Bullying the bully? - Talking resilience with Turia Pit

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your dilemmas and give our enthusiastic advice!Laura may or may not have had her baby so we recorded this one just a bit in advance in case she goes into labour! It might be pretty clear because we are all a bit loopy today!If you’ve/your partner has been pregnant, did you keep having s3x all the way to the birth? If not, when did you stop? Vibes and unsubscribes for the week: Britt - World of Secrets. The Abercrombie Guys Podcast Laura - Unsubscribing impulse purchasing of silicon lymphatic massager Keeshia - Kate Bowler Substack Feeling tired? Try giving up your “purpose.” Then we jump into your questions! WILL SEX BE BORING BECAUSE I USE MY VIBE SO MUCH?My last relationship (which was also my first) lasted for 2 years and didn’t end badly at all. During that time I never finished which was a bit annoying but we were both young and at the time I had never experienced an orgasm so didn’t even know if I could. Fast forward to now, I am currently single, and my vibrator has since proved to me that my body is most definitely capable of it! But I’m a bit worried that using my vibrator so frequently (I’d say 3-5 times a week) is going to make sex in the future kinda boring/I’ll get lazy/won’t be able to finish during sex without it if I get so used to using it? I guess my question is, do I need to stop relying on it and find other ways so I don’t become reliant on it and lazy during sex in the future? FOUND AI PORN ON NEPHEWS COMPUTER - TELL HIS FOLKS?While providing tech support to my 12 year old nephew, I have found out that he has been accessing porn websites including AI porn games and an AI girlfriend generator website. I am unsure what to do (if anything at all). I acknowledge the raging hormones and curiosity in pre-teens, but want to make sure he is not accessing content that encourages misogyny. I have no children of my own and I don’t know how best to deal with this. Should I talk to his parents or let sleeping dogs lie? I don’t feel comfortable talking to him directly as it may embarrass him. BF GETS TURNED ON BY CRYING SO NOW I CAN’T GET EMOTIONAL OR CRY!My boyfriend and I were discussing our turn ons one day in our early days. He told me how when his partners cry it gets him a little aroused. He says he can be empathetic and he NEVER has or NEVER will act on it. I am someone who likes to discuss my mental health struggles with my partner, cry, chat about it and move forward but I find myself now unable to cry in front of him which is now leading to an issue because I’m bottling things up when around him. Any help or suggestions would be great because he’s incredible and my penguin, someone I’ve gone through a crappy marriage and many toxic relationships to find and I am not viewing this as something that will break the relationship I just don’t know how to move past this so I can let the floodgates open up and move on before it seriously affects me. Help pretty please! IS MY MOTHER IN LAW POISONING ME?I’ve been with my partner for 3 years and he has been nothing short of amazing! He’s taught me the real definition of love and could see him as my life long person. The one thing I really struggle with is his mother in law who can be very opinionated and I’m slightly convinced has it out for me. I was recently sick with a cold and couldn’t seem to shake it off so she mailed me through some “vitamins” along with a list of when to take them and how many each day. I took them without hesitation and after about 4 days of taking them I was at work with horrible stomach cramps and was vomiting. Turns out the vitamins she had given me were actually medication that doctors use to treat scabies and ringworms and she was giving me 4 times the dosage of what doctors prescribe to people with these things. The doctor said I was very lucky to have only been vomiting as it could have been a lot worse. Once she found out how sick I was she kept trying to contact me to discuss my symptoms but I kept declining as I was extremely upset about everything. My partner told me I should ring her and apologise for ignoring her to keep the peace. Am I in the wrong for not wanting to keep the peace with my MIL after something like this? And is it worth being with my partner when I can’t stand his mother? PS my MIL isn’t a doctor and I have no idea where she got these medications from in the first place. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

21 Sep 47min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. What's on the show: Britt & Laura revisit the moment Matt picked Laura on The Bachelor Gordon Ramsay says his kids won't get any of his inheritance Dogfishing is BACK on dating profiles Britt is SO obsessed with The Summer I Turned Pretty We unpack the mum who was rejected from the Virgin Business Lounge for pumping A massive scandal has ROCKED the Stone Skipping Championship Community ASK UNCUT: Emma found out her husband's best friend is cheating on his partner. Should she tell her? What did your mum hold on to? A paranormal investigator has called the show to explain Britt's Lightning Ghost You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

19 Sep 51min

Postpartum depression affects between 15 and 20% of Australian women during the first year after birth which translates to thousands of new mums and about 100,000 families every year that experience this often invisible condition. For anyone who has experienced it, you’ll likely know that it is more than a short wave of sadness. It can have lasting effects on mums, on their relationships with their babies, on their friendships and their relationships. So we wanted to create this episode not just for the mums who have experienced PPD, but for their friends and partners so that we can all better understand the condition and be able to support someone we love who is experiencing it. Joining the podcast today is Kat Wyeth. Kat is a registered and practicing psychologist, the Senior Psychologist of the Psych Collaborative and host of the Psychology Sisters podcast. Kat also experienced postpartum depression. We chat: ‘Baby blues’ v postpartum depression Signs and symptoms Who is likely to develop PPD? The unspoken guilt of struggling because it implies you aren’t grateful for your baby Being ‘on the other side of it’ How it can impact your relationship with your partner Postpartum resentment and rage The perfect mother myth Intrusive thoughts and new ‘emotions’ when you enter motherhood ‘Regret’ is often yearning for your old life or identity Kat mentioned two services that offer free counselling The Gidget Foundation And Panda Organisation You can find more from Kat, and seek some psychological help at her website You can listen to Kat’s podcast The Psychology Sisters And find Kat on Instagram and the psychology sisters on instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

18 Sep 56min

Hey lifers!Laura is begging for her labour to start so she can…have a day off 😂. What helped bring on your labour? People have really tried almost everything. Would you rather s3x or a stair run? Neither is an option.Britt is in her *spiritual era. She has been saging her house for a pretty unusual reason. Are you a sager? What have you saged to get rid of? We have created a ‘push playlist’ for Laura. She wants a pumped up mix. We kicked it off with Diana Ross “I’m coming out”. We’d love for you to add your songs to the playlist!! PLEASE ADD YOUR SONGS HERE - PUSH IT REAL GOOD PLAYLIST Everyone on TikTok is reclaiming what they “unfortunately love" and we created our own list of guilty pleasures. Some of these things we should probably be ashamed of and not admit publicly. We take a bit of a shift in gears and chat about an “Am I The A-Hole” we saw on reddit. Do you think it's wrong to tell someone that you're worried about having to cover the cost of their deaths? Have you had those conversations with your loved ones? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

16 Sep 43min

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your dilemmas and Laura has had a dilemma of her own on her way into work today. She’s hoping that all of the speed and phone cameras were not working… Vibes for the week:Britt - Stalking Samantha on Disney Plus Keeshia - Survivor Aus v World Laura - CheekyGlo Glass Foot File Then we jump into your questions! DO I RISK THE FRIENDSHIP FOR SOME FWB?Five years ago, I met a man at work and the chemistry was instant — like, sparks-flying, butterflies, ‘this is my future husband’ levels of chemistry. We ended up dating exclusively, but I freaked out, got cold feet, and ran straight back into the arms of my toxic ex (rookie mistake, I know). We cut contact for about a year, I moved interstate, and life went on. Then at the end of 2023, he unblocked me on socials and slid back into my life… and honestly, it’s been like no time has passed. We’re best friends, he’s my ride-or-die, my confidant — but the elephant in the room is that the attraction never actually went away. It’s not just platonic, and we both know it. Here’s where it gets spicy: I recently told him I’m demisexual and haven’t had sex in over a year. His response? He basically volunteered as tribute to ‘help me get back in the game.’ On one hand, I trust him more than anyone, and the idea is… let’s just say, not unappealing. On the other hand, I’m scared of wrecking what we have. But then again, people drift as life moves on anyway, so part of me thinks — why not have a little fun while we’re here? So here’s my dilemma: do I risk the friendship for some (potentially mind-blowing) benefits, or keep things safe and platonic? Is this a terrible idea, or is it exactly the kind of terrible idea worth trying? HUSBAND HIRED MATE FOR WEDDING PIC- THEY ARE AWFUL AND IM DEVOMy husband and I got married in Italy last year, he booked his friend to be our photographer before discussing it with me. Once he told me I told him that the photography style wasn’t my style and I actually didn’t think he was a good photographer. I asked my husband to cancel his friend but he didn’t, my husband assured me that we would have beautiful photos, anyway after the wedding we got our photos back and I genuinely hate them. Half of our shot list is missing, terrible angles/ shadows/ lighting/editing. I cried for one week straight. It’s been one year and I can’t look at them, I don’t have any printed around the house, none are saved on my phone, none were posted on socials. How do I move on from this and how do I forgive my husband? Those 30 people will never be in Italy together again. We can’t redo them. I’m truly devastated. It’s been one year and I still hate them. Please help, I get so upset when I see someone else’s wedding photos because ours fucking suck. FRIEND WANTS ME TO PLAN 2 BRIDAL EVENTS FOR HER, I THINK IT’S TOO MUCHAITA? I am a maid of honour for my best friend who is getting married in November. This friend is typically unorganised/ leaves things until the last minute. I had to consistently follow up for details to be able to plan the hens. She said she only wants friends invited but wants to do a second hens for the parents. She said she doesn’t want the parents at the hens because she would be worried about the mums having a good time the whole time and not enjoy it herself. For context the mums don’t get along when they drink. We decided to just have the hens without the parents and have no other events. (I said I would not plan two hens as it wouldn’t be as special the second time). Now with two months out from the wedding she has asked me to plan a bridal shower for the mums to attend to have a special day for them. AITA for not putting in the same effort or money into the bridal shower as I am for the hens? PARTNERS MUM SUPER CLINGY AFTER WE MOVED OUTMy partner and I have just moved into our first home and I am definitely sure he is my penguin. The only issue is his mum is super clingy, she’ll constantly come over and want to fold our washing, clean our house and will not stop. At first it was nice but now it’s too much and I feel like she has just completely taken away the chance for us to be adults and actually do stuff for ourselves. I’ve mentioned this to my partner and he doesn’t seem to care as he is an only child and he feels like she is just doing this as a way to stay close to him. Am I overreacting, how do I approach this? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Sep 46min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. What's on the show: A woman has turned her apartment into a replica of The Titanic Is it cheap to ask for the cost of the ingredients for a dinner party? Britt & Laura unpack the Bro Code and whether you're allowed to tell your partner secrets A mum from New Zealand has set a record for running across LEGO A baby born in a Macca's car park has been given a very apt nickname Matt has outed Laura on his pod for something (maybe) gross Britt & Laura unpack the idea of a 'Lemon Law' when it comes to dating and Tamagotchis are BACK, baby. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12 Sep 38min

We all remember the Netflix hit Adolescence. Jack Thorn, the writer of Adolescence is adapting the incredible story of Suzanne Heywood into a new 4 part series. Suzanne is an author, a business leader, and child survivor of an extraordinary and scary life at sea. Suzanne spent nearly a decade (ages 7 to 17) living on board her parents’ boat Wavewalker, following her father’s dream of recreating Captain Cook’s third voyage. But, what was meant to be a three year family adventure actually became a childhood of captivity. Suzanne was isolated, unable to receive a proper education and at one point she spent weeks with a fractured skull that required multiple operations without anaesthesia on a tiny remote island. Suzanne survived shipwrecks, emotional neglect from her parents, and eventually battled her way to Oxford and a career at Cambridge. Today we talk about: Suzanne’s childhood in captivity on the boat How life at sea felt like a cult The neglect and ‘jealousy’ of her mother Having multiple surgeries for her fractured skull on a remote island without anaesthesia Suzanne’s determination to get an education Being abandoned at 16 in New Zealand without a visa and their attempts to deport her Her relationship with her parents now No authorities intervening and why we should question these situations when kids are involved You can get a copy of Wavewalker from Suzanne’s website You can find Suzanne on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

11 Sep 57min

Hey Lifers! Britt would like to thank all of the blocked … duct girlies who reached out in solidarity. She’s also realised that ride share drivers can now upload profiles about themselves where they may or may not tell you that they’re saving all of the animals. The halo effect is back! Laura’s 2 weeks away from giving birth and Britt is still really trying to claim her place as the stretch and sweeper/birth partner. Lola has been testing the boundaries and made a very expensive mistake in Laura’s house! Britt’s fringe is back much to Ben’s disliking. She’s convinced that women like fringes but men don’t. We’ll take it to a poll! Can Hollywood Stop Selling Us Showmances? Everyone has been speaking about the ‘are they or aren’t they’ Pamela Anderson and Liam Neeson relationship after co-starring in The Naked Gun and whether it’s a real romance or a showmance. We know that chemistry off-screen helps sell chemistry on-screen but are we exhausted from these ‘fauxmances’ being almost a check box of a publicity tour? We also ask if publicists create love stories because we demand them and whether we are more or less into the movie if the actors appear to be in a relationship? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

9 Sep 54min