The Power of Presence in the First 3 Years: Motherhood and Attachment with Erica Komisar
Dam Parenting4 Juni 2025

The Power of Presence in the First 3 Years: Motherhood and Attachment with Erica Komisar

Listener Note: This episode discusses parenting perspectives that some may find traditional or may trigger feelings of mum guilt. Please listen with care and take what serves you — it’s okay to skip or pause if needed.

In this episode, we delve into the insights of Erica Komisar, a licensed clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and author renowned for her work on the emotional needs of children and the pivotal role of parental presence. With over 30 years of experience in private practice, Erica has become a leading voice in discussions about attachment theory and child development.

Erica's perspective emphasises the critical importance of a mother's physical and emotional presence during the first three years of a child's life—a period she identifies as foundational for healthy emotional development. Her book, Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, explores this concept in depth, offering guidance for parents navigating the complexities of early childhood care.

This episode is dedicated to mothers who may feel overwhelmed, questioning, or in need of affirmation. It's a reminder that seeking support and understanding is a strength, and that every parent's journey is valid and deserving of respect.


What You'll Learn:

  • The foundational principles of attachment theory and its relevance to early childhood development.

  • Insights from Erica's research on the impact of maternal presence in the first three years.

  • Discussion on the societal pressures faced by modern mothers and how to navigate them.

  • Strategies for building a supportive community and finding balance in parenting roles.


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