EP274 - How to Peg Your Partner Like a Pro with Luna Matatas

Welcome to episode 248 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Heather Bartos to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss orgasms and our relationship with them, off-shoot health benefits of orgasms and tips for women who have never experienced an orgasm.    Dr. Heather Bartos is a board-certified OB-GYN, author, speaker, mom and everyday gal, Dr. Heather Bartos is a leading voice in the field of women’s health, and particularly women’s sexual health. She is also a US Navy Veteran, former Associate Professor of Obstetrics & Gynecology and is currently medical director of her “village for women’s health,” Be.     Women’s Health & Wellness outside Dallas, Texas.  Featured in publications from Glamour and Huffington Post to Reader’s Digest, Women’s Health and ABC News, Dr. Bartos loves talking all things women and sex on her podcast, The ME Spot.     In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at orgasms and our relationship with them   How many people skip through foreplay when trying to achieve an orgasm   The importance of allowing your body the time to loosen up for an orgasm   What happens in our brains when we experience an orgasm?  Looking at the other off-shoot health benefits of orgasms  The changes female bodies experience when going through menopause   How your diet is important to experiencing great orgasms   Looking at PRP treatments   Tips for women who have never experienced an orgasm   How our biggest sex organ is our brain    Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Use the link below to get 10% of your first month of online therapy with BetterHelp:  https://www.betterhlep.com/sexologypodcast       Free Masterclass: Live Masterclass for Couples in Long-Term Relationships Tired of Leftover Sex? The Roadmap to Reviving Your Sex Life with Your Partner  In this Masterclass, we will: 1. Identify the main causes of sexual dissatisfaction in your relationship: Together we will assess and discuss common causes of sexual dissatisfaction and how you can uncover the root causes for each. 2. Incorporate specific strategies and tackle the root causes: We will introduce the most effective ways of improving your connection with your partner. 3. Bring excitement back to your relationship with the help of tangible tools: We will talk about the latest research on sexual boredom and how to bring thrill and excitement back into your relationship. https://sexologypodcast.com/masterclass     Find Dr. Heather Bartos Online  http://themespotpodcast.com     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

21 Syys 202130min

Welcome to episode 247 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Marci Liroff (she/her) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Marci transitioned from casting director and acting coach to intimacy coordinator, why intimacy coordinators are not the “sex police” and the ways she helps the film crew coordinate sex scenes.    A veteran Casting Director, Marci (she/her) has been casting film and television for the last 40 years. Her extensive credits span more than 50 films. While working at the renowned office of Fenton-Feinberg Casting she, along with Mike Fenton, cast such films as Bob Clark’s A Christmas Story and Porky’s; the Academy Award-nominated Poltergeist; Steven Spielberg’s E.T.– The Extra Terrestrial and Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom; and Ridley Scott’s Blade Runner.     After establishing her own casting company in 1983, MARCI LIROFF CASTING, Marci cast many successful films including Footloose, St. Elmo’s Fire, Pretty in Pink, The Iron Giant, The Spitfire Grill (which she produced as well), Untamed Heart, Freaky Friday, Mean Girls, Insomnia, Ghosts of Girlfriends Past, Mr. Popper’s Penguins, and Vampire Academy. For the last 10 years, Marci has been coaching and teaching actors to prepare for upcoming auditions and jobs.     Her years of work in film and television production, along with her communication skills and keen eye, make Marci a perfect fit in the world of intimacy coordination. She recently intimacy coordinated the feature film The Virgin of Highland Park and served as the IC for the second season of the Starz show Hightown.       In this episode, you will hear:     How Marci transitioned from casting director and acting coach to intimacy coordinator   Why intimacy coordinators are not the “sex police”   The ways Marci helps the film crew to coordinate sex scenes   Looking at the relationship between intimacy coordinators and directors   Issues that can arise on set and how Marci deals with them   Analyzing the importance of consent   How consent is being incorporated into specifics in contracts around sex scenes   The importance of reading your contract as an actor  Navigating intimate scenes where minors are involved, E.G Stranger Things   The toughest scenes that Marci has coordinated         Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Use the link below to get 10% of your first month of online therapy with BetterHelp:  https://www.betterhlep.com/sexologypodcast   Free Masterclass: Live Masterclass for Couples in Long-Term Relationships Tired of Leftover Sex? The Roadmap to Reviving Your Sex Life with Your Partner  In this Masterclass, we will: 1. Identify the main causes of sexual dissatisfaction in your relationship: Together we will assess and discuss common causes of sexual dissatisfaction and how you can uncover the root causes for each. 2. Incorporate specific strategies and tackle the root causes: We will introduce the most effective ways of improving your connection with your partner.   3. Bring excitement back to your relationship with the help of tangible tools: We will talk about the latest research on sexual boredom and how to bring thrill and excitement back into your relationship. https://sexologypodcast.com/masterclass     Find Marci Liroff Online  https://www.marciliroff.com       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

14 Syys 202142min

Welcome to episode 246 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Chantal Cousineau (she/her) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Chantal's role as an intimacy coordinator, how sexual assault leads to issues of trauma and looking at new practices that are coming onto sets to help prevent these issues.    Chantal Cousineau (she/her) was born in Canada. Raised in a large and loving French-Canadian family, she spent her childhood training tirelessly to become a Tae Kwon-Do champion. Achieving her first-degree black belt at the age of 15, she quickly dominated competitions, winning gold at the Canadian and North American Championships. She started modelling at the age of 17 and soon landed before the lens of famed photographers shooting for Abercrombie & Fitch, Aveda, Italian Vogue, Elle, Cosmopolitan, Roots, and many more. She moved to Los Angeles twenty years ago and has since carved out a successful career as an actor shooting television commercials.     She has become a grounded voice within the advocacy community, helping 1,300+ survivors of sexual harassment, assault, and abuse share their #MeToo experiences since 2017. A longtime member of SAG-AFTRA, Chantal serves on several union committees to consult on ways the industry can expand its best practices to move closer towards equal treatment, pay parity, representation, and improving safety standards on sets. Chantal has combined her many years of experience as a performer with her survivor advocacy work to pivot to her new career as an intimacy coordinator.  Her most recent intimacy coordinator credits include This Is Us (NBC), The Terminal List (Amazon), and the independent feature film Sharp Stick, which was directed by Lena Dunham.      Chantal is a dual citizen of Canada and the US and speaks both French and English fluently.    In this episode, you will hear:     Looking into Chantal’s role as an intimacy coordination and what it entails   How Chantal became intimacy coordinator and the journey that led her to this role  Analyzing the dynamic of an intimacy coordinator has with other people on set  How sexual assault leads to issues of trauma   How Chantal had a Me-Too experience   The importance of self-care   How many victims of sexual assault do not report it to the police   The ways in which Chantal holds stories of sexual assault for victims   Looking at ways in which young actresses are vulnerable to issues of sexual assault  New practices that are coming onto sets to help prevent these issues    Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Use the link below to get 10%  of your first month of online therapy with BetterHelp:  https://www.betterhelp.com/sexologypodcast       Find Chantal Cousineau Online  https://www.intimacyprofessionalsassociation.com   Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/free-erotica/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 Syys 202143min

Welcome to episode 245 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Soum Rakshit to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss sex toys, how Dr. Soum Rakshit transitioned from electrical engineering to co-founding MysteryVibe, what goes into the design of a sex toy and how you can communicate to your partner that you want to incorporate sex toys into your sex life.    Dr. Soum Rakshit is the Co-Founder & CEO of award-winning sexual health company, MysteryVibe. Their mission is to make sexual health accessible to all — across all ages, genders & orientations.     From his research & experiences over the past 2 decades, Soumyadip deeply understands that a major challenge in most people’s lives is keeping the ‘mystery’ alive in a long term relationship. This is especially the case after major life events like childbirth, menopause, cancer treatment or surgery.     That’s why he decided to combine his defence electronics expertise with medical experts to create devices that address major sexual health issues like ED, dryness & pain during intercourse. At the same time, working closely with sexual health experts, his team has been at the forefront of researching & developing content that act as catalysts for people to start much-needed conversations to reignite their sex life.     In his role as CEO of MysteryVibe, he focuses on pushing the boundaries on R&D, customer experience and supporting their long- term goal of making sexual health an integral part of our overall health. Soumyadip passionately believes that by empowering people with actionable knowledge & purposeful innovation is the way to make this happen.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Soum Rakshit transitioned from electrical engineering to co-founding MysteryVibe  Ways to keep sex and mystery in the bedroom after big life events; kids, marriage etc  The public’s perception of sexual health companies in 2021   Why more investors are investing in sexual health companies   Looking at what goes into the design of a sex toy   Communicating to your partner you want to incorporate sex toys into your sex life  Using complex technology to create simple solutions for people   Looking at Pleasure Finder and how you can use it   Looking at some of Dr. Soum Rakshit’s favourite sex toys     Find Dr. Soum Rakshit Online  https://mysteryvibe.com     Crescendo from MysteryVibe    Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/free-erotica/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

31 Elo 202140min

Welcome to episode 244 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Paul Yong to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss pain after orgasms, the effects of endometriosis and the relationship between hormones and testosterone around this issue.     Dr. Paul Yong (MD, PhD, FRCSC) is a Gynaecologist at the BC Women’s Centre for Pelvic Pain & Endometriosis and directs the Research Program at the BC Women’s Centre for Pelvic Pain & Endometriosis. Dr. Yong’s clinical practice is focused on pelvic pain, with a particular interest in endometriosis, painful periods, sexual pain, co-existing bladder and bowel problems, and pain related to the musculoskeletal system.     His clinical research interests are in endometriosis and pelvic pain, and his translational research interests include bio-banking of endometriosis, gene sequencing in endometriosis, and investigating nerve formation in the pelvis as a cause of pain. Dr. Yong is also involved in teaching and is Assistant Professor in the UBC Department of Obstetrics & Gynaecology, Division of Gynaecologic Specialties.    In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at pain post orgasm   How common is it to have pain after orgasms?  Is this more prevalent in men or women?  Looking at endometriosis  How long does pain usually last for people experiencing pain post orgasm?  Recommendations for those struggling with this  Looking at treatments for endometriosis  Can endometriosis turn into a chronic pain?  Recommendations for women experiencing pain during intercourse   The relationship between hormones and testosterone around these issues       Find Dr. Paul Yong Online  https://yonglab.med.ubc.ca     Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/erotic-awakening/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

24 Elo 202126min

Welcome to episode 243 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Kate Balestrieri to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss revenge porn, safety measures we might be able to take to protect ourselves, looking at the psychological profile of people leaking sexual images and the importance of parents to talk to their kids about this issue.    Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., CSAT-S, is a Licensed Psychologist (Clinical and Forensic) in CA, FL and IL. She is a Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – Supervisor, and PACT II trained couples’ therapist. Dr. Balestrieri earned her Doctorate of Clinical Psychology from the Illinois School of Professional Psychology, Chicago, and completed her Post-Doctoral Fellowship though the Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine with a concentration in Forensic Psychology. In over 14 years of clinical experience, she has conducted clinical and forensic evaluations, provided expert witness testimony in court, and been a treatment provider in clinical, forensic, and correctional settings.     The Founder of Modern Intimacy and Co-Founder of Triune Therapy Group, Dr. Balestrieri is a passionate advocate for mental health, relational and sexual health and wellness. In her private practice, Dr. Balestrieri works with adults, individuals and couples, primarily around treating trauma, substance abuse and addiction, intimacy disorders (sex/love addiction and sexual dysfunction), eating disorders and body image issues, bipolar disorder, Posttraumatic Stress disorder, depression, and anxiety. She also conducts comprehensive personality assessments, differential diagnosis evaluations, and screenings for the presence of alcohol/drug addiction, compulsive relationship behavior, and other psychosexual evaluations.     Throughout her work, Dr. Balestrieri focuses on helping people build resilience and recovery from what ails them to move from a position of pain or discomfort to one of thriving, holistically in their lives. In that effort, Dr. Balestrieri works with individuals astutely to help mitigate anger management concerns, establish healthy boundaries, build effective communication strategies, and improve relationship patterns.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Kate became interested in the sexuality field   Looking around the issues that lead to revenge porn   How can we protect ourselves from revenge porn?  Communicating with your partner about what happens to photos, videos etc  Looking at the psychological profile of people leaking sexual images   How many victims of revenge porn don’t come forward and report it   Is narcissism a character trait of someone leaking images?  Safety measures we might be able to take, E.G using secure apps  Looking at how authorities around the world are putting in legislation to deal with revenge porn   The importance of parents to talk to their kids about this issue   Understanding the consequences of leaking sexual images     Find Dr. Kate Balestrieri Online  https://www.modernintimacy.com     Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/erotic-awakening/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

17 Elo 202131min

Welcome to episode 242 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Diane Gleim to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss whether it's bad to watch porn, the emergence of ethical porn, how many people fantasize about sex with multiple people, and the relationship between porn and masturbation.    Diane Gleim is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor practicing in northern California. Her clients include anyone with a sexual concern: individuals and couples ages 18-80 and beyond, and the LGBTQ+, kinky, and poly populations. She treats the many diverse issues related to sexual identity, sexual expression, sexual behavior, and sexual relationships.     In addition to her private practice, Diane’s work also includes training mental health professionals on a variety of topics related to sex and therapy and writing the blog Underneath the Sheets on Psychology Today’s website. She has been voted Sonoma County’s Best Sex Therapist for 4 years. Finally, Diane has appeared in various media including podcasts, her local media publications, and in Mel Magazine, The Buzz by Pure Romance, Quartz, and CNN.com.    In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the definition of porn   The ambiguous areas of porn   Analyzing the “suspension of disbelief”   How can we create piece of mind for ourselves when consuming porn?   Looking at the emergence of ethical porn   The contributing factors behind people reacting negatively to porn   Understanding it’s ok to like different types of porn   How many people fantasize about sex with multiple people   Communicating your porn consumption to your partner   The relationship between porn and masturbation   Why robust arguments in a relationship can be healthy long term         Find Diane Gleim Online  https://www.dianegleimmft.com     Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/erotic-awakening/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

10 Elo 202128min

Welcome to episode 241 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the relationship between pleasure and pornography, how our erotic template fits into porn and analyzing the negative connotations that usually come with porn.    Alan McKee is a Professor in Digital and Social Media in the Faculty of Arts and Social Sciences at UTS. He is an expert on entertainment and healthy sexual development. He has published on healthy sexual development, and entertainment education for healthy sexuality in journals including the New Media and Society, Archives of Sexual Behavior, the International Journal of Sexual Health, the Journal of Sex Research and Sex Education.    Katerina Litsou is a senior research assistant and a doctoral researcher at the University of Southampton. She has a bachelor of psychology and a master of sexology. Her current research focuses on female sexuality and the use of pornography.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Alan & Katerina became interested in this field  How porn can be a feminist political act   Looking at the data from various studies on porn  How is porn defined in the research?  Analyzing the negative connotations that usually come with porn   The relationship between healthy masturbation and porn   The importance of transparency and consent   Looking at the correlation between pleasure and porn   How many women feel porn isn’t politically correct   Looking at how our erotic template fits into porn   Analyzing the pros and cons of amateur porn         Find Alan McKee Online  https://twitter.com/profalanmckee     Find Katerina Litsou Online  https://twitter.com/kleechou     Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/free-erotica     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

3 Elo 202142min