or baby gifts and when another colleague tried to organise a present for our pregnant boss, she told her, ‘I’m not paying you money, you can all f* off.’ She also makes comments like, ‘I wish I got treated like that,’ “I’m Not contributing to that after what I’ve been through!” when others are celebrated. The thing is, when she went through her divorce, miscarriage and birthday we all supported her with meals, presents, and care packages. But she’s never once gotten me anything — not for my birthdays or even when my Nan passed away. I’m finding her selfishness and expectations really hard to handle. How do I deal with this as her best friend without being cruel about what she’s been through?” FRIEND WANTS A SECOND BABY SHOWER JUST TO GET GIFTS- BUT I GAVE FOR THE FIRST BABY!One of my girlfriends within our friendship group announced she is pregnant with another child. The age gap between her youngest will be 6 years and was the first of our group to be married and having babies young. Whereas the rest of us are now having our first baby. She has advised she’d like someone to throw her a baby shower given the years gone and no longer having any baby items. We all contributed to the first baby shower. A few of us have expressed that it’s the first child you have a baby shower and the rest you can celebrate as a baby sprinkle without expectations of any gifts or restock of items they originally had been given from the first child. She has expressed it is a shower she wants and not just a celebration. Is it bad for me to not want to attend knowing it’s purely based on wanting gifts and having a strong expectation from guests? ARE WE GIVING BLOWJOBS?Ok girls, blow jobs…. Are we giving them? My partner and I have been in a relationship for 8 years now. A common issue that often arises is around aligning with what we want sexually. I have quite a low libido and could quite happily go months without sex. He has quite a high libido and would love to have sex every couple of days. We have compromised on once every 1-2 weeks. That is working for us, apart from when I am on my period. My partner expects that I should give him blow jobs in the week of my period. It is something he really enjoys (says every man ever). However, I do not find it enjoyable. Instead, I find it quite uncomfortable, and it feels like a chore to me. I have told him that I do not like doing it, and this is a constant issue that comes up. Every time he asks for a blow job, I am conflicted between not wanting to cause conflict and not wanting to do it because I do not enjoy it.We have had a big discussion about this, and we are going to try to incorporate other things into our sex life to meet his sexual desires without blow jobs. My question is, is this a common issue that couples face? I feel like no one really talks about it, but surely it is! Are people giving their partners blow jobs? And if so, do they enjoy it, or do they find it a chore but do it because their partner enjoys it? (Can we poll this) xSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

7 Sep 53min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. What's on the show: Britt & Laura chat about that millionaire that was caught stealing a hat from a child Britt reckons she saw a ghost in her bedroom this morning The Bird Test might be the best experiment for how long your relationship will last Laura came across a very questionable Home Health Hack (pls don't try this at home) People were MAD about Maya's first birthday for some reason What's your secret talent? This woman wants her Grandma Name to be Big Mama Lola is making very questionable threats and Father's Day Dad Jokes! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

5 Sep 43min