Flirtini #3: Genuine Interest vs. Delulu in Dating

Flirty! Do you like them? Or are you delulu?!

In this Flirtini, I share how you can tell the difference!

First, we focus on delulu, shorthand for delusion, as we also bring in obsession, infatuation, and limerence for this part of the discussion! I think all of these states and experiences are cut from the same cloth and right at the top, I share exactly what it means to be delulu - and why we go there!

Then, I talk about what it means to have genuine interest for someone, what that looks like in dating, and how that interest is developed.

I also cover the different dating behaviors that are involved in delulu vs. genuine interest, or HOW each looks in dating, and what to look for from the people you date to see where they're at, too.

Finally, I don't think this Flirtini would be complete without brining anxiety into the conversation, so we'll round out this one with what to do when anxiety seems to take over.

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About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.

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💗 Happy flirting!