Why "I'm Sorry" is a Death Sentence to a Narcissist.
Have you been waiting months, or even years, for a simple, genuine apology? As a diagnosed self-aware narcissist, I’m here to tell you why you might be waiting for something that is physically and psychologically impossible for a narcissist to give.In this episode, I pull back the curtain on the "Narcissistic Injury." To you, an apology is a way to heal a wound; to me, an apology is a total surrender of power. I explain why admitting fault feels like a "death of the ego" and why we would rather double down on a blatant lie than offer you the closure you deserve. If you’ve been struggling with the "Non-Apology" (like "I'm sorry you feel that way"), this episode will help you understand the mechanics of the narc-brain so you can stop seeking validation from the person who hurt you.In this episode, we break down:The Ego Armor: Why saying "I'm sorry" feels like being physically exposed and defeated.The "Winning" Mindset: Why relationships feel like a zero-sum game where an apology equals a "loss."Decoding the Fake Apology: How to recognize blame-shifting, justifications, and "regret" vs. "remorse."Closure Without Them: How to give yourself the apology they never will, so you can finally break the trauma bond.Stop waiting for them to take accountability. Take your power back by understanding their limitations.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
10 Jan 13min
No One Seems To Care! The Empathy Deficit In America and Society
The lack of empathy in today's society, especially in America, is out of control. NO one seems to care when Harm comes to other people. People Literally don't care and I'm fed up with it. It's traumatizing to wake up everyday with something else going on. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
9 Jan 13min
The Real Reason I Reached Out: A Narcissist’s Confession
Have you ever received a text from an ex-partner saying they "miss you" or "saw something that reminded them of you" just when you were finally moving on? In this episode of the Mental Healness Podcast, Lee Hammock—a self-aware, diagnosed narcissist—takes the mask off to explain the cold reality behind the "Hoover."Most survivors believe these messages are a sign of reflection or regret. But in this raw confessional, Lee explains why he used to reach out, and it wasn’t because of love. It was a calculated move to check "if the door was still unlocked."In this episode, we break down:The "Nostalgia Trap": How narcissists use your shared memories as a weapon to bypass your boundaries.Supply vs. Connection: Why a reach-out usually means the narcissist’s current "supply" is low, not that they’ve changed.The Boredom Factor: The truth about why "boredom" is a primary motivator for a narcissist to contact an ex.Protecting Your Peace: Why replying to a hoover—even with anger—gives the narcissist exactly what they want.If you are struggling to maintain "No Contact" or wondering if your ex has finally changed, this episode is the reality check you need to stay strong.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
8 Jan 14min
Why the Narcissist Stalks Your Social Media After the Breakup (The Truth)
Why is your ex still watching your stories from a fake account? In this final episode of "The Narcissist’s Confessionals," we are stripping away the mask to explain the psychological reality behind narcissistic stalking and post-breakup monitoring.Many survivors of narcissistic abuse believe that if an ex-partner is still checking their Instagram or Facebook, it must mean they still have feelings. The truth is much colder: it’s about power, information gathering, and "checking the lock" on the door to see if you are still susceptible to being hoovered.In this episode, we discuss:The Information Gap: Why narcissists need to know if you are happy or hurting after the split.Power & Control: How monitoring your social media allows them to feel like they still own a piece of your life.The "Grenade" Strategy: Why they reach out the moment they see you finally moving on.Protecting Your Peace: Why "Going Dark" is the only way to truly take your power back.If you’ve ever felt like you’re being watched or wondered why they won't just let you go, this episode is the closure you’ve been waiting for.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
7 Jan 13min
Why Your Tears Feel Like a Weapon to Me and Other Narcissists
Why does your crying make a narcissist so angry? In this video, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) breaks down the cold and often cruel reactions narcissists have to your tears. While you are looking for comfort, they are looking for control.As a narcissist in therapy, Lee explains the 'Internal Software Crash' that happens when they see you cry. From viewing your tears as a manipulative tactic to feeling a sense of 'victory' over your emotions, this video uncovers the truth behind the lack of empathy. If you’ve ever been told to 'stop crying' or been ignored while in pain, this perspective will help you understand that it’s not your fault—it’s their limitation.What we cover today:The Manipulation Mirror: Why they think you’re 'faking it' (because they often do).The Power Trip: Why some narcissists actually feel a 'high' or arousal when they see you broken.Emotional Cruelty: The reason they go 'ice cold' or even fall asleep when you are sobbing.The Shame Trigger: How your pain reminds them of their own hidden shame, causing them to lash out.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
5 Jan 14min
Why You Still Want Them (The Brutal Truth About Trauma Bonding)
What does it take to finally walk away after YEARS of manipulation and abus3? In this powerful episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) sits down with Louella to discuss her harrowing and inspiring journey of surviving a long-term narcissistic relationship.Louella shares the raw truth about the "slow erode" of self-esteem, the confusion of the trauma bond, and the specific moment she realized that the person she loved was never going to change. This isn't just a story of survival; it’s a roadmap for anyone currently feeling trapped in a toxic cycle.In this interview, we dive into:The Long Game: How narcissistic manipulation evolves over the span of many years.The Turning Point: The specific "red flag" that finally broke the spell for Louella.Generational Trauma: How our pasts can sometimes lead us into the arms of a narcissist.Life After the Exit: The reality of healing, helping, and finding peace after the discard.As a self-aware narcissist, Lee provides feedback on the tactics used against Louella, offering a unique "inside look" at why her ex acted the way he did—and why her decision to leave was the ultimate power move.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
1 Jan 1h 16min
Why Narcissists Wait for You to Reach Out First (The Power of Silence)
Why does the narcissist go silent and wait for YOU to send the first text? In this episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) breaks down the manipulation behind the silence.If you've ever felt the agonizing urge to reach out just to get some closure or stop the pain, you need to hear this. Lee explains that when a narcissist waits for you to reach out, they aren't "missing" you—they are measuring their level of control over you. Every time you break the silence, it reinforces their ego and tells them that you are still hooked.In this episode, we discuss:The Ego Boost: Why your "checking in" text is considered the ultimate validation.The Silent Treatment: How narcissists use your own anxiety against you to force a submission.Winning the Waiting Game: Why staying silent is the only way to regain your power.The Reverse Hoover: How they bait you into "hoovering" yourself.Stop playing their game by their rules. Learn how to hold your ground and understand what is actually happening on the other side of that silent phone screen.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
31 Dec 202513min
The 3 Words Every Narcissist Fears (Why "I Am Leaving" Changes Everything)
What happens in the mind of a narcissist when they realize they’ve finally lost control? In this episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) reveals the three words that strike the most fear into a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): "I am leaving."For most people, these words signify a breakup. For a narcissist, they signify the end of a power dynamic, the loss of supply, and the onset of "narcissistic injury." Lee breaks down why this specific phrase is so terrifying and how it often triggers the most desperate "Hoovering" attempts.In this episode, we explore:The Core Fear: Why the threat of abandonment is a narcissist's "kryptonite."The Power Shift: What happens to the dynamic when you stop being a source of supply.Manipulation Tactics: How narcissists use "Future Faking" and guilt to stop you from walking out the door.The "Discard" vs. Being Left: Why it’s different when you choose to go first.If you are looking for the strength to leave or trying to understand why your exit triggered such a massive reaction, this episode provides the perspective you need to stay strong.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
29 Dec 202513min
