Mamamia Out Loud20 Apr 2025

Another Little Treat: The Tyranny Of Looking Like You Haven't Tried

Happy Monday, Outlouders — we’ve got a juicy little treat for you. Usually reserved for subscribers, we’re dropping this one into your feed because… well, you deserve it.

As the seasons change, so apparently must our entire wardrobes. Again. It’s a lot.

In this episode, Mia and Jessie are joined by the glorious Amelia Lester to unpack the pressure to be 'effortlessness'.

We’re talking:

The ‘I Woke Up Like This’ lie. Nope, your hair did not do that on its own.
Why pretending not to try is somehow the most work of all
How the effortless aesthetic has crept into fashion, parenting, relationships, work… you name it, it's got to be without a hint of trying.

It’s a full-time job to look like you’re not working at anything. And we’re officially over it.

The End Bits

Support independent women's media

Get your tickets to the Mamamia Out Loud Live 2025 All or Nothing Tour Presented By Nivea Cellular

Don't miss out on your merch for Mamamia Out Loud

What To Listen To Next:

Listen to our latest episode: This Special Live Show Recording Spilt 10 Years of Tea
Listen: The Exact Science To Keep On Enjoying Your Job
Listen: A Very 2025 Diss Track. No Notes.
Listen: Clare Stephens - We Have Questions
Listen: A Reality TV Showdown & Coachella's Three Levels Of Cool
Listen: I’d Like To Give My Diagnosis Back
Listen: The Three Rules For Friendship Catch-Ups
Listen: The "Ick" Of Old Friends & The Most Hated Woman On The Internet
Listen: "We're Not OK" - The White Lotus Season 3 FinaleSubscribe
Connect your subscription to Apple Podcasts

What To Read:

GET IN TOUCH:

Feedback? We’re listening. Send us an email at outloud@mamamia.com.au

Share your story, feedback, or dilemma! Send us a voice message

Join our Facebook group Mamamia Outlouders to talk about the show.

Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Det här avsnittet är hämtat från ett öppet RSS-flöde och publiceras inte av Podme. Det kan innehålla reklam.

Avsnitt(1595)

SUBS FREE TASTER: "Am I A Bad Friend?" Our Team's Personal Dilemmas

Mia asked whether two of her kids’ friends were dating. The answer? No, they’re “talking”. Em and Keeshia try to explain the difference between talking, hooking up and dating, and somehow make it wors...

27 Okt 4min

This Is Not A Frivolous Royal Story & Why Your Life Is Chaos Right Now

For years, the most damning thing anyone could say about Meghan Markle was that she doesn’t speak to her dad. This week, that story took a very dark turn. Holly, Jessie and Amelia unpack the allegatio...

26 Okt 42min

The Case Against Being Nice

Somewhere on Lily Allen’s tour schedule, between soundcheck and emails, was “test butt plug”. Holly unpacks the new merch and asks whether celebrity sex toys are still smart business, or just the new ...

23 Okt 36min

What The Attack On Helen Haines Has Shown Us & The Russell Brand Strategy

“Thank you, you lovely people. I appreciate your help.” Those were reportedly Helen Haines’s first words to the strangers who ran to her aid outside her Wangaratta office on Monday. Jessie, Mia and Ho...

21 Okt 40min

SUBS FREE TASTER: "Major Life Update. We're Getting Divorced. Any Questions?"

What happens when you announce your divorce with an FAQ and forget your Instagram is public? A man named Michael found out, five million views later, and now Em needs answers. Who initiated it? Who ge...

20 Okt 3min

Andy Lee & Bec Harding’s Royal Wedding & “Can I Crash On Your Couch?”

Andy Lee and Bec Harding were together 12 years before they married in New York on the weekend, and Holly Wainwright isn’t mad, she’s just disappointed. Plus, a man online says it’s rude NOT to ask to...

19 Okt 42min

Special Episode: Perimenopause, Out Loud

What actually is perimenopause, and how would you know if you’re in it? Outlouders, we’re popping into your feed on a Sunday for a very important conversation: a special Out Loud episode, where we're ...

17 Okt 43min

The New Ways To Be Rude & “How Much Do You Earn?”

Would you ask a date what they earn? A BBC piece found plenty of people who’d rather not, but Em Vernem has a strict rule she adheres to — Holly's Britishness hates it.Also, quiet quitting is over. Lo...

15 Okt 42min