Borderline Personality: DBT and Working with Self-Hatred with Dr. Blaise Aguirre

We all want to build good habits, but doing so is often easier said than done. Charles Duhigg joins the podcast to help us learn how to do just that. About Our Guest: Charles is the author of The Power of Habit, a classic bestseller about the science of habit formation in our lives, companies and societies, and Smarter Faster Better, which focuses on the science of productivity. He was a reporter at the New York Times for a decade, where he was part of a team that won a  Pulitzer prize for explanatory reporting in 2013. If you'd like to hear more from Charles, you can listen to his wonderful podcast How To! with Charles Duhigg. New Sponsor: Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!  Key Topics: 01:19: What got you into the study of habits? 03:30: How can we change our habits? 11:56: Is there a difference between how we change internal habits vs. external ones? 18:40: You've been around a lot of very happy, successful people. You've also been around a lot of very successful people who aren't happy. What are the key differences between the two groups?  25:13: A message to your younger self. From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need.  Hardwire lasting change into your mind and heart in just a few minutes a day  with Dr. Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price! Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Helmi 202033min

In our important relationships at home and at work, we need to respect the needs of others while also sticking up for our own. Dr. Daniel Ellenberg joins us today to explore how we can grow the lasting inner resources that allow us to do just that, and ultimately become both “friendly” and “fearless.” About Our Guest: Daniel has been a practicing marriage and family therapist for over 30 years, and is the co-founder of Relationships That Work, and the founder and director of Strength With Heart men’s groups. New Sponsor: Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!  Key Topics: 2:25: What does it mean to be friendly and fearless. 5:05: “Fear less.” 6:20: Conflating social and physical fear. 9:25: Bringing more awareness into interpersonal conflict. 11:45: Increasing the space between stimulus and response.  13:35: Inter- vs. Intra-personal skills. 15:00: Finding the pause.  19:50: Finding sensitivity, kindness, and warmth in a conflict.  22:15: Loving at will.  24:00: Men, anger, and vulnerability. 28:30: Truly showing interest in others.  31:20: Giving the gift of not fearing others. 33:00: Changing our self-concept. 40:50: A message to our younger self.  From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need.  Hardwire lasting change into your mind and heart in just a few minutes a day  with Dr. Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price! Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Helmi 202049min

There are some emotions that are so deeply tied to the human experience that it’s impossible to avoid them. One of these is grief, which we have yet to discuss in detail on the podcast. On this episode we’re changing that, and have the pleasure of welcoming Dr. Joanne Cacciatore to the podcast to explore how we can bear the unbearable, and heal the trauma associated with grief. As with all of our episodes associated with traumatic experiences, please be kind to yourself. Be aware that the material explored here includes descriptions of traumatic events - including bereavement. Dr. Cacciatore is an Associate professor at Arizona State University and founder of the MISS foundation, a volunteer based organization providing counseling, advocacy, research, and education services to families experiencing the death of a child. Dr. Cacciatore is also the author of Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief. Her research has been published in a number of peer reviewed journals, and she’s been featured in the New York Times, Boston Globe, CNN, NPR, and the Los Angeles Times. If you’d like to support the MISS Foundation, you can make donations to their Selah Carefarm here. Dr. Cacciatore and the MISS Foundation offer a variety of wonderful resources, including: Grief resources and self-help guides. An online course to help individuals through their traumatic grief. Clinical support for traumatic grief, or to become a CBC provider. Connect with the show: Support us on Patreon! Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 03:30: Joanne's journey.  11:39: How can we accept and make space for our positive moments even during times of intense suffering? 16:10: Developing resources to cope with challenging emotions. 17:48: Ways to bear the unbearable.  24:42: Trauma and grief.  34:59: Working with anger.  41:02: If you could speak to a younger version of yourself, what would you say? From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Helmi 202045min

On this short episode, Dr. Shauna Shapiro shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being.   Shauna's newest book Good Morning, I Love You: Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Practices to Rewire Your Brain for Calm, Clarity, and Joy is now available. If you'd like to continue to receive these Just One Thing episodes, you can now support the podcast on Patreon! Follow the link to learn more and sign up.  From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need.  Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

31 Tammi 20203min

Dr. Shauna Shapiro, clinical psychologist, author and internationally recognized expert in mindfulness and self-compassion, joins Rick to discuss how we can grow and include compassion alongside mindfulness. About Our Guest: Dr. Shapiro is a professor at Santa Clara University and has published over 150 papers and three critically acclaimed books, translated into 16 languages. Her TEDx Talk, The Power of Mindfulness, has been viewed over a million times. Her newest book Good Morning, I Love You: Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Practices to Rewire Your Brain for Calm, Clarity, and Joy is now available. Follow these links to find Shauna's Website l Instagram l Facebook From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need.  Hardwire lasting change into your mind and heart in just a few minutes a day  with Dr. Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price! Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Key Topics: 07:34: Shauna's personal story. 12:26: Strengths and traits that support mindfulness. 14:21: The attitudes we should build. 21:32: “Good morning, I love you.”. 23:31: A practice of mindfulness. 28:19: Working through self-criticism.  32:56: What can people do practically if they're feeling helpless about the state of the world? 36:59: Applying mindfulness in the day-to-day. 41:06: How do you keep growing every day? 43:16: A message to your younger self Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

27 Tammi 202047min

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode Dr. Kelly McGonigal shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being. From Dr. Hanson:  The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need.  If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Tammi 20202min

We all know that exercise is good for us, but that doesn't always make it easy to do. Dr. Kelly McGonigal joins Dr. Hanson and Forrest to share some of the surprising benefits of activity, and how to find ease and joy in movement. About Our Guest: Dr. McGonigal is a health psychologist, lecturer at Stanford University, and award-winning science writer.  She is the author of several wonderful books, including the international bestseller The Willpower Instinct, The Upside of Stress, and her newest book The Joy of Movement: How exercise helps us find happiness, hope, connection, and courage. Today we explore: How movement draws us into social connection. The lasting biological benefits of any movement practice. How to access willpower and align with our values. From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need.  Hardwire lasting change into your mind and heart in just a few minutes a day  with Dr. Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price! Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:13: Movement as a cure for loneliness. 12:48: How can movement help us express agency? 18:40: Moving past blocks around exercise. 23:31: Why is it that people tend to struggle with sticking with exercise, and what can we do about it? 28:56: How can we work toward success? 33:50: How can people work with their internal inhibitions related to movement? 38:26: Bringing conscious movement to the rest of our day. 43:33: A message to your younger self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

20 Tammi 202049min

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode Jack Kornfield shares the most important thing he does, each day, for his own well-being. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes From Dr. Hanson:  The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need.  If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Tammi 20202min