Will They Come Back? Ep. 129

In this episode, Sylvia explores how our need for control and rigid life plans often block the very love, joy, and opportunities we're hoping to find. From relationship timelines and dating expectations to the stories we tell ourselves about how things "should" unfold, Sylvia unpacks why flexibility and openness are key to true connection and happiness. Through real-life examples and client stories, she reveals how letting go of rigid beliefs allows life to surprise us in the best possible ways. You'll learn how to recognize where control is holding you back, how to question the beliefs you've inherited from others, and how to open yourself up to the unexpected paths that lead to growth, love, and fulfillment. In this episode, you'll learn: Why your need for control might be blocking love and happiness How rigid beliefs and timelines create unnecessary pressure in relationships The difference between having standards and being inflexible Practical ways to become more adaptable in dating and daily life How letting go of "the plan" helps you attract what's truly meant for you Show Links: Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation Ready to work with Sylvia? Book a 10x session package and start your healing journey today: 10x Coaching Session Package

3 Nov 17min

In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we're diving into one of the most powerful shifts you can make in your relationships — learning the difference between speaking from fear and speaking from true vulnerability. So often, when we feel hurt, rejected, or misunderstood, our words come out as accusations, defenses, or silence. We push the people we love away while desperately wanting them to come closer. But what if there's another way — one that actually builds trust, intimacy, and safety instead of conflict? In this conversation, I unpack: ✨ The three ways fear-based communication shows up (and why it never works) ✨ What true vulnerability really sounds like — and why it's not weakness ✨ How to create emotional safety while expressing your needs ✨ What someone's response to your vulnerability actually reveals about them ✨ How to rebuild trust and rewire your fear of rejection through small, safe steps If you've ever found yourself saying things you don't mean when you're scared — or shutting down when you most want to connect — this episode will help you understand what's really happening underneath and how to change it. Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation If you are ready to work with Sylvia book a 10x session package and start today: https://sylviasuwan.com

26 Okt 15min

If you've ever found yourself lying awake replaying conversations, analysing every text message, or feeling an overwhelming wave of panic that makes you want to pull away from someone you care about — this episode is for you. In today's episode, we're diving deep into anxiety in dating and relationships — what it looks like, why it happens, and how to begin healing it. You'll learn: The hidden ways anxiety shows up in your dating life Why your nervous system reacts as if emotional vulnerability is a threat How to tell the difference between intuition and anxious overthinking Why the right person can help you rewire your nervous system — and the wrong person can reinforce your fears What it actually takes to feel safe, secure, and open in love again Sylvia also shares a personal story about her own experience with anxiety in a healthy relationship, and how understanding her body's trauma response helped her rebuild trust and calm within herself. This episode will help you: ✨ Understand what's happening beneath your anxious thoughts ✨ Learn how to regulate your nervous system in the moment ✨ Identify whether your relationship is healing you or hurting you ✨ Realise that you are not broken — you're healing If you've ever thought "Why can't I just relax and enjoy dating?" — this conversation will give you clarity, compassion, and hope that you absolutely can. Key Quotes: "Your anxiety isn't trying to ruin your relationships — it's trying to protect you." "The goal isn't to eliminate anxiety, but to create safety so you can stay present even when it shows up." "With the right person, your nervous system learns that vulnerability can be safe." Show Links: Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation If you are ready to commit to your dating and relationship goals, work with Sylvia: 10x Session Package

19 Okt 27min

In today's episode, I'm exploring a concept inspired by Steven Bartlett's book The Diary of a CEO: 33 Laws of Business and Life — specifically his idea of "The Five Buckets." When I read this, it instantly clicked for me how perfectly it applies to dating and relationships. Steven's framework explains how success is built — starting with knowledge and skills, which then create your network, resources, and ultimately your reputation. But what happens when we skip the foundation? When we try to jump to the outcome — the successful career, the perfect relationship — without building the emotional and personal groundwork first? In this episode, I connect Steven's Five Buckets to the world of dating. You'll hear about: 💡 Why attraction alone isn't enough for long-term love 💡 How emotional maturity creates true relationship compatibility 💡 The danger of chasing a "bucket five" partner before you've built your own foundation 💡 What it really means to become the kind of person you want to attract You'll also learn how to apply this framework to your own growth — building knowledge of yourself, developing emotional and relational skills, and creating the kind of grounded confidence that naturally attracts healthy, lasting love. Because just like in business, if you skip the foundation, the relationship eventually crumbles. But when you build from the ground up — with self-awareness, growth, and emotional intelligence — everything else starts to fall into place. Listen if: You're tired of short-lived connections and want to build something real. You're doing the inner work and want to understand why it matters. You're ready to stop chasing and start becoming. Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

12 Okt 15min

Are you months or years post-breakup and still feeling worse than the day it happened? You're not alone. So many people tell me they're doing all the right things—going to the gym, journaling, talking to friends, maybe even booking a retreat—yet they still feel stuck in pain. In today's episode of Breakup to Blessing, I'm diving into why actions alone aren't enough to heal, and what's really missing when you feel like you're "ticking all the boxes" but not moving forward. We'll explore: Why support from friends can sometimes keep you stuck instead of helping you heal. The difference between healthy venting and reinforcing a victim mindset. How to journal in a way that actually brings clarity, self-awareness, and growth (instead of just rehearsing your pain). The science of affect labeling and why naming your feelings reduces their intensity. How to shift your mindset so your healing practices truly work for you. Why the people who transform most after heartbreak aren't the ones doing the most, but the ones willing to change how they think. If you've been working hard to move on but still feel weighed down by the past, this episode will help you understand why—and how to finally shift things. Show Links: Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

5 Okt 13min

Why do we keep getting drawn to partners who can't give us what we need? In this episode, I explore the fascinating neurological and emotional reasons behind our attraction to emotionally unavailable people. You'll learn how the same attachment systems that formed in childhood with your caregivers continue to shape your adult romantic relationships—and why rejection or abandonment can feel so overwhelming. I also break down the role of bonding hormones like oxytocin, dopamine-driven reward circuits, and stress regulation systems in how we connect with others. We'll look at: How your early attachment patterns influence who you're attracted to. Why emotionally unavailable partners can feel so familiar and "comfortable." How unspoken childhood needs show up in adult relationships. The subtle ways we recreate childhood wounds in dating and partnerships. Practical steps to break the cycle, shift your perspective, and create healthier connections. Whether you're single or in a relationship, this episode will give you the tools to spot unhealthy patterns, communicate your needs more effectively, and begin building relationships where you feel seen, safe, and valued. 👉 Don't forget to hit follow or subscribe so you never miss an episode—and share this podcast with someone who needs to hear it. Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

28 Sep 13min

When a relationship ends, it's easy to get stuck in denial—replaying "what ifs," clinging to hope that your ex will come back, or creating a fantasy that things weren't as bad as they really were. But staying in this space only delays your healing. In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, I talk about the difference between denial and reality after a breakup, why false hope keeps you stuck, and how facing the truth (even when it hurts) sets you free. You'll learn: The common signs you're living in denial after a breakup How denial protects you emotionally—but also keeps you from moving on Practical steps to shift from fantasy into acceptance Why facing reality is the key to healing, growth, and creating space for the love you deserve If you've been holding onto an illusion or waiting for your ex to change, this episode will help you take that powerful step into freedom. Show Links: Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation Follow me on Instagram: @sylviasuwan

21 Sep 14min

Are you obsessing over getting your ex back, finding "the one," or stopping the pain after a breakup? In this episode, I reveal why our outcome-focused thinking is actually sabotaging our success in love - and what to do instead. What You'll Learn: Why focusing on outcomes keeps you stuck in breakups and dating The counter-intuitive truth about getting an ex back How to shift from desperate outcome-chasing to empowered process-building Why dating with a "find the one" mentality backfires My personal story: How my husband and I broke up, grew apart, and came back together as different people Practical steps to become process-focused instead of outcome-obsessed Key Takeaways: The Breakup Paradox: The way to get your ex back is to become someone who doesn't need them back. When you focus on healing and growth instead of reunion, you either attract them back as a choice (not a need) or you become ready for someone better. The Dating Trap: When you're so focused on finding "the one," you miss valuable practice in connection, conversation, and authenticity that actually makes you more attractive to the right person. The Process Promise: Focus on who you're becoming today, and the outcomes you want become inevitable tomorrow. In This Episode I Share: How my 4-month relationship ended with no intention of reconciliation Why breaking up was the best thing for our eventual marriage The growth that happened when we stopped trying to make it work How we came back together as completely different people Why I couldn't have shown up properly without that time apart Action Steps: Identify where you're being too outcome-focused Define what the actual process looks like for your goals Set one process goal for this week Practice celebrating process wins, not just outcomes Build trust in the journey, even when you can't see the destination Perfect For You If: You're struggling to get over an ex You keep hoping they'll come back You're frustrated with dating and haven't found "the one" You feel stuck in patterns that aren't working You want to build genuine confidence in relationships You're ready to stop chasing and start becoming Connect With Me: Instagram: @sylviasuwan Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation Love this episode? Leave a 5-star review and share it with someone who needs to hear this message!

14 Sep 21min