114: Q&A - arousal drop after Clit Os, disgust when touching yourself, and getting back into intimacy after 10 months
Yes, please...11 Joulu 2025

114: Q&A - arousal drop after Clit Os, disgust when touching yourself, and getting back into intimacy after 10 months

In this episode, I answer three powerful questions from my community about orgasms, disgust in self-touch, and how to find your way back to sex after a long dry spell in a relationship. We explore the refractory period after clitoral orgasm, how to “edge” your pleasure to expand into vaginal orgasms, what’s really behind feeling icky or nauseous when you touch your body, and how to reconnect intimately with your partner when sex has felt clunky or disappointing.

In this episode:

  • Why pleasure is a choice and how attention grows desire

  • The refractory period after clitoral orgasm and what to do about it

  • Using edging to expand pleasure and support vaginal orgasms

  • Disgust and nausea during self-touch as a protective, learned response

  • Somatic and emotional tools for healing shame and body aversion

  • Rebuilding sexual connection with your partner after months without intimacy

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