When does BDSM become abuse?

Where does BDSM end and abuse begin? This is the question Anna and Gregor delve into with a listener who details their experience of being in an abusive Dom/sub dynamic. Sarah* (whose name has been changed to protect their anonymity) details the insidious ways that a Dominant can blur the lines between life and play, and how nonconsensual power exchange outside of the dungeon can cause psychological and physical harm. Trigger warning: discussions about psychological abuse and controlling be...