Borderline Personality: DBT and Working with Self-Hatred with Dr. Blaise Aguirre

Dr. Hanson and Forrest continue their series on the central question “Who Am I” by exploring subjects related to the development of fear, wariness, and worry in our often anxious brains. Timestamps: 2:00: Threat, aversion, inhibition, wariness, and anxiety. 6:50: The relationship between wariness and anxiety. 8:20: Anxious states vs. anxiety as a trait. 11:30: Is anxiety genetic? 12:20: Why is there variation in levels of anxiety? 17:40: Can we develop an anxious temperament over time? 21:30: Anxious in some situations but not in others. 24:40: Moving without fear. 27:30: Being afraid of not feeling afraid. 29:20: What is anxiety the shadow of? 35:30: Recap Sign-up for Dr. Hanson's new monthly meditation program here. Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price: https://bit.ly/2NEnVU3 Connect with the show: Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Tammi 201939min

Forrest and Lori Deschene, founder of TinyBuddha.com, explore how we can learn to manage paralyzing experiences of anxiety and worry. This includes focusing on what you can control, limiting responsibility to a comfortable level, and developing comfort with uncertainty. Learn more about the Worry Journal and purchase your copy here. Sponsor Message: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Timestamps: 2:30: What was the inspiration behind Tiny Buddha?5:30: Has engaging with self-help made you personally happier?7:45: Worrying about being enough.12:10: Focusing on what you can control14:00: Recognizing your own strength.15:25: Using creative activities.18:20: Returning to childlike joy.21:45: Limiting responsibility to a comfortable level.26:00: Acknowledging your everyday accomplishments.27:30: Developing comfort with uncertainty.32:00: Being honest with yourself.34:00: Recap If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Tammi 201936min

Dr. Hanson and Forrest begin a new series of episodes dedicated to a simple question: Who am I? To explore this big question, they start by going into what creates our individual variation in personality and temperament, how we’re impacted by our genes and environment, the ups and downs of personality typing, and just how in control of our own nature we really are. Sponsor Message: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Timestamps: 2:20: Where does personality come from? 5:25: Nature and nurture. 14:30: What can we really control? 19:45: Why we group people. 24:00 Personality typing. 31:00: Expanding the circle of your comfort 35:00: Stereotype threat. 38:30: The village in the mind. 40:00: Recap If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Tammi 201942min

It’s easy for our New Year's aspirations and goals to come wrapped in a package of self-criticism. To help fight that, Dr. Rick Hanson is joined by Dr. Tara Brach for this special episode. Rick and Tara explore the importance of self-caring how we can grow this critical resource inside ourselves, and why it’s not selfish to be on your own side. If you'd like to learn more about The Foundations of Well Being, follow this link. Timestamps: 3:00: The “sweet spot” of personal growth. 6:45: Why should we open to painful experiences? 10:15: A personal story of self-caring. 14:00: The “near enemies” of self-caring. 16:40: How can we feel the difference between authentic self-caring and imposter emotions? 19:00: Self-caring and wholeness of the self. 21:35: Self-caring without narcissism. 25:55: Facing our needs. 29:30: A practice of self-compassion. 38:35: Seeing through the eyes of another. Sign-up for Dr. Hanson's new monthly meditation program here. Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price: https://bit.ly/2NEnVU3 Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Tammi 201941min

Today's episode focuses on getting the most out of your New Year's Resolutions! Sponsor Message: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Timestamps: 0:45: Do you make resolutions? 2:30: A process for new resolutions. 4:00: Focused goal setting. 6:10: Good crowds out great. 7:10: Be aware of how setting resolutions makes you feel. 8:30: Pitfalls around resolutions. 12:05: Process vs. outcome. 13:20: Setting goals for love, work, and play. 15:20: The power of little numbers. 19:15: Sticking with resolutions. 21:30: Focusing on what you can control. 23:30: Means and ends. 27:15: Affective forecasting. 29:45: Big picture ends and actionable means. 33:15: Focusing on the present moment. 36:00: Removing negative influences. The material in this podcast comes in large part from our book Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness. If you like the podcast, you'll love the book! If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

31 Joulu 201839min

Dr. Hanson and Forrest conclude their yearlong journey through the 12 strengths with a final episode dedicated to opening our hearts to all beings. If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price. Sponsor Message: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes The material in this podcast comes in large part from our book Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness. If you like the podcast, you'll love the book! Timestamps: 1:30: What does “widening the circle of us” mean? 5:00: The evolution of prejudice. 6:30: What are the benefits to us of widening the circle? 12:30: How can we tell if we’re being discriminatory? 18:30: What can we do to expand the circle of us? 27:10: Key takeaways from the last year. 37:15: Recap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Joulu 201839min

In the second of our two episodes dedicated to Forgiveness, Dr. Hanson and Forrest explore the tender territory of forgiving yourself.  If you'd like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's online program The Foundations of Well Being, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL10 for 10% off the purchase price. Sponsor Message: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes The material in this podcast comes in large part from our book Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness. If you like the podcast, you'll love the book! Timestamps: 0:45: Why do some people struggle to forgive themselves? 2:30: Why it’s good to forgive yourself. 4:00: Taking maximum reasonable responsibility. 7:15: Feeling appropriate remorse. 11:05: Making amends. 15:20: Seeing the larger causes. 17:15: The balance between taking full responsibility and seeing larger causes. 20:40: Asking for forgiveness. 22:05: Offering forgiveness to yourself. 24:40: Recap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Joulu 201826min

Dr. Hanson and Forrest explore one of the most important, and challenging, ways we can give to other people: Forgiveness.  If you'd like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's online program The Foundations of Well Being, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL10 for 10% off the purchase price. Sponsor Message: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes The material in this podcast comes in large part from our book Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness. If you like the podcast, you'll love the book! Timestamps: 0:50: What are the two kinds of forgiveness? 2:20: The challenges of forgiveness. 7:10: The real goal of disentangled forgiveness. 8:10: What needs to happen before we disentangle? 11:10: Creating a coherent internal narrative. 14:45: Using forgiveness as a balm to our wounds. 15:30: Suggestions for disentangling. 21:40: How can we know when it’s appropriate to extend a full pardon? 26:45: Remembrance and responsibility. 28:15: A story of full-pardon forgiveness. 31:50: Taking a wide view. 34:15: Recap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Joulu 201836min