From Threesomes to Non-Monogamy: One Man's Journey Beyond Jealousy and Shame

Ep 191: Doggy Shower Sex erotic story number 13 of the Sexual Bucket List series. This is a series where I do erotic improv where I spin an erotic tale right off the top of my head live as I record the episode. The erotic story is told in a combination of first person and second person, so it's "you" and "I" points of view. This is an early morning doggy shower sex date and it's wet, hot, and explosively satisfying! Have you listened to the rest of my Sexual Bucket List series? If you haven't caught it yet, check out my public playlists on Spotify and search for the Sexual Bucket List playlist. Here's the link: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1hzeldaHzbdsSsd22HF5eL?si=xOKVMM8uRguawUMJnaX8Bg One of my favorite sex toys, the one I mention in this episode is Zumio, whom I'm an affiliate for. September is sexual health month so buy one get one free. Find out why this is one of my top toys by getting more info on this sex toy here: https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1815950&u=3101443&m=98393&urllink=&afftrack= My pick for cleanliness for being intimate with wipes, click through the affiliate link and search for Before and After Wipes from Promescent: https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1516999&u=3101443&m=93613&urllink=&afftrack= My new anthology novel Decadent Erotica with 10 plus erotica stories in it: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b82020d795f Find all my links to my erotica/erotic romance books and audiobooks and my social media links here: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow My interview guest appearance on The Curious Girl Diaries Podcast with Layla London! Listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/erotic-stories/id1264706714?i=1000579772075 Visit my website to leave me a voicemail at https://ruanwillowauthor.com/ or visit this website to leave a voicemail for me and I'll answer you on the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/ohfckyeahwithruanwillow I hope you enjoyed this sexy little story and have a sexy day! Love ya! Ruan Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

16 Syys 202229min

Have Kinky Sex, Participate in BDSM or an Alternative Lifestyle? Know Your Rights & Support with NCSF Susan Wright. What is NCSF? It's the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. They are a nonprofit organization that focuses on advances of equal rights for consenting adults who engage in alternative sexual and relationship expression. Visit them online here: https://linktr.ee/ncsfreedom and directly to their website here: https://ncsfreedom.org/ I was fortunate to be able to chat directly with the executive director of NCSF Susan Wright in this interview. It was very enlightening and educational. She talked about how NCSF has been able to influence policy and laws, including getting laws rewritten, and they've been able to make needed changes to medical standards for assessing individuals more accurately and fairly (which is very important for sexual assault and such things as divorce and child custody hearings), and they've also influenced the media to not be discriminatory. They have power! And the great thing is they share that power with the people who need it. They can help you if you are being shamed or targeted in legal matters for your sexuality choices. You can literally contact them and they will help you. They even want people to notify them of injustices so they can go to work on rectifying the issues. They are a team of professional people who have resources to share to help you. Please don't hesitate to contact them. They also have a blog and information available about consent and other topics related to kink, BDSM, sexual orientation, alternative lifestyles, swingers, and ethical nonmonogamy. Check them out today! Be sure to listen to the podcast because the statistics she states may shock you. Thank you for being a guest on my podcast Susan! I hope you find helpful advice and self help for relationships, law,  sex, intimacy, and legal matters in this episode. Connect with the podcast host Ruan here: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Leave Ruan a voicemail for the podcast here: https://www.speakpipe.com/ohfckyeahwithruanwillow or on my website at https://ruanwillowauthor.com/ Ruan's new 10 story anthology is in presale mode (releasing 10/22/22) Decadent Erotica: An Anthology of Erotic Tales to Quench Desires Learn more at the link below:affiliate https://amzn.to/3RyOsCw Ruan's other new books! Skinny Dipping at the Pond on a Hot Summer Day (affiliate) https://amzn.to/3pKE7qB A couple meets up unexpectedly when both plan to skinny dip at a pond and naughtiness ensues. Podcast merchandise! Get shirts with Oh F*ck Yeah on them right here: https://www.bonfire.com/oh-fck-yeah/ The Licking Sip Coffee Shop, topless baristas who offer more than what's on the menu! This shop has got a tittie washer, gotta wash off the saliva and remnants of whipped cream! This is saucy dirty yummy tale! https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/1bc2ede8-10e2-11ed-bd31-d788e5ae6b49 Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

13 Syys 202251min

Ep 189: Date Night Sex at the Car Wash. This is a story I created right off the top of my head as I recorded this episode... basically erotic improv storytelling. I have so much fun! Okay... let's get to it! It's date night for Kate and Darren! They are 38 and 44. Kate has brown hair, sexy brown eyes, and lots of curves that Darren, with a sexy dad body, loves. They've been dating for a while and things are going well for them. They love to challenge each other to grow together in their sexuality. Kate is a bit more daring than Darren, but he's enjoying expanding his boundaries with her. Kate sends him a sext about their date for the evening. She texts this: Surprise me and come on to me in a place you are kind of scared to fool around in but yet intrigued. He agrees to come up with an idea. After much pondering, he comes up with surprising her with fooling around, and hopefully full sex, in a car wash. But he keeps it a secret from her so she's on pins and needles all day waiting. Oh, do they get it on in the car wash! Have a listen and enjoy! Try out one of Ruan's favorite sex toys the Zumio (affiliate)  https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1761808&u=3101443&m=98393&urllink=&afftrack= Connect with the podcast host Ruan here: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Leave Ruan a voicemail for the podcast here: https://www.speakpipe.com/ohfckyeahwithruanwillow or on my website at https://ruanwillowauthor.com/ Ruan's new 10 story anthology is in presale mode (releasing 10/22/22) Decadent Erotica: An Anthology of Erotic Tales to Quench Desires Learn more at the link below:affiliate https://amzn.to/3RyOsCw Ruan's other new books! Skinny Dipping at the Pond on a Hot Summer Day (affiliate) https://amzn.to/3pKE7qB A couple meets up unexpectedly when both plan to skinny dip at a pond and naughtiness ensues. Podcast merchandise! Get shirts with Oh F*ck Yeah on them right here: https://www.bonfire.com/oh-fck-yeah/ Get a copy of Ruan's Beach Getaway:You can find this book on sale at online sellers: https://books2read.com/u/m2eE6d And on Amazon  for any market in the world (affiliate): https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/c9fbb3e6-ddf1-11ec-b61c-5b8761feaf66 The Licking Sip Coffee Shop, topless baristas who offer more than what's on the menu! This shop has got a tittie washer, gotta wash off the saliva and remnants of whipped cream! This is saucy dirty yummy tale! https://storyoriginapp.com/un Podcast Merch! Wear Oh F*ck Yeah! Get Oh F*ck Yeah Podcast Merch T-shirts, tank tops, long sleeve shirts, mugs! Wear it sassy and hot! Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

9 Syys 202229min

Ep 188: "It hurts when having sex." Do you find yourself saying that sentence? Sex should be fun and satisfying. It should feel good. But for some women, penetrative sex is painful. Yikes! Something that is supposed to be enjoyable and give people feel-good hormones is suddenly dead in the water when unwanted pain chokes off the fun. I'm so happy to be sharing that there is a solution to help eliminate the pain! I'm excited to share this tool so that people can quit being plagued by painful sex. Curious? Here's my affiliate link to it: https://tinyurl.com/3ccdnacy Sex Should be Enjoyable, Not Painful. There are other ways to enjoy sex and physical closeness with a partner other than vaginal penetration, such as oral sex, nipple play, cuddling and caressing each other, stimulating the clitoris and or penis, or anal sex. But if penetrative sex is something both partners desire to include in their sexual intimacy but it hurts, then intimacy can't be at its best. I'm an affiliate for a sex toy company called MysteryVibe. I recently received an announcement from them that one of their products reduces pain from penetrative sex for those suffering from such pain. I was very excited to hear this news. Immediately, I wanted to spread this information around because I'm passionate about helping people have better sex, both solo and with a partner(s), improve their sex lives, and experience increased libido so they can enjoy their bodies and their interpersonal relationships. That's a lot of words for … I just want people to enjoy sex! Ha! Well, it's true, I do. Being limited by the fear of pain due to penetration during sex is a sad state to be in. This pain closes off a whole area of the body that can bring pleasure, namely the G-spot/internal clitoris. So, when something gets invented to help alleviate that pain, I have a giant urge to shout it from the rooftops. Woohoo! Let's go! What Can a Woman Do When It Hurts When Having Sex? If this is you, what are the options? Listen and find out in this episode. Curious about this? You can also find out more in the article I wrote about this on my website at https://ruanwillowauthor.com/if-it-hurts-when-having-sex-try-a-doctor-endorsed-vibrator-to-help/ The sex toy/tool is Crescendo, and it has resulted in a 480% improvement in pain scores for those suffering from painful sex. WOW! Now that's some seriously positive results! The disorder that was studied is called Genito-Pelvic Pain & Penetration Disorder (GPPPD). They report "1 in 10 women suffer from GPPPD, a condition known to cause painful sex and difficulty with vaginal penetration. There are currently limited treatment options available for GPPPD, therefore, this news is unprecedented and potentially Quality-of-Life changing." Affiliate link to Crescendo for women: https://tinyurl.com/3ccdnacy For men: https://tinyurl.com/2p84prss Ruan interviews the CEO of MysteryVibe: https://ohfckyeahwithruanwillow.buzzsprout.com/1599808/10080476-ep-121-how-technology-improves-sex-an-interview-the-ceo-of-mystery-vibe Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

8 Syys 202215min

Ep 187: Two Female Podcasters Talk About Sex, Layla London of The Curious Girl Diaries & Ruan Willow. Layla went through a dry spell for sex for years and woke up one day with the intention to explore her sexuality and not lie dormant any longer. She made a sex bucket list and began podcasting about her personal sexual journey. Layla is open about sexuality as I am so our chat went all over the topics of sexuality including women's sexuality, sex exploration, sex toys, the value of changing sexual positions with a partner and in solo play, and the different types of orgasms we've both experienced. Layla gives insight into sexual relations and masturbation in how to get out of your sexual rut and stave off the boringness of sex. She shares personal info about her sex life and what she thinks is the best lesson she's learned. She also shares about her tradition of doing March Masturbation Madness Month and how that is so valuable to her. And yep, it's all on her podcast! She also talks about why women should give certain sexual ponderings/doings at least a month of dedication. She says we can reset our brains to become more orgasmic, and she discusses how we as women can do this. She stresses the importance for women to make their sexuality a priority and gives us tips on how to keep our libido up. We chatted about our friends at The T&A Podcast and Full Swap Radio. We also talk about podcasting in the sexuality genre, the challenges, and ideas for success.  It was an epic chat and soon I will be on her show as a guest! Connect with Layla London here: https://www.thecuriousgirldiaries.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_curiousgirldiaries/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheCuriousGirlLayla Twitter: http://twitter.com/thecurious_girl The book Ruan and Layla talked about Pussy: A Reclamation (affiliate): https://amzn.to/3AVLOzu Thank you Layla for coming on my podcast! Check out my friends Jason and Sam at The T&A Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-28-sexual-fantasies-kinks-strange-sex-locations/id1576169889?i=1000578208399 To connect with the podcast host Ruan Willow: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow   Ruan's new books! Skinny Dipping at the Pond on a Hot Summer Day (affiliate) https://amzn.to/3pKE7qB Being at the right place at the right time sparks two naked young lovers to take a chance. Podcast merchandise! Get shirts with Oh F*ck Yeah on them right here: https://www.bonfire.com/oh-fck-yeah/ The Licking Sip Coffee Shop, topless baristas who offer more than what's on the menu! This is saucy dirty yummy tale! https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/1bc2ede8-10e2-11ed-bd31-d788e5ae6b49 Never Say, Never Swing, a story of friends hooking up for a f Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

6 Syys 20221h 25min

Ep 186: Dom sub Discussion with Fat Chicks On Top Podcaster, author, performer, and kinkster Auntie Vice. Her work focuses on kink, BDSM, and gender. We really had quite the epic & amazing conversation. We chatted about Dom/sub topics including what Dom's hate most, who benefits from a Dom/sub relationship, kink and D/s, sub space and top or Dom space, consent, and how the BDSM/Dom/sub communities do consent the best and should be models for lawmakers. With a background in law, she shares fabulous, and shocking, insight into laws surrounding sexuality and consent. She even shares action tips for us all to take to protect ourselves and have our voices heard. This information can be found on her website. Check out her linktree for access to all her links/books/classes https://linktr.ee/AuntieVice and her website https://www.auntievice.com/ Auntie Vice is an author, instructor, performer, and podcaster. Her extensive knowledge and experiences in all things dominant and submissive are helpful, insightful, and expansive. She has several books and courses available about the Dom/sub dynamic. Here's one called the Big Workbook for Submissives which is a Golden Flogger Finalist at (affiliate links) https://amzn.to/3qlE9G5 We discussed how she loves to create a space for expression and discussion for those marginalized from the current sex-positive movement such as big/fat folks, those of color, disabled people, queer folks, sex workers, and nongender conforming people. Check out her podcast for more on these topics https://www.auntievice.com/podcast Auntie Vice's other books: Dating Kinky: How to find the kinky love of your fantasies. (Dating Kinky Presents Book 1) in ebook https://amzn.to/3cy2qp7 and in audiobook https://amzn.to/3pZ8k5E Love Letters to a Unicorn https://amzn.to/3AIk8hq 30 Days of Kinky Self-Discovery https://amzn.to/3TyQW5f To connect with the podcast host Ruan Willow: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow   Ruan's new books! Skinny Dipping at the Pond on a Hot Summer Day (affiliate) https://amzn.to/3pKE7qB Being at the right place at the right time sparks two naked young lovers to take a chance. Podcast merchandise! Get shirts with Oh F*ck Yeah on them right here: https://www.bonfire.com/oh-fck-yeah/ She Dominated Him Out of a Speeding Ticket, a dominant female story:https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/da4dc90e-1416-11ed-9694-9fc04fcc4d83 The Licking Sip Coffee Shop, topless baristas who offer more than what's on the menu! This shop has got a tittie washer, gotta wash off the saliva and remnants of whipped cream! This is saucy dirty yummy tale! https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/1bc2ede8-10e2-11ed-bd31-d788e5ae6b49 Never Say, Never Swing, a story of fri Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

2 Syys 20221h 30min

Ep 185: A Sexy Pick You Up Episode. Need a sexy pick me up... well... actually pick you up? Need some sexual thoughts to rev up your day? To relax with? To get your erotic motors juiced up and ready? I've got some quick little erotic fiction snippets, some little sexy scenes, to give you some flash fiction erotica to brighten heighten and set your day on fire! Oh f*ck yeah, let's go! Check out this awesome podcast all about the 1990's: Dope Nostalgia https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dope-nostalgia/id1498171040 Connect with the podcast host Ruan here: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Ruan's new books! Skinny Dipping at the Pond on a Hot Summer Day (affiliate) https://amzn.to/3pKE7qB Book Blurb: They might as well have woken up and said, 'It's in our stars today.' Star Monet is a sumptuous woman and she has needs, sexual needs. She strips with the intent to pleasure herself right on the pond's shore, after all, she's alone right? Phineas Larson, a farmer and assistant manager on a nearby farm owned by his dad, can't believe his luck when he sneaks up and catches a goddess satisfying herself. A swim is what they both need and want, but seeing each other naked is no way to start a romance. That's backward. Podcast merchandise! Get shirts with Oh F*ck Yeah on them right here: https://www.bonfire.com/oh-fck-yeah/ Get a copy of Ruan's Beach Getaway:You can find this book on sale at online sellers: https://books2read.com/u/m2eE6d And on Amazon  for any market in the world (affiliate): https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/c9fbb3e6-ddf1-11ec-b61c-5b8761feaf66 She Dominated Him Out of a Speeding Ticket, a dominant female story:https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/da4dc90e-1416-11ed-9694-9fc04fcc4d83 The Licking Sip Coffee Shop, topless baristas who offer more than what's on the menu! This shop has got a tittie washer, gotta wash off the saliva and remnants of whipped cream! This is saucy dirty yummy tale! https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/1bc2ede8-10e2-11ed-bd31-d788e5ae6b49 Never Say, Never Swing, a story of friends hooking up for a first-time swinging story where long-time fantasies get fulfilled! https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/8771f0ec-ffa9-11ec-950a-8f0d44267c5d Connect with Ruan across the internet: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Podcast Merch for Oh F*ck Yeah at: https://www.bonfire.com/oh-fck-yeah/ Recommended Toy Hero Sex Toys: https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=2132555&u=3101443&m=130088&urllink=&afftrack= Have a Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

30 Elo 202222min

Ep  184: Men's Pleasure & Sexuality with Sex Coach, podcaster, and Australia's leading men's sex coach Cam Fraser. In this episode, we get all the experience, knowledge, and wisdom on sexuality and relationships from the amazing sex coach Cam Fraser. He's out of Australia so he has that awesome kickass accent! I loved our chat. I learned a lot from Cam. We chatted about how curiosity should be our approach to our sexuality as well as open-mindedness, rather than being judgmental and assumptive. Many of our assumptions about sex that we have learned are incorrect and can limit us significantly. We talked about a sexual myth about men's sexuality, and this blew me away! I had no idea! We also chatted about masturbation, performative sex versus pleasure-based, tips on how to give a good blow job, and how best to talk about fantasies with our partners.  Did you know the optimal way to masturbate? Well, Cam shares all in this episode! We also talked about sex toys for men, how to increase testosterone naturally, sex and pleasure, and how the media shapes and limits our view of sex, sexuality, and relationships. We shouldn't give it so much power! We also chatted about ethical porn sites...whoop whoop we did it up! Have a listen and stock up your sexual knowledge so you can have better sex, both solo and with a partner(s). You can do it! You deserve it! Let's go! Connect with Cam Fraser here: https://linktr.ee/camfraser400?utm_source=linktree_profile_share Find him on social media as thecamfraser His podcast is called Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser. Ruan's new books! Skinny Dipping at the Pond on a Hot Summer Day (affiliate links) https://amzn.to/3pKE7qB They might as well have woken up and said, 'It's in our stars today.' She Dominated Him Out of a Speeding Ticket, a dominant female story:https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/da4dc90e-1416-11ed-9694-9fc04fcc4d83 The Licking Sip Coffee Shop, topless baristas who offer more than what's on the menu! This shop has got a tittie washer, gotta wash off the saliva and remnants of whipped cream! This is saucy dirty yummy tale! https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/1bc2ede8-10e2-11ed-bd31-d788e5ae6b49 Never Say, Never Swing, a story of friends hooking up for a first-time swinging story where long-time fantasies get fulfilled! https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/8771f0ec-ffa9-11ec-950a-8f0d44267c5d Connect with Ruan across the internet: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Podcast Merch for Oh F*ck Yeah at: https://www.bonfire.com/oh-fck-yeah/ Recommended Toy Hero Sex Toys: https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=2132555&u=3101443&m=130088&urllink=&afftrack= Have a sexy day! Love ya!  Ruan Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

26 Elo 20221h 35min