66: Friday Free Talk: How the Seasons Impact Human Behavior and Birth

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with Dr. Joel Gator Warsh, a pediatrician known for his refreshingly transparent and evidence-based approach to children’s health. Together, they unpack one of the most emotionally charged topics in parenting—vaccines. HeHe and Dr. Gator talk openly about the gaps in vaccine research, the importance of truly informed consent, and what every parent deserves to understand before making decisions for their family. They explore everything from the new RSV vaccine and aluminum adjuvants to SIDS and medical ethics—all through the lens of curiosity, compassion, and critical thinking. This isn’t about fear or finger-pointing—it’s about facts, trust, and empowering you to make confident, informed choices for your baby. 00:00 Introduction to Vaccine Debate 01:16 The Birth Lounge Podcast Introduction 01:23 Debunking the 'Big Baby' Myth 03:32 Introducing the 'Pushing Out Your Big Ass Baby' Course 05:29 Vaccine Exploration Series Recap 05:50 In-Depth Vaccine Discussion with Dr. Joel Gator 07:46 Challenges in Vaccine Research and Public Trust 12:21 Ethics and Future of Vaccine Studies 45:42 Pushback Against Vaccines 46:18 The Need for Open Dialogue 47:30 Personal Experiences and Public Trust 50:16 Ethical Dilemmas in Pediatric Care 57:33 Herd Immunity and Vaccine Efficacy 01:06:13 The Quest for Clean Deodorant 01:13:14 Complexities of Vaccine Safety 01:19:35 Chronic Disease and Medical Humility 01:29:00 Questioning Vaccine Safety Standards 01:30:28 The Controversy of Vaccine Skepticism 01:33:09 The Need for Vaccinated vs. Unvaccinated Studies 01:39:31 SIDS and Vaccines: A Complex Relationship 01:46:07 Aluminum in Vaccines: Concerns and Debates 01:53:16 The New RSV Vaccine: What You Need to Know 02:01:03 Final Thoughts and Gratitude   Guest Bio: Joel Warsh aka DrJoelGator of the popular parenting Instagram account and substack is a Board-Certified Pediatrician in Los Angeles, California who specializes in Parenting, Wellness and Integrative Medicine.  He is the author of multiple books including his latest, Between a Shot and a Hard Place: Tackling Difficult Vaccine Questions with Balance, Data, and Clarity,  He grew up in Toronto, Canada and completed a Master’s Degree in Epidemiology before earning his medical degree from Thomas Jefferson Medical College. He completed his Pediatric Medicine training at Children’s Hospital of Los Angeles and then worked in private practice in Beverly Hills before founding his current practice, Integrative Pediatrics. Dr. Gator has published research in peer-reviewed journals on topics including childhood injuries, obesity and physical activity. He has been featured in numerous documentaries, films, summits, podcasts and articles. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Dr. Gator on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone! ✨ Pre-sale ends today for Birthing Your Big Ass Baby! Get evidence-based guidance to birth your baby—no matter their size—with total confidence: 👉 https://www.thebirthlounge.com/bigbaby LINKS / RESOURCES MENTIONED: www.theshotbook.com Listen to our vaccine series here   An inconvenient Study documentary

31 Okt 2h 6min

It’s the final week to grab Birthing Your Big Ass Baby at pre-sale pricing! Don’t miss your chance to ditch the fear, shut down the “too big” myths, and learn exactly how to birth your baby (no matter their size) with total confidence — all for the lowest price it’ll ever be. In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe is tackling one of the most common (and misunderstood) fears in birth: having a “big baby.” From those intimidating late-pregnancy ultrasounds to the “your baby might be too big” comments, she’s breaking down what’s actually evidence-based and what’s just outdated scare tactics. Drawing from real DMs and community questions, HeHe pulls back the curtain on how baby size is estimated (spoiler: it’s often way off), what true macrosomia really means, and why the risks around shoulder dystocia are often exaggerated. She shares the birth positions, mindset shifts, and advocacy tools that help parents stay calm, confident, and in control, no matter what their provider says about baby’s size. You’ll also hear about her brand new course, Birthing Your Big Ass Baby, created to help you ditch the fear, trust your body, and birth your baby (no matter their size) with total confidence. Plus, HeHe chats about safe lubrication options from her friends at Coconu (get 30% off til 10/31 with code HEHE and 15% after that), the problem with hospital baby soaps (looking at you, Johnson & Johnson), and why upright labor + open-glottis pushing are total game changers for preventing trauma and protecting your pelvic floor. This episode is your permission slip to stop fearing a “big baby” and start trusting the truth: your body was built for this. 00:00 Introduction: Your Body is Not Broken 00:57 Introducing the Course: Birthing Your Big Ass Baby 01:39 Debunking Myths About Big Babies 02:53 Understanding Shoulder Dystocia 04:11 Course Details and Benefits 05:08 Key Insights on Big Babies 17:31 Pushing Techniques and Hospital Practices 30:19 Informed Consent and Advocacy 37:03 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with HeHe on YouTube BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone! Grab Birthing Your Big Ass Baby at pre-sale pricing! Don’t miss your chance to ditch the fear, shut down the “too big” myths, and learn exactly how to birth your baby (no matter their size) with total confidence — all for the lowest price it’ll ever be.

29 Okt 38min

What actually shapes the way we connect with our babies? Our biology or our environment? In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with neuroscientist Dr. Rocio Zunini to unpack the wildly fascinating science of parenthood and attachment styles. You’ll learn how your brain literally changes during pregnancy and parenting (yes, your brain rewires itself!), why nurturing is far more powerful than we ever realized, and how those early interactions shape lifelong emotional regulation and resilience. Dr. Zunini breaks down groundbreaking research on how nurturing behavior in animals translates to humans, from secure to anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles and what that means for how we show up as parents. They also dig into how mothers’ and fathers’ brains adapt differently, the critical role of “allo parents” (those loving caregivers beyond mom and dad), and how awareness and mindful connection can actually rewrite generational patterns. If you’ve ever wondered how to raise emotionally secure, confident kiddos or how your own upbringing plays a role in the parent you’re becoming, this one’s a must-listen. PSA for all my mamas worried about “big baby” talk: Our brand new course — Pushing Out Your Big A** Baby is officially live and in pre-sale until November 1! This class busts through every scare tactic, lays out the real evidence, and gives you the exact tools to advocate for yourself with confidence (no matter how big your baby is). Grab your spot at thebirthlounge.com/bigbaby 00:00 The Impact of Environment on Development 01:40 Introduction to The Birth Lounge Podcast 01:58 Understanding Big Baby Myths 04:51 The Science of Attachment Styles 09:31 Interview with Dr. Rocio Zunini 11:19 The Importance of Parent-Child Bonding 22:51 Emotional Regulation and Brain Development 26:02 Balancing Work and Parenting 26:21 Differences Between Moms and Dads 31:56 Navigating Childhood Wounds and Parenting 33:31 Clean Living with Just Ingredients 37:23 Understanding Wounds and Resilience 38:58 The Concept of Orchid Genes 40:42 Exploring Attachment Styles 43:19 Breaking the Cycle of Insecure Attachment 47:45 Nature vs. Nurture Debate 48:29 The Impact of Nurture on Stress Systems 54:38 Gender Differences in Nurturing 01:00:35 The Role of Allo Parents 01:03:18 Adoption and Attachment 01:05:03 Final Thoughts and Resources   Guest Bio: Rocio is a neuroscientist and mother of two. She is the founder of Newborn Parents, which was born out of the fusion of her two passions: the brain and the relationship between parents and their infants. She educates parents and professionals about parental brain science so that they can take advantage of the profound brain changes that accompany mastrescence and patrescence. She is also co-directs and co-faciliates the Nurture Neuroscience Professional Certification along her friend and colleague Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Dr. Zunini on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Check out my brand new course Birthing Your Big Ass Baby   Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS MENTIONED: Sign up for Dr. Rocio and Dr. Greer’s 5-day FREE Event: Nurture Neuroscience for Professionals https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/free-event-for-professionals www.newbornparents.net

24 Okt 1h 8min

In this episode, we’re diving deep into one of the most talked-about (and often misunderstood) topics in early parenthood SIDS and co-sleeping. Despite the scary warnings you’ve probably heard from the AAP or your pediatrician, many families still find themselves wondering how to safely sleep near their baby. And honestly? That’s a valid question. We’ll explore what the research actually says about bedsharing, the science of a baby’s biological need for closeness, and how parents can make informed choices that balance safety and connection. You’ll hear about the work of James McKenna, Helen Ball, and La Leche League’s Sweet Sleep, plus insights from Sarah Ockwell-Smith that bring real-world practicality to this nuanced conversation. If you’ve ever felt torn between expert advice and your natural instincts, this episode will help you find clarity, confidence, and calm in your family’s sleep choices. 00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Safe Sleep Practices 01:18 Personal Story: Transforming a Mother's Sleep Routine 03:28 Newborn Sleep Solutions Guide 07:22 The Science Behind Newborn Sleep 09:06 Interview with Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum 17:07 Understanding Co-Sleeping and Bed Sharing 22:32 Safe Sleep Guidelines and SIDS 28:39 Controversial Topics: Vaccines and SIDS 31:06 Global Perspectives on Safe Sleep 35:22 Purity Coffee: A Healthier Choice 38:43 Addressing Sleep Challenges in Babies 42:16 Embracing Flexibility with a Newborn 44:04 The Importance of Nervous System Regulation 46:11 Building a Support System for New Moms 52:28 Debunking Myths About Newborn Habits 56:47 The Impact of Sleep Training on Mental Health 01:06:43 Tips for Optimal Baby Sleep 01:13:17 Final Thoughts and Resources   Guest Bio: Greer Kirshenbaum PhD is an Author, Neuroscientist, Doula, Infant and Family Sleep Specialist and Mother. She trained at the University of Toronto and Columbia University with additional training at New York University and Yale University. Greer has combined her academic training with her experience as a doula and mother to lead The Nurture Revolution. A movement to nurture our babies’ brains to revolutionize mental health and impact larger systems in our world. Greer wants families, professionals, and workplaces to understand how early caregiving experience can boost mental wellness and diminish depression, anxiety, and addiction in adulthood by shaping babies’ brains through simple intuitive enriching experiences in pregnancy, birth and infancy. Her book is called The Nurture Revolution: Grow Your Baby’s Brain and Transform Their Mental Health Through the Art of Nurtured Parenting. She offers resources, workshops, and coaching on her website www.nurture-neuroscience.com and on Instagram @drgreerkirshenbaum. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Dr. Greer on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS MENTIONED: www.nurture-neuroscience.com   Reviews of the research on SIDS and infant death James McKenna: https://cosleeping.nd.edu/ Helen Ball: https://evolutionaryparenting.com/bed-sharing-and-co-sleeping-research-overview/ La Leche League's Sweet Sleep book: https://llli.org/resources/sweet-sleep/ Sarah Ockwell-Smith: https://sarahockwell-smith.com/

22 Okt 1h 17min

This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth, our go-to for buttery-soft, temperature-regulating bamboo sheets and loungewear that actually lasts. Cozy Earth products are made from responsibly sourced materials that keep you cool, cozy, and comfortable through pregnancy, postpartum, and all the snuggly moments in between. Use code HEHE for an exclusive discount at cozyearth.com and treat yourself to the comfort you deserve. In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe dives into one of the most overlooked parts of preparing for parenthood, financial stability. While the world loves to scare you about “big babies” and sell you all the baby gear under the sun, HeHe and her guest, Dan Brigham (aka Budgeters Anonymous), are here to help you focus on what actually matters: building a strong financial foundation for your growing family. Together, they unpack the sneaky expenses new parents often overlook, smart budgeting strategies that actually work, and how intentional planning can bring more peace and less panic to your postpartum season. Dan shares his journey of overcoming debt, creating financial freedom, and shifting the mindset from “surviving” to thriving. They also get real about emergency funds, 529 plans, IRAs for kids, and how to get on the same financial page with your partner. This is the money talk every parent needs: judgment-free, empowering, and designed to help you build the future your family deserves. PSA for all my mamas worried about “big baby” talk: Our brand new course — Pushing Out Your Big A** Baby is officially live and in pre-sale until November 1! This class busts through every scare tactic, lays out the real evidence, and gives you the exact tools to advocate for yourself with confidence (no matter how big your baby is). Grab your spot at thebirthlounge.com/bigbaby 00:00 Introduction: Financial Stability for New Parents 00:49 The Myth of the Big Baby 01:31 Understanding Macrosomia and Birth Advocacy 03:05 Introducing the New Course: Pushing Out Your Big Ass Baby 03:27 Pre-Sale Announcement and Course Details 05:01 Budgeting for a Baby: An Essential Guide 05:45 Meet Dan Brigham: Budgeting Expert 08:25 Defining Financial Responsibility 12:22 Good Debt vs. Bad Debt 15:52 Intentional Spending and Budgeting Frameworks 23:34 Making a Baby Budget: Practical Tips 32:33 The Reality of Social Media and Financial Comparisons 35:31 No Spend Weekends: Finding Purpose Beyond Money 38:10 Nesting Instincts and Cozy Earth 41:06 Budgeting for a Baby 44:03 Emergency Funds and Financial Priorities 47:15 Setting Up Financial Accounts for Your Child 51:45 Tracking Expenses and Budgeting Tools 58:59 Mindsets for Financial Success 01:06:57 Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways   Guest Bio: Dan is the founder of Budgeters Anonymous and has free resources on his website. Dan’s focus is Faith, Fitness, Family and Finance.  INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Dan on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS MENTIONED: Find Dan here: budgetersanonymous.com

17 Okt 1h 11min

In this powerful episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with infectious disease scientist, Ellie to pull back the curtain on what’s really behind vaccines, immunity, and medical ethics. After years working in big pharma, Ellie began questioning what she saw from the inside, and now she’s here to help parents unpack the complex, often confusing world of vaccine science through an evidence-based, transparent lens. Together, HeHe and Ellie dive into everything from the ingredients found in common vaccines (and why they’re there!) to the differences between live and attenuated viruses. They also explore the ethics of vaccine research, including the use of fetal cell lines, vaccinated vs. unvaccinated clinical trials, and how informed consent fits into modern medicine. This conversation isn’t about fear, it’s about facts. It’s about asking better questions, understanding your options, and feeling confident in the choices you make for your family’s health. Ellie brings scientific clarity, a refreshing dose of honesty, and a deep respect for parental autonomy to this nuanced conversation. If you’ve ever wanted a clearer understanding of vaccines and the ethics behind them, this episode is a must-listen. 03:27 Announcing the New Course: Pushing Out Your Big Ass Baby 05:34 Vaccine Exploration Series Finale 06:19 Ingredients in Vaccines: What You Need to Know 07:35 Interview with Infectious Disease Scientist Ellie 12:11 Ellie's Journey from Big Pharma to Vaccine Skepticism 40:44 Ethical and Scientific Concerns in Vaccine Development 01:02:33 Pharmaceutical Interactions and Clinical Trials 01:04:28 Autonomy and Vaccine Mandates 01:05:17 Herd Immunity and Vaccine Efficacy 01:06:38 Transparency and Trust in Healthcare 01:15:49 Ethics of Vaccine Studies 01:19:12 Challenges in Scientific Research 01:23:55 Vaccine Ingredients and Allergies 01:26:42 Live vs. Attenuated Vaccines 01:29:49 Shingles and Vaccine History 01:33:43 Scientific Communication and Public Trust 01:43:08 Final Thoughts and Resources   Guest Bio: Ellie is an infectious disease scientist with a powerful personal story and a passion for making science accessible. With a B.S. in Cellular and Molecular Biology and an M.S. in Infectious Diseases and Microbiology, Ellie has spent years on the front lines of science—from developing vaccines for potential bioweapons during her graduate research to working in assay development and infectious disease research within the pharmaceutical industry. Four years ago, she made the bold decision to step away from pharma and pursue a path that blends science, personal experience, and public education. Ellie was born with a left radial clubbed hand, congenital heart issues, and other challenges caused by a pharmaceutical product—an experience that has shaped her unique perspective on medicine. After undergoing countless surgeries, she deeply understands the life-saving value of western medicine, while also recognizing that alternatives can have a place in care. Ellie now dedicates herself to helping people understand complex scientific topics so they can make empowered, informed health decisions. She believes that her journey—both scientific and deeply personal—is no accident. Through all the challenges she has faced, she’s seen the hand of Jesus guiding her path and believes God has kept her alive for a greater purpose.  INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Ellie on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   RESOURCES MENTIONED: https://cogforlife.org/  https://www.cellosaurus.org/  You can search a variety of ways in the site, but one is 'browse by group' and click 'Vaccine production cell lines'

15 Okt 1h 55min

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, we’re diving into one of the most important (and often misunderstood!) newborn topics: Vitamin K. HeHe is joined by Katie Collins, a board-certified physician assistant, to unpack everything you need to know about Vitamin K supplementation: what it is, why it matters, and how to make an informed choice that feels right for your family. Together, they break down the different options for Vitamin K (injection vs. oral dosing), the real risks of vitamin K deficiency bleeding (VKDB), and how birth interventions like antibiotics or Pitocin can play a role. You’ll also hear about common misconceptions around the Vitamin K shot, what that black box warning actually means, and the truth about side effects like jaundice and ingredients such as aluminum. If you want evidence-based clarity so you can feel confident about protecting your baby’s health from day one, this episode is a must-listen. 00:00 Introduction and Parental Freedom 01:31 Welcome to The Birth Lounge Podcast 02:31 The Big Baby Myth 06:37 Vitamin K Injection: Common Questions and Concerns 07:32 Meet Katie Collins: A Holistic Approach to Medical Topics 11:47 Understanding Vitamin K in Newborns 19:38 The Role of Breast Milk and Feeding in Vitamin K Levels 23:48 Impact of Birth Interventions on Vitamin K 31:06 Delayed Cord Clamping and Its Benefits 39:51 Options for Vitamin K Supplementation 41:11 Oral Dosing Regimens for Vitamin K 44:34 Risks of Declining Vitamin K Supplementation 52:43 Vitamin K and Circumcision 54:22 Vitamin K Injection and Bilirubin Concerns 57:57 Black Box Warning on Vitamin K Injection 01:02:43 Aluminum in Injectables: Safety Concerns 01:19:39 Detoxing After Vaccination 01:22:12 Final Thoughts and Resources   Guest Bio: Katie Collins, known as Katie the PA on social media, is a board certified Physician Assistant who merges conventional medical training with a holistic mindset, challenging the mainstream narrative surrounding controversial topics like childhood vaccines, pregnancy and birth, and other top chronic health illnesses. With a robust background in family medicine, urgent care, and weight loss medicine, her main focus is to support the body's innate healing process with diet and lifestyle changes, or typical medical interventions. Today, her primary occupation and top priority is being a wife and mother to her two children. She has transitioned from working full time in the clinic to taking telehealth consults, and creates educational content on her social media platforms. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Katie on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   Preorder available now for Birthing Your Big A** Baby

10 Okt 1h 26min

In this episode of The Birth Lounge podcast, HeHe sits down with Dr. Alok Patel, a board-certified pediatrician and national medical contributor for ABC News, to have the real talk about vaccines—no fear, no judgment, just facts and empowerment. Together, they unpack the difference between vaccine hesitancy and being anti-vaccine, why open conversations matter, and how parents can confidently navigate their child’s health choices. Dr. Patel breaks down what you actually need to know about vaccine schedules, ingredients like aluminum and thimerosal, and the incredible public health wins that vaccines have created. They also dive into hot topics like the RSV vaccine, the “tripledemic,” and how misinformation spreads faster than the truth (and what you can do about it). Plus, HeHe unveils her brand new course—Pushing Out Your Big Ass Baby—to help you shut down “big baby” scare tactics and advocate like the badass parent you are. This episode is packed with clarity, confidence, and evidence-based insight so you can make informed choices for your family—without the fear. 00:00 Introduction and Vaccine Hesitancy 01:00 The Myth of the 'Big Baby' 03:15 Introducing the New Course: Pushing Out Your Big Ass Baby 05:21 Vaccination Conversations: Should I or Shouldn't I? 06:57 Meet Dr. Alok Patel: Pediatrician and Media Contributor 11:26 The Science Behind Vaccination Schedules 16:36 COVID-19 Vaccine Controversies and Communication Issues 26:41 Global Vaccination Comparisons and Herd Immunity 43:39 Natural Immunity vs. Vaccination 46:45 The Impact of RSV on Children 49:20 The Triple Demic: Flu, RSV, and COVID 50:52 Healthcare System Strain During the Pandemic 51:49 Personal Trauma from COVID-19 57:17 The Importance of Accessible Healthcare Information 01:00:54 Ethical Considerations in Vaccine Studies 01:17:41 Addressing Vaccine Ingredients Concerns 01:23:24 Final Thoughts and Resources   Guest Bio: Dr. Patel is a board-certified pediatrician on faculty at Stanford Children's Health where he works as a pediatric hospitalist, taking care of everything from premature babies to adults and running into all sorts of medical conditions from the routine to bizarre to outright rare. He also serves as the department head of strategic communication. His passion outside the hospital is in journalism, on-air broadcast work, and consulting in both digital health and communications roles. He is a national medical contributor for ABC News, with a health show called "Patel It Like It Is". He's also worked throughout the media industry for CNN, PBS, NBC, and other outlets.    His ethos in medicine is meeting patients where they are and reminding everyone that at the end of the day, we're just humans talking to humans. Keep it laid back. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Dr. Patel on IG  BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   Worried about a “big baby”? Pushing Out Your Big A** Baby busts the myths, shares the evidence, and gives you the advocacy tools you need for an empowered birth, no matter your baby’s size. Pre-sale now open: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/bigbaby   LINKS MENTIONED: www.alokpatelmd.com

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