589 My dom's girlfriend is domblocking me

Worried and her roommate are seeing the same long-distance dom, and her roommate started dating him and then put restrictions on Worried's time with him. Should they move in together?

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6:50 Topic: My dom's girlfriend is domblocking me

Worried has a roommate, and they have both been playing with the same long-distance dom for two years. The roomie and the dom began dating, and the roomie began "putting restrictions" on the dom's play with Worried. Worried thinks that the roomie is fabricating issues to enforce her girlfriend status. They are talking about moving in together.

• Don't move in until this is resolved
• Why are you blaming the roommate instead of the person performing the unwanted actions, the dom?
• When you have a conversation with your roommate, go in seeking to understand and with vulnerability
• Claim your autonomy; it's your choice whether to obey your roommate's rules
• This smells like a relationship by crisis model in which whoever has the biggest crisis gets the most attention. So just ask your dom for what you want, regardless of crises. Ask for what you want!
• Are they a good roommate, outside of the dom issue? Can you easily share household chores or choose a restaurant for dinner?
• Put yourself first

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