Is the Narcissist a Parasite — or Something Deeper? The Hidden Dynamics of Covert Narcissism | Epi 115
In this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, I share a compelling clip from my conversation with Dr. Kerry, host of Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse. We explore the complex dynamics between narcissistic mothers and their children — is it parasitic, or a painful kind of symbiosis? Dive into the psychodynamic insights behind emotional fusion, people-pleasing, and why breaking free from these relationships can feel so destabilizing. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual t...
17 Dec 15min
How to Handle a Family Member with Narcissistic Traits: Tips for Responding | Epi 114
In this episode, we continue our conversation with Olivia Atkin as we explore what happens when a family member begins showing narcissistic traits — or even starts dividing the family. Together, we unpack how to recognize these patterns and how to engage someone like this. I share practical strategies to stay grounded, listen with empathy, avoid taking control, resist insisting on your reality, and find your own voice without getting pulled into the chaos. Tune in to discover how understandin...
10 Dec 26min
How Does Childhood Trauma Shape Narcissistic Traits? |Epi 113
In this episode, we explore how childhood shame, bullying, and emotional neglect can quietly lay the groundwork for narcissism. Through a heartfelt exchange with Olivia Atkin — who shares a powerful personal story about growing up with a medical diagnosis and being bullied — we unpack how these early wounds shape self-esteem, fuel the need for narcissistic supplies, and lead some people to protect themselves through narcissistic defenses. Then - we take it a step deeper — looking at the real ...
3 Dec 26min
Is Narcissistic Gaslighting Always Intentional—or Sometimes Unconscious? | | Epi 112
In this episode, we continue our conversation with Deborah from Healing from Toxic Abuse to explore one of the most confusing and painful dynamics in narcissistic relationships—gaslighting. We look at how gaslighting isn’t always as clear-cut as it seems. Sometimes it’s deliberate and controlling, but other times it reflects someone trapped in their own distorted reality, unable to see beyond their perspective. We also talk about how, at times, it’s possible to “sneak around” narcissistic def...
26 Nov 25min
Can Someone with Narcissism Truly Change—and Heal from Within? | Epi 111
In this episode, we join a conversation with Deborah from Healing from Toxic Abuse right at the moment she expresses surprise that people actually come to therapy identifying as narcissistic—because self-reflection is the very thing they resist. From there, we explore what happens when the illusion of the grandiose self begins to crack, when the fantasies that hold the self together collapse under reality. We look at how narcissistic defenses break down, how modes of repair can become destruc...
19 Nov 22min
3 Steps to Protect Yourself in a Narcissistic Relationship Part 2 | Epi 110
In this episode, we break down 3 powerful steps to protect yourself from narcissistic manipulation — even when no contact isn’t possible. You’ll learn how to recognize their defenses, stop absorbing their projections, and reclaim your power without losing your sense of self. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. Want to go deeper? Join me in Office Hours — an open ...
12 Nov 22min
8 Red Flags of Narcissism in Relationships: Overt vs Covert Narcissism Part 1 |Epi 109
Ever feel drained, confused, or like you don’t even exist in a relationship? You might be interacting with a narcissist—overt or covert—and not even realize it. In this episode, we will explore how to spot the red flags and understand the psychological defenses driving these behaviors. It’s time to reclaim your clarity, your power, and your peace of mind. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for ...
5 Nov 22min
Am I a Narcissist? The Hidden Patterns Behind the Label Part 2 | Epi 108
Do you ever catch yourself withdrawing, lashing out, or dismissing someone you love when they don’t meet your expectations—and then wonder if it means you’re selfish, manipulative, or even “narcissistic”? In this episode we go beneath the surface of those labels to explore the unconscious patterns that drive these destructive behaviors. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed...
29 Okt 29min
